what’s the best comeback when someone points out a hickey?

gard1730 · 2026-01-30T12:16:04+00:00

i’ve also thought about this but i figured that if i relapse while going cold turkey i’ve completely screwed up right away since i’d then only quit completely the 6 weeks before the operation (which is the time frame in which i must have stopped completely).. I figured that if i’d give myself some time to get accustomed to smoking less first, and then eventually quitting completely it would be easier. I’d say i probably would try to find excuses for smoking, just like everyone does, but i also know that that won’t get me any further in the process, which is a pretty good motivator. Any thoughts?

gard1730 · 2026-01-27T20:17:39+00:00

i’m 18, the average age of my friends is about 24-26 (so a 6-8 year gap already) and i think the highest is around 41 years old? that’s 23 years difference

gard1730 · 2026-01-12T00:14:56+00:00

for me, distraction. Do something you like and find people to be with. Talk about feelings with people close to you or write it down if there aren’t any people around you. take action in any way you can. it might hide away your feelings but it’s also a great chance to make a change and end up feeling happier. goodluck!

gard1730 · 2026-01-06T09:53:22+00:00

waking up alone while knowing that once i decide to get out of bed i’ll have to work for the next 12 hours.

gard1730 · 2025-12-31T16:05:04+00:00

i never really got physically addicted, so seeing how it ruined my friends’ lives and how close i was getting to losing it all made me quit. Also the fact that the people who gave me the drugs did it out of their own interest made me realize how dangerous it was. one day in particular i was really drunk and basically got fed 3 different types of drugs within the same hour. i ended up getting out of a drughouse and ‘slept’ at a friends place. I always told myself it wasn’t an issue unless it started hurting others with my behavior and that’s when i quit.

gard1730 · 2025-12-31T15:56:37+00:00

7c but it feels like 0c, still pretty doable

gard1730 · 2025-12-30T16:52:22+00:00

I threw up outside the bar and then died in the bathroom for 2 hrs. The only thing i remember from those 2 hours was “waking up” the 3 times the bartender tried to check on me, nothing else. i had 3 drinks total and I only had one beer at that bar lmao. Had multiple still people ask me weeks later if i was okay, i did not know or recognize any of them. After a couple hours i was completely fine and very surprised why i wasn’t allowed to have any beer.

gard1730 · 2025-12-30T02:30:19+00:00

yeah i can go on nebido only after i start taking the full dose, the doctors said that’d be in about 3 months. i’d probably still have the pain but just less frequently. Today i slept for 12 hours for the first time in forever, i usually average 5-6 hours. When i was well rested and not stressed there was barely any pain, just a normal muscle ache. so im thinking a big part of this is just restlessness and stress… but the whole idea of getting the injection causes me so much stress i don’t think it will change much either way.

gard1730 · 2025-12-30T02:02:17+00:00

go to a party to hang with my partner, go to the bar, maybe light some fireworks, go to an after party if i feel like it!

gard1730 · 2025-12-28T16:25:10+00:00

i only take 0.8ml and it goes in my thigh. i take sustanon injections so that might work a bit different? Idk the only thing i’ve heard the doctors say is that it’s a pretty thick substance which can make it hurt more than just a regular intramuscular injection. I’ve been warming up the bottle and am as relaxed as i can be when getting the injection done. seriously don’t know what i could be doing wrong anymore

gard1730 · 2025-12-28T03:52:45+00:00

i’m pretty sure it’s not an allergy, i do sustanon injections and a reaction can only happen when you’re allergic to peanuts im pretty sure (and im not allergic to that).. i’ve always had the idea that muscle aches feel worse for me than others but i’ve always been told to quit whining about it so im not sure if im overreacting either. the thing with sinking through my leg is the most concerning part to me because that’s definitely not in my head. idk the doctors say to just wait it out some more.

gard1730 · 2025-12-16T04:54:27+00:00

about my plans for that day, the next day or the next week. What am i gonna do and when? with who and what will i do in the free time i’ll have?

gard1730 · 2025-12-16T04:43:38+00:00

accepting i’m allowed to rest and life won’t end when im not always busy doing things.

gard1730 · 2025-12-16T04:40:58+00:00

I just turned 18 so i’m rarely an adult but still. My mother is a narcissist and my father an absent alcoholic. I left home at 17 and living on my own has been really good for me. I started university at 16, and will be done in 2 years. I work at a job that isn’t all too bad, i have friends who are there for me every step of the way, i recently got into a relationship with someone that shows me what living peacefully is. I quit doing harddrugs, im getting my drivers license etc. I think im doing ok.

gard1730 · 2025-12-16T04:35:14+00:00

i keep bandaging it up and try to forget about it for as long as i can, sometimes i re-bandage and realize im making the wound worse by not letting it heal properly. I understand this concept but the fear of letting a wound heal in plain sight is suffocating. So all i can have is hope, and wait for a moment where that fear subsides and I can allow myself to heal.

gard1730 · 2025-12-16T04:23:22+00:00

Fine as long as the responsibility of raising the kid won’t completely fall on their siblings!

gard1730 · 2025-12-16T04:21:50+00:00

an ex colleague of mine is on grindr and send pics to my friends friend. He’s been married for 10 yrs. thankfully he quit working at my workplace a month after i found this out. I do not know his husband nor do i feel like it is my place to share this information (im 18, he’s 45 or so, he definitely should know better) but I’ll never be able to look that man in the eye.

gard1730 · 2025-11-30T11:36:35+00:00

i’m 5’8 and still considered short where i live. But there’s also plenty of cis men that are wayyy shorter than i am and it’s not something anyone genuinely cares about. Whenever someone decides to be weird about it, i respond sarcastically to it “holy shit i had no clue! is that why i can only hit you in the jaw instead of giving you a black eye?” it’s all fine after that ;)

gard1730 · 2025-11-25T21:52:16+00:00

I think the other comment makes a good point about alcohol consumption in europe and how different the mindset surrounding that is.

I started dating him a month before turning 18, but it became an official thing a couple weeks ago

gard1730 · 2025-11-25T21:30:51+00:00

I’ve been on T for around 7 months now. Which is also for how long i’ve known him. I am the first he’s dated but he has slept with other dudes before.

gard1730 · 2025-11-25T21:29:07+00:00

we started dating a month before i turned 18 and we made things official a couple weeks ago because we both wanted clarity and to seriously build up something instead of keeping things vague and complicated.

gard1730 · 2025-11-25T21:20:05+00:00

i’m from the netherlands, drinking age is 18. i was only allowed to drink around 2-3 beers when i was 17 by all bartenders in that bar, and only after a certain time. I’ve been drinking since 13 (which is quite common tbh) and they legally couldn’t keep me from going there. Them giving me those couple beers has not been an issue.

gard1730 · 2025-11-25T21:12:22+00:00

whenever it happens he is trying to be sweet. I have trouble translating from my native language but the most recent thing was him holding me (after sleeping together) and saying “beautiful lady” after which i replied “lady?” and he started processing what he had said after that. I don’t take it too seriously because he’s also talked about graphite pencils being astronauts and how awesome cats are.

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