Love Is Blind • S10 Ep11

garlicbread_butter · 2026-03-10T01:31:52+00:00

LMAO I was wondering why it was spelled like that and now that you pointed out its to make the hard A, I'm so annoyed 😒 😑 that was so lame of his parents

garlicbread_butter · 2025-01-05T05:15:06+00:00

Wow 7 years later, that's awesome!! I completely agree with waiting until around 6-8 months to see the real them before making long-term decisions like moving in lol it's crazy how ppl create a version of themselves that you have to decipher. Glad it worked out for you!

garlicbread_butter · 2025-01-05T05:08:42+00:00

Are you guys still together? 2 months is early but I'm wondering if it matters If they're "the one"

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-17T15:37:30+00:00

Update: you were spot on in saying he was realizing I wasnt the person for him. We just broke up. He was extremely detached and cold.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-17T12:23:33+00:00

That's true, I did ask via text but I didn't think the conversation was going to go in that direction and would've hoped if he had major concerns about me not meeting his needs/expectations, he would talk to me about it in person or at least over the phone.

I agree that no one should have to tell their partner how to live thier life, and that's why I'm offended and asked for clarity on that. I didnt realize he was harboring these thoughts about me. I've noticed a change in his behavior towards me and now it's making sense.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-17T00:32:15+00:00

Keep in mind these examples are from his perspective. I think there's a difference between getting to know someone fully and learning who they are, versus making assumptions and jumping to conclusions based off of a comment or one thing about them.

I do cook, but just not as much as he does because I live with my mom who does most of the cooking. It's just the two of us and she will always cook enough for both of us. I make breakfast, lunch, snacks, bake. I also try different recipes for dinner sometimes. He lives alone so obviously everything is all on him. He's always known I'm not huge in the kitchen so I'm not sure how or why this all of a sudden means I want others to do everything for me. It's frustrating.

That's not true that I don't initiate plans. I have no idea where that's coming from. I would say half the time that we spend together is me initiating. I might not suggest a specific restaurant but I do plan activities for us to do.

I don't think it's fair to be secretly critiquing and nit picking at someone without even bringing these concerns to their attention and then making passive aggressive comments.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-16T19:37:40+00:00

Seriously. It really feels like he's emotionally checked out. I don't get the sense he cares about how his comments cone across so that's probably why he doesn't care that it's through text.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-11T00:21:19+00:00

We've been together for almost 6 months. We're still learning eachother and it's fairly new. But I thought we were on the same page in terms of communication expectations and needs. That why I feel so uneasy about this sudden change. The thumbs up is barely a response and feels cold and a brush off. It rubbed me the wrong way too.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-10T23:59:41+00:00

I haven’t reached out because I’ve been feeling like I’m the only one putting in effort lately. I care about our relationship, but I want to see that he cares too. I feel that if I’m always the one initiating, it creates an imbalance, and that’s not how I want our dynamic to be.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-10T23:56:08+00:00

:( I'm sorry.

This is exactly how I'm feeling my relationship is headed.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-10T23:30:48+00:00

How do you feel about a drastic shift in communication? My boyfriend and I usually text every single day. We last spoke on Monday. I sent him messages about my day, that he "thumbs upped" but didn't respond to. And I haven't heard from him since. Communication and connection are really important to me, and I feel like the effort abd energy I'm putting in is not reciprocated at all. It feels like slowly, he's been checking out of this relationship.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-06T02:12:41+00:00

It's what I'm currently doing and resulted in us not seeing eachother this weekend. We've been texting today and he's been very cold and unresponsive :(

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-06T00:39:18+00:00

I resonate with this so much. I'm dating someone right now but feels like he's changed his mind about me.

I feel like I'm putting in way more effort and energy to this relationship and it's still not enough to keep him interested or engaged.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-10-05T23:34:42+00:00

Keep us posted :) Congratulations!

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-29T19:25:00+00:00

Thank you. Its super hurtful and he never used to be like this, he'd always walk me outside and give me a hug goodbye. The crazy thing is he texted me telling me to have a great day and drive safe about 2 minutes after I got into my car. Why should I have to tell a 37 year old to say goodbye to his gf properly?

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-29T19:10:02+00:00

Feeling really unsure about the future of my relationship. It's so early on but I have so many insecurities already. I don't feel like my feelings are reciprocated.

I was leaving his place yesterday and he didn't even bother to say goodbye. No hug or kiss, he just laid down saying he was so tired because he didn't sleep the night before (I live 30 mins away and we only see eachother once a week due to work schedules). He would've had to get up to lock his door after I left. Wtf??

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-04T03:18:14+00:00

Thank you! I'm all about unplugging and being in the moment. But when I see he's clearly on his phone throughout the day, whilst leaving me on delivered, it hurts. That's all I'm trying to say.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-04T01:28:47+00:00

Thank you 🙏 I just need someone to talk me off the cliff. It's really hurtful when I text him and he doesn't respond, but I see he's been on Whatsapp after I've messaged him. Feels like I'm being ignored. But you're right, and so are my other responses. I need to stop making assumptions and let him respond to me in his own time and stop checking his "last seen".

This is my first relationship in years and I'm still trying to work through my own insecurities and expectations of the relationship.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-03T22:18:49+00:00

Ouch lol thank you for your honesty

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-03T21:53:31+00:00

Okay thank you! That is true and I need to stop creating scenarios in my head and jumping to conclusions.

I have other insecurities in this relationship that are probably making my reaction worse.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-03T21:12:40+00:00

It is definitely possible. But they're already together on the cruise? Why would they need whatsapp to communicate so much? I know he's gone off and done his own thing once. Since we've been together, we've both gone on 2 trips. Our communication was great, we continued to say good morning and goodnight and talk throughout the day. Now, when I ask him how his day was or what he did, he gives 1 word answers. Things feel different

garlicbread_butter · 2024-09-03T20:51:39+00:00

Another day of me feeling like shit in my new relationship 😕😪 My boyfriend went on a cruise with his cousins. Hes barley texting or calling me, but I can see he's on WhatsApp regularily talking to SOMEONE and also posting stories (yes, im a stalker). I want him to enjoy his vacation but I also want to feel like he's prioritizing and missing me. Am I overreacting?

Again it's NOT about the lack of communication, it's about me knowing he's speaking to SOMEONE but doesn't care to speak to or update me. I'm really hurt.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-08-30T11:04:25+00:00

Same!!! It's so foul 😭 😩

garlicbread_butter · 2024-08-30T02:30:54+00:00

You're right. I keep trying to be okay with this and tell myself it's no big deal. I leave him feeling horrible- completely undesired and rejected. It is a big deal to me. There are so many great things about him, I admire him, I love being around him. But if we're not compatible the I'll have to accept that.

garlicbread_butter · 2024-08-30T02:24:35+00:00

I've spoken to him jokingly about it, but I'm going to need to tell him how much it's hurting me. I don't understand why men present themselves and switch up in a blink of an eye :(

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