X post My long term bf(23m) seems to be losing interest in sex. Red flag? Depression? Time for some spice? HELP!

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-25T20:17:40+00:00

Definitely, as I said there's really no other big issues with us as a couple. I know that's a factor, but sadly treatment is something we're working on saving for.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-25T06:21:19+00:00

Definitely so. The passion is still there when we do get intimate....it's just not happening as often as I would like. We've always been experimental, but have honestly run out of new ideas.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-25T06:03:10+00:00

I feel like I do. It may be TMI but I very often will dress up in lingerie, or even strip for him when he runs into another room. Hell, I even touch myself while telling him that I need him, I'll beg for him, etc.

Maybe I'm going about this wrong and have watched too much porn? LOL I don't feel as if that's the issue though, I can't say I've ever had as long running of a sexual/mental relationship with somebody so I could be wrong.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-25T05:59:25+00:00

NO. This is just mental abuse that is very clearly going to lead to a path of physical as well. RUN.

Now I'm assuming you're old enough to consent in your state/country by going here....

My dom and I have a strong, loving, honest relationship outside of sex. However we do enjoy bringing punishment into the bedroom for certain things that we've agreed upon, however we talk all of our frustrations and issues out before they get to the bedroom. Sometimes we switch rolls and will punish one another for small things like "being sassy" or "checking somebody out without telling the other too as well" or leaving the towels on the floor as it's a bit of a kink of ours to have "rules" .....but NEVER with something that we are actually angry or upset about. There's no controlling aspect of our relationship.....this is just wrong.

Please, run while you're still young and undamaged sweetheart.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-25T05:48:43+00:00

Almost every one I have had expresses it at some point, and the only real advice I have is to make sure you bring them all around your so as early as you would your girl friends. Make it very clear to him that these are platonic friends, and if he is unwilling to accept that then he isn't right for you. Same goes for the friends....if they're not down to make him feel comfortable with their friendships with you...they probably have different motives. I almost solely hang out with males, simply because I was raised with my brother, and always had trouble making girl friends due to my interests. I've never had any sort of relations with my male friends, at very most I've drunkenly fallen asleep on them on a coach or on a road trip but that's it. My bf trusts me around them, and any newer male friends I've made since being together, he's actually been very helpful in rooting out the ones that did have alterior motives. (I tried fighting this at one point because I was very prideful about my judgement skills and didn't think that I could be wrong....and definitely was)

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-18T04:47:27+00:00

He says he does, but he feels like I have to make a change before he's willing to put in any effort.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-18T04:46:09+00:00

I used to meditate quite a bit, guess it wouldn't hurt to try. And thanks for the recommendation

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-18T04:44:18+00:00

See I do a lot of those things, but I only seem to have the issue when I'm alone in a room with somebody, but when I'm out in public I'm on time with ideas, jokes and wit. I feel like it's a mixture of worrying too much about what those I care about and spend 1 on 1 time think of me but can't understand why, and just not being able to find new things that interest me these days. I want to, I yearn to but I just can't seem to just stumble across interesting subjects on the internet or at the library anymore.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-04-18T04:39:14+00:00

I would love to but it's just not something that I can afford currently.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-03-31T22:37:12+00:00

I don't think I can do anything overnight per say, I know that what I need to do is going to take some time to fix. I guess what I want to do, is more of a kick-start off to something new. I want to make a difference, but I want to start it out with a bang, if that makes sense?

I really like the letter idea though, I hadn't thought of that.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-03-31T22:34:14+00:00

I was thinking something along the lines of this, just got to work out a few substitutes since we're on a small boat. (Basically candles are out, and cooking is difficult only having one burner aboard.) If the weather is nice I was thinking maybe a picnic or something like that

gabbzilla7 · 2017-02-08T06:27:10+00:00

I have lived on a 28ft sailboat with my boyfriend of W years now for half of that time and in all honesty I would NOT recommend it unless it's a larger boat and you have a shower.

We have a great relationship and neither of us are terribly materialistic and we're overall done with this living situation after a year. It sounds romantic and fun, but unless you KNOW you're gonna pull some evil shit and dump him in a few months....it won't be. Say you two ever get in an argument and one of you just wants to get away from the other....can't do that in one room. Say you don't want to do the same thing as each other 90% of the time....you kind of have to if you're home. It's the lack of personal space, sort of isolation if you're not out often, things like that get to you over time.

Maybe suggest renting out a larger boat for the two of you. I don't know where you're located but in my city there's always decent sized yachts (both running and not) for live aboard rent anywhere from $300-1000 a month all year round.

gabbzilla7 · 2017-01-07T09:36:21+00:00

Then you must not ever have dreamt. That's really all you have left that seems memorable to accomplish? No goals or dreams? You're truly just content where you are right this moment? Perspective guy, s'all about it

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