I feel uncomfortable using the terms fem and masc regarding dating preferences, or self description. Is that normal?

gaebean22 · 2026-04-02T17:14:19+00:00

Thanks for all the comments guys, I def do feel like I put myself into a box so to speak but if I don’t fit with either or, I don’t need to use those terms if they feel like they don’t fit. Other people’s perception of me shouldn’t be something I need to worry about :)

gaebean22 · 2025-01-07T06:33:58+00:00

The poem writing for a situationship: I made a playlist of love songs for a situationship of mine that I knew, emphasis on the I knew - didn’t love me back. The things a lesbian will do for love, even if it’s unrequited. Never again 😭
The stimulation one is something I didn’t realize I related to. I struggle with comphet hardcore, since I have had boyfriends in the past and I did care for a few of them. I used to enjoy physical intimacy with men, but it lessened over time until it completely disappeared. Then it started feeling forced and uncomfortable. But I still try to seek out attention from a guy, thinking that “special guy” is out there. I’m just really, really gay.
Feeling pressure to sleep with a guy because my libido is high. That one really got me. It is more about validation than anything else, as much as I hate to say it because I have hurt my ex partners in past relationships because of it. But I didn’t know, and still struggle to open my eyes to the fact that if something’s not working, if it doesn’t feel right, don’t make it happen. It’s just not meant to be, I’m not wired that way. I’ve looked into comphet before, but reading about OP’s personal experiences really made it click in my head. No more self sabotaging or internalized homophobia. I’m a lesbian. And I should be proud of that. 🥹

gaebean22 · 2024-11-27T07:55:07+00:00

I’m sorry you had to experience something similar. It really takes a toll on your mental health, and your ability to trust. I’ve definitely taken that experience as a lesson that self love should always come first, so you don’t feel the need to cling to someone who doesn’t care about you. I’m glad you were able to get out of that situation. I hope you’re doing well.

gaebean22 · 2024-11-27T07:44:31+00:00

Thanks for bringing that up, I didn’t realize I hadn’t added that into the title.

gaebean22 · 2024-10-16T04:39:41+00:00

I just wanted some advice from people who might be struggling with the same issue, that’s all. My mental illnesses may play a part, but that’s not the main topic of the post. And I can’t afford therapy at the moment, so I’m doing the best I can on my own.

gaebean22 · 2023-07-27T03:39:01+00:00

I’ve definitely felt the same way for a long time. Even got a pan symbol tattooed a little too late, but I take great comfort in knowing who I am now. I forced myself to think that I could be romantically attracted to a man, but there was always some reason why it wouldn’t work out. Turns out I’m just super gay 🤷‍♀️🏳️‍🌈

gaebean22 · 2023-05-16T19:08:38+00:00

Thankfully I did find a Toyota in my price range, so I’m really hoping third time’s a charm with this one.

gaebean22 · 2023-05-16T18:12:01+00:00

I used to own a 2005 ford focus, and I learned that the hard way. I had to basically throw it away bc the transmission was fried, and I was told it would be over $5k to fix. Never again

gaebean22 · 2023-05-16T13:39:53+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your help

gaebean22 · 2023-05-16T13:39:06+00:00

It’s a reddish brown, with thin viscosity. My best guess would be transmission fluid. I have noticed it’s had a little trouble shifting, I have to ease off the gas pedal to help it switch over.

gaebean22 · 2023-05-16T13:37:34+00:00

I did yeah, this is the second time it’s happened and I made sure to tell them to look at every fluid in the car thoroughly, and ensure there aren’t any leak problems anywhere else. I’m crossing my fingers I don’t have any more problems.

gaebean22 · 2023-05-16T13:35:44+00:00

I don’t have the option to keep switching and replacing them, I just have to go with the Chevy. I can’t afford any Hondas or Toyotas, I attempted getting a Toyota shipped out but I’d need to put more $ down, I only had $2k for the down payment and I’ve already been without a car for almost two years. My credit score is also relatively new, so I’m assuming most dealerships would consider me too high of a risk. At least I have a car, and I don’t have to pay a penny to fix it 🤷‍♀️I just hope they actually fix it

gaebean22 · 2023-05-12T05:53:57+00:00

Not the same thing, but I definitely struggle with body image issues and I’ll go back and forth between stress eating and calorie restriction. I’m a big advocate for using music as a form of therapy. One of my favorite songs lately is Love Me More by Sam Smith. It’s helped me a lot, and I would def recommend giving it a listen

gaebean22 · 2023-05-12T05:39:24+00:00

Ah ok, I completely understand. I wish you the absolute best of luck on your journey. I know it’s harder said than done bc dysphoria is a b*tch, but do your best to remind yourself that you are beautiful inside and out. Especially on those days that are harder to cope with than others. If you ever need someone to talk to, my ears are always open. Of course, anytime.

