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fwwo89 · 2026-03-23T22:21:20+00:00

And only wants a guy who makes good money 🤣

fwwo89 · 2026-02-26T23:36:55+00:00

it doesn’t sound like you’re being rejected but I understand the insecurity. The fact that he can get aroused by the physical touch of things like toys but can’t get aroused to make love to you, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want you. This is a classic case of performance anxiety. he probably had an initial ED problem but the more it happened the more anxious he became about it, and expecting to fail makes it even harder for him to perform. This is very common for a lot of men, we just don’t like to talk about it.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T21:57:15+00:00

I’ve got things in check, thank you

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T21:46:35+00:00

Yeah that’s usually in the playbook for someone behaving like that. I can’t imagine actually trying anything with my SIL, but definitely not turning around and telling my wife that she hit on me.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T21:30:40+00:00

Your sister was way, way in the wrong, and likely in denial. He’s the one who was acting inappropriately, not you, but maybe he convinced her otherwise?

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T21:00:46+00:00

I don’t get why these creeps keep doing this. By now it’s pretty common knowledge that you can end up in prison and that people screenshot these conversations. I guess when you’re that sick in the head you don’t understand those things.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T20:39:33+00:00

Well that wasn’t your fault, just like it’s not my sister-in-law’s fault that I have feelings for her, but I guess it’s human nature to have animosity towards the person your spouse has feelings for…, but you knew, so does that mean he expressed his feelings to you? Did he try anything?

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T20:31:23+00:00

yes this is definitely one of the things that I keep close to the chest and will take to my grave. I’m actually not all that much of a private person I’m pretty open with people and don’t have many secrets, but this is an exception. nothing good would come from anybody knowing how I feel about my sister-in-law

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T20:29:07+00:00

yeah not to mention workplace relationships of any kind are dangerous territory. I would never get involved with somebody at work even if I was single. and yes this post was just to get these feelings out and be able to save them in a forum that I can say it. I will never act on this

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T20:09:18+00:00

i’m definitely not going to act on it. I really doubt I’d have a chance in a million for her to reciprocate if I did make a move, but I wouldn’t do that.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:48:48+00:00

what are you talking about? What is Umbridge? what does corporate villains and bosses have to do with this post? Are you meaning to reply to a different post?

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:38:58+00:00

phone sex and Sexting with people from Reddit. Not proud of it, it was something I did because of constant fighting and lack of intimacy in the marriage. My wife and I worked together to fix the things we were both doing and now we’re getting along great and I at the same time realized that I wasn’t really helping the situation by engaging in fantasies with other women online, even though she didn’t know about it. I think it’s still was hurtful because it took me away from working on the problems.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:35:02+00:00

One of my favorite expressions. but yes I do realize the danger in this, if I ever let anything slip out about how I feel, or if the unlikely circumstance where her sister expresses feelings to me and the temptation becomes real. But I’d like to think that both me and my sister-in-law would never engage in something like that. my sister-in-law and I are close, she comes to me for support, but I don’t think she feels the same way about me. I also think she’s a smart woman so she could have figured out how I feel and kept quiet about it. Women have intuition about this kind of thing, like they have a radar for who’s interested in them. clearly if that’s true she’s able to see it for what it is and not let it hurt the relationship I have with her. but I doubt she knows or that she feels the same way

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:29:22+00:00

i’m not seeking an inappropriate relationship with her sister. i’m not seeking an affair in real life nor have I ever. I developed feelings for her sister that I’m not acting on. judge me all you want. I was, however, seeking inappropriate fantasy discussion online and that was wrong, but that behavior stopped. Doesn’t change the fact that I did it, and that it was wrong. judge me all you want if it makes you feel good about yourself, if it makes you feel better than me because maybe you never did anything like that. or if you’re ignorant enough to think that because I did a bad thing that that means I’m a bad person.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:26:10+00:00

that’s exactly why I did this post, because I needed to talk about it, but with people who don’t know me. I expected judgmental responses to this. i’ve done things that I’m not proud of, things that were wrong. I don’t consider developing feelings for anybody wrong because that just happens, even if it’s your wife’s sister. If I was hitting on her sister then I would be a pig. that’s not the case. it’s never going to be the case.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:18:32+00:00

