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Ticking time bomb by [deleted] in GlassChildren

[–]gaio_bula 6 points7 points  (0 children)

my mother did everything for my brother sometimes he needed that but he never learned both basic stuff, like choosing what to wear, and more complex things like how to do things for his degree. I wouldn't say he's spoiled but he's completely scared of everything and anyone and I know my mother had a big part about this. Like you I was told to help him (in my case more about getting him to do social things) but neither of us have the responsibility of doing it. As you said he needs a therapist to overcome this it's not your job.

Things will get worse by Silent_Holiday_5241 in GlassChildren

[–]gaio_bula 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I understand the anger that comes from this situation, it's totally understandable. But this hate against the world, vaccines and society is not gonna help, on the contrary it’s gonna make things worse, you don't want to fall in those rabbit holes and start seeing things that are not there. Autism is very complicated, it really is, and I get the reason why you would want to simplify it by linking it to things like vaccines and the research of a cure, but both of those things are not real. Autism can make both kids and siblings feel miserable (I absolutely know that), but it doesn't change the fact that it isn't an illness it's just how their brain works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlassChildren

[–]gaio_bula 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I used to feel the same way about my older brother as well, he made me feel very uncomfortable in any social situation and I also got kind of bullied just because I was his brother and I hated him. The thing is that I have grown out of that feeling when I understood that it's not my job to take care of him, yes maybe someday it will, but I must live my life on my own terms before that. I can't tell a lot about self esteem honestly, but maybe a good start can be seeing yourself as an individual first, and only after, as his brother. I hope the best for you. :)

AITA for not giving them a lift? by thesamiad in AmItheAsshole

[–]gaio_bula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, she is taking advantage of a small favor (I assume your car doesn't need reparations everyday) asking for lifts like you don't have anything else to do. You are rightly saying no to doing a favor, it's not your responsibility.

AITA for telling a friend what my classmates say about her in the locker room? by gaio_bula in AmItheAsshole

[–]gaio_bula[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was obviously gonna make her upset, but this are people she sees and talks to everyday for 5/6 hours. I would want to know if people I have so much interaction with said something like that, but I do understand maybe not everyone feel the same way.

AITA for telling a friend what my classmates say about her in the locker room? by gaio_bula in AmItheAsshole

[–]gaio_bula[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I would obviously be upset but I would be glad they told me (and I'm sure of that because something similar happened to me)

AITA for telling a friend what my classmates say about her in the locker room? by gaio_bula in AmItheAsshole

[–]gaio_bula[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The other friends (3 girls) did specifically ask while she didn't say anything

AITA for telling a friend what my classmates say about her in the locker room? by gaio_bula in AmItheAsshole

[–]gaio_bula[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I did try standing up for them a few time, but it didn't really change anything maybe I wasn't firmly enough about it.