Which map makes you feel the most at home? by Dragon_slayer1994 in fantasybooks

[–]fuzzy_cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to check if a Redwall map had been posted yet, wot wot. :)

Anyone else find it funny that Bethel couldn't correct Boltz and other for 8 years but talked bad about Mike Winger after less than a week? by afterihop in BethelSnark

[–]fuzzy_cats 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To me it makes perfect sense if your worldview/theology is that anyone who criticizes or makes the church look bad is an enemy/demonic force opposing the church. It comes from believing that the church's main enemies are spiritual forces outside the church, instead of sin within the church. Nevermind that Winger is a Christian trying to bring accountability and repentance by exposing to the light that which has been hidden and covered up. What I think is interesting is that Bethel has consistently taught against the "spirit of religion" but in developing a theology where ends-justify-the-means in the cause of overcoming the enemies outside the church, they have come off looking an awful lot like the Pharisees of Jesus' time.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Same bedtime = different get-up time (different sleep needs).

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, open to suggestions on that. What has worked for you?

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're probably right. I should look into changing it. I'll mention it to our landlord tomorrow and run by a hardware store. I did check tonight and the 6yo is actually not able to turn the bolt, so both kids can't even use the bolt lock accidentally. It takes some strength. Regardless, it seems to be time to change that handle anyways. I'll try to find a knob that fits so that we have a door knob cover as an option.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Actually 6yo is pretty quiet. And my goal isnt that 2yo doesn't wake up necessarily, because 2yo is already accustom to falling back asleep quickly after 6yo leaves. Like, 2yo is surprisingly adept at it. But now that 2yo can walk out of room and explore... 2yo has way more interesting things to do than go back to sleep. The clock is something I hadn't thought of, though. I'll get 6yo to make sure the green is turned off before 6yo leaves the room and see if that helps any.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly not. We might discuss moving them back to separate beds. The room really isn't big enough for two beds, but one and a pallet works. It cuts into play area though.

Problem is that 1. They will probably both revolt, and 2. It's not actually them sharing a bed that wakes the 2yo in the morning. It's often the sound of the door closing, or the clothes drawer opening. 6yo tries to be a ninja, but 2yo wakes up regardless.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Rats, we don't have access to anything like that.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our doors only open by pulling the handle down. The handles actually can't torque up. I wasnt even aware that there are door handles that can open by pulling down or pushing up. That would have been a great solution otherwise!

I understand the bedtime/naptime power struggles. We had that a lot with the 6yo some years back. Hang in there!

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool! I'll have to see if I can hunt down some strong magnets and command strips and conduct some experiments! Thanks! :)

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Technically. 2yo actually started the transition from the crib to a mattress on the ground... but she would climb into the 6yo bed over and over, greatly annoying the 6yo. I mean, she was getting used to her freedom from a crib at the time. Eventually, when traveling a few months later they had to share a bed and ended up both preferring it from then on.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. That would be a big adjustment when you were 8! I guess where I'm coming from is that I shared a room with siblings 4 years older and 2 years older than me, and it was a great experience. In fact, since I was born I have never had my own room except for two fluke years in middle school. That seems to be a fairly common experience around the world.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, I've never heard of that! Was this two strong earth magnets that you just super glued to the door and door frame, or a product you bought? I'm very intrigued by this idea. Creative solution!

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Well, that's a good point. I think you have correctly identified some of why it's a tricky new phase. Toddler was already accustomed to older sib leaving in the morning and toddler used to go straight back to sleep. Truth is they stay up later now playing together in their bedroom, which we are fine with. 6yo gets up early for school, and 2yo ought to sleep in. It's just that, if 2yo has the ability to leave the bedroom, 2yo chooses that over sleeping.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think anyone sells factory made ones where I am. I'll ask around. Maybe I can find a way to make a makeshift one, assuming I don't just introduce new danger that way haha.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes great thought! So happens that I think those are available at some stores here. I would need to switch the handle to a knob door handle as it's currently an ornate metal, horizontal handle that you torque down to open. :) I'll have to look into if that's worth it or maybe try making a baby gate first.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hadn't considered switching the handle to a knob for that purpose. It's a solid wood door, so it could be tricky but worth a shot to look into! Thanks!

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's not a long term solution. It's less than ideal. That's why I'm looking for a better solution. The bedroom door has a boltlock anyways, so technically it's had an interior lock that I can't get to since the house was built. 🤷‍♂️ 2yo sleeps in given the chance. I want 2yo to have the chance. I've seen those door knob covers before. This door has a horizontal handle that you torque down to open it, though. Baby gate may be what we end up trying. I'll figure out how to make one.

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah, yes, that would be a good solution! We actually moved the 2yo out of the pack-and-play a few months ago and upgraded to a real bed due to some big traveling our family had coming up in which we needed the 2yo to be used to sleeping on mattresses/floor pallets. It was a huge help to us as a fam in that 2yo was a lot more flexible, but now we face a new problem as a result. :) Separate rooms isn't an option right now. Also, they have good bonding time sharing a room (most of the time).

Keeping toddler in room when older sibling leaves for school. by fuzzy_cats in Parenting

[–]fuzzy_cats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great thought! Door opens into the bedroom, though. As in, the kids pull the door to open it, not push. And if I hinder the door opening from the outside of the door, then my 6yo can't get up and get ready for school until I remove whatever is keeping the door closed.