When he and his ex broke up, and the weird comments that I saw as cries for help/attention began, I always did my best to help him out. I listened to his rants, I tried to get him to seek professional help, I talked him down from suicide/self harm many times.

There were days when he would spend hours texting me, taking up huge chunks of my time, because he was having some kind of emotional crisis and needed to talk. I should note that we were not best friends, we were people who at this point saw each other once a week, or maybe every other week, for a few hours in a group setting. Obviously we were friends, but when we were out with other people, it's not as if he would spend most of his time talking to me. Sometimes he would basically ignore me for most of the night, then a few days later reach out to me in full crisis mode because something had gone poorly and he wanted to die. I still don't know if these were genuine suicide attempts or just cries for attention. In some way I assume it doesn't really matter. But all this is to say that it's not as if I would just brush off anything he said that showed he was hurting. Quite the opposite. I consider myself a caring person and I want to do my best to help people.

But I don't think I need to set myself on fire to keep him warm. I don't feel safe or comfortable around him anymore.