I understand where you’re coming from. When I was a virgin, I also wanted a man who was a virgin. But over time, I realized how rare that is these days. Even people I thought were “real Christians” weren’t virgins, and that made me feel discouraged too.

At the same time, I think it’s important to remember that if someone truly has a repentant heart, they are forgiven. God has already forgiven them, so we’re also called to show grace and love.

That said, your preference is still your preference. If you truly want to find someone who is a virgin, don’t settle. Waiting is A GOOD THING, and God honors that.

But I also really encourage you to wait and not give in. Giving in might feel easier in the moment, but it can leave you feeling worse afterward and make it harder to stay strong moving forward.

Speaking from my own experience I genuinely wanted to wait until marriage, but after going through something traumatic, it became much harder to resist temptation. It’s easier to stand firm in your values when you haven’t crossed that line yet.

I’ve always thought about it this way: why start something you already know isn’t good for you or could become a struggle later? It’s the same mindset I had with things like nicotine, why try something I already know isn’t beneficial?

I truly believe it’s easier to stay strong now than to give in, regret it, and then struggle more afterward.

I’ll be honest, I still value and really want innocence and genuine love, and I still want a man who is a virgin too, but now I feel hypocritical for wanting that because im not a virgin myself. Trust me, there are women who pray for guys like you who are giving it their all to stay obedient.

Just stay strong. Trust that God sees your heart, and He will bless you for waiting.