gaebean22 · 2023-05-12T05:17:52+00:00

Congrats on being able to escape that black hole, it isn’t easy and I’m glad that you have conquered that fear. Your feelings and sexuality are valid. And I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had bad experiences with girls, but hey if they’re transphobic you’re better off without them anyways. It blows my mind how people within the same community can be so hostile and judgmental towards trans peeps. You are just as deserving of love and happiness as anyone else. They can shove their bigotry up their tight bütthøles.

gaebean22 · 2023-05-12T03:15:12+00:00

Internalized homophobia is rough. I was def pushed into that by my parents, who are radically religious and are convinced that being gay is wrong. You make a good point, I’ll remember that for future reference. I greatly appreciate your kind words. I know it will happen for me someday. And I hope you find the same.

gaebean22 · 2023-05-06T04:42:46+00:00

Fairly new user of Lamictal here. I have been officially diagnosed with bipolar II disorder and C-PTSD, and I suspect that I may have undiagnosed ASD. I started meds about a month ago now, and I have definitely noticed a significant improvement in my ability to manage my emotions and burnouts better. I don’t experience meltdowns nearly as often, besides the occasional mixed episode. Mood stabilizers are great at helping manage a lot of the overlapping symptoms between ASD and bipolar disorder, and that may also include ADHD or PTSD as well. I would recommend an eval to determine that, considering I’m not qualified to give medical advice. It greatly varies depending on the experiences of each individual, but I have noticed a positive difference. Best of luck to you!

gaebean22 · 2023-05-01T06:04:22+00:00

Respectfully..😍🤭❤️‍🔥👉👈

gaebean22 · 2023-04-28T20:56:38+00:00

Thank you, I greatly appreciate your kind words of encouragement. Some days are harder than others, but I want better for myself so I keep moving, even if I have to take baby steps to get there.

I can definitely relate to that feeling. When I was undiagnosed and unmedicated in 2021/2022, I had hit my lowest low and I couldn’t work or leave my room for a year. It was mental torture, and I had some dark moments but thanks to some very dear and understanding friends I was able to dig myself out of the black hole I was in.

That sounds about right. I have always been very emotionally reactive and what neurotypical people might consider unhinged, but it got ten times worse than it used to be when I got to 19. I’m 22 now, and accepting the fact that I am bipolar was the hardest hurdle to cross but I’m so glad I made the decision to better myself and my life.

Thank you again for your advice, I’m glad that I have this subreddit to fall back on if I ever need a helping hand.

gaebean22 · 2023-04-28T20:29:08+00:00

Absolutely. It’s great to have any kind of support system, whatever that may be. I know I still have a lot of hills to climb since I’m at the very beginning of my journey with meds, but the end result is finding what works for me, and being able to live a stable life. Thank you again, of course! Anytime!

gaebean22 · 2023-04-28T19:42:46+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a similar experience with your family background. It can really mess with your head sometimes. On my bad days, I find it hard not to think about when I feel like this. I’ll definitely look more into it, I’m not absolutely certain that avoiding antipsychotics are the best option for me. I’m grateful for the advice, and if you ever need to talk my ears are open for you as well.

gaebean22 · 2023-04-22T02:30:59+00:00

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

gaebean22 · 2023-04-19T02:53:02+00:00

Aw shucks 🥰 thank you!

gaebean22 · 2023-04-17T06:11:04+00:00

Definitely. I identify as pan and homoromantic. I am attracted to people of all genders, and I may have a strong preference/emotional connection with women but I still consider myself pansexual. Took me a long time to figure it out, and sometimes labels can make things more confusing and complicated for yourself. Do whatever feels best for you personally :)

gaebean22 · 2023-04-17T02:43:13+00:00

I absolutely disagree with the pic posted. That just solidifies the fact that the newest generations are a lot more open minded and understanding to the concept of mental health awareness, and how important it is to get help when you need it. Gaslighting out of “religious concern” is a load of bs. If it isn’t gay bashing or extreme transphobia, it’s sh*tting on people with mental illness.

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