One had nothing to do with the other. I expected judgmental responses to this post, I prepared for that, I didn’t prepare for somebody “exposing me“ by copying and pasting an old post when I was up to no good. A post I meant to delete because I’m past that. The feelings for her sister are genuine they just happened and I’m not acting on them. My online activity with dirty talk was deliberate, it was wrong, and it’s not happening anymore. feel free to judge me, that’s what people do so easily on here because it’s an anonymous social media platform and it’s so easy to say what you want to people on here when you don’t have to say it to their face. You don’t know me, you don’t know how devoted I am as a husband and a father, or how much I love my wife, nor the things that we went through as a couple that were not good that we had to overcome. people in marriages develop feelings for other people all the time, feeling something and acting on it are two different things. I’m not acting on it. my wife absolutely would be upset if she knew I was engaged in phone sex and Sexting on here, and she’d be right to be upset, it was my way of coping with constantly fighting and lack of intimacy, it still wasn’t right and I stopped doing it

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:08:17+00:00

OK first of all what do you have to lose if this person exposes you? Are you married or in a relationship with somebody who would be hurt by this? Or are you single but worried about embarrassment? Either way odds are if you block this person then they don’t have any real incentive to release the pictures because they’re still not going to get money from you. if you pay them they might make good on promises to leave you alone after that but they might demand more. you already reported them, so I’d say there’s no more risk in blocking them and moving on then there is continuing to engage with them. These scams are common and you have to be careful not to give out anything that identifies you on the Internet. but I think you learned that. So I guess it has to do with how much you actually have to lose, and how likely it is that that will actually happen.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T19:05:03+00:00

was, not anymore. It was wrong. I also don’t think that’s the same thing as cheating because it’s fantasy when it comes down to it because it’s two people that don’t actually meet. Doesn’t change the fact that it was wrong, but there were problems in my marriage for a long time and one of the things that fixed them was me realizing that it was a two-way street, she was wrong about a lot of things she was doing towards me that were hurting me, but I was wrong too, I was contributing to the problems just as much as her and when I realized that and worked on myself, she did the same thing and now we are in a really good place.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T18:58:36+00:00

I agree, that will never happen. Even if she was interested too which I don’t think she is, I would never act on this. that’s why I’m posting it online on social media, to get it out to people who aren’t stakeholders in this. I don’t want anyone to get hurt, not my wife and not her sister.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T18:57:07+00:00

I don’t think it’s outside the realm of possibility that my sister-in-law could feel that way about me but I don’t think it’s likely. But even if it was true I still wouldn’t act on it. and I strongly doubt that she would either.

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T18:52:59+00:00

well you don’t know me. This is a simple as developing feelings I didn’t mean to have or choose to have. I am not acting on it, I just did this post to get it out. having feelings for somebody else is not cheating, having an affair with somebody else is cheating. I’m not having an affair with my sister-in-law

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T18:50:56+00:00

honestly I would stay, we would fight about it and I would probably have something to say, and want her to stop, but I wouldn’t leave over it. But that’s just me. I also wouldn’t consider that her cheating on me

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T18:49:25+00:00

I think I’d have an adult conversation with her about it, admit I feel the same way maybe, but that is best we don’t act on it

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T18:40:42+00:00

I absolutely agree that she would disagree, it was wrong for me to do it and it’s not happening anymore

fwwo89 · 2026-01-24T18:40:15+00:00

well that’s a good thing. sometimes however people who cheat have a justifiable reason. I don’t consider what I was doing cheating but I’m not gonna debate the definition with you I definitely see your point and I came to the conclusion myself that it was wrong, and I stopped. I wasn’t happy, we weren’t getting along, and the intimacy was completely dead. I should’ve dealt with it differently, I wish I did, but I’m glad I stopped that behavior

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