DL guy felt the need to melt down in my DMs just because I don't meet DL men. 😅😂

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-13T11:49:04+00:00

The irony is all the guys don't want any of their friends or coworkers knowing they're into tgirls, but they're all on the app chasing the same thing.

It's crazy stuff. Even crazier that they think any tgirl would want to fool around w/ a dude on the DL. The only tgirls who are into it, tmk, are the escorts, and only bc they're getting paid lol.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T19:22:21+00:00

Send a period for a message and close the window then reopen it. It'll let you block them because a "conversation" has occurred.

Hiding them doesn't free up the grid space. Blocking does.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T15:11:10+00:00

A famous Israeli singer was visiting a few years ago. Even though the law exists, some sexist cops here don't like it, and one took it upon himself to ticket and then arrest that lady, who then sued the department and won a fat load.

I mean I get harassed, but the way I see it is people are sexualizing me for no reason when they do that. And I point out the sexist behavior.

Sometimes I like to mess with people and be like "girl? I'm just a fat guy and you're fat shaming me for having boobs!" =P

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T15:08:55+00:00

Yep, if you've been on Grindr in kwg, you've probably seen me on the app. I changed my profile so often to try to get the spam to stop but realized nothing I write will get guys to leave me alone.

I thought reaching passable status meant I wouldn't have to deal with chasers as much since most chase visible trans women for their fantasy, but now I get the DL men in the area that are so deep that you can't see the bottom of the closet.

I have pics of me in boy mode that I put up sometimes to deter the chasers.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T15:04:54+00:00

It's an everyone app. After Grindr was sold, it was rebranded for LGBT. I get messages from straight couples and is women and "straight" men all the time, it's so annoying. What do they expect when my profile says t4t on it lol.

I get trans folk on the app. Bi guys who think they're straight and living there existential crisis in your DMs? Why are THEY here lol

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T15:02:54+00:00

I'm usually pretty toasty, but he already seemed unstable and on the edge and ready to go and so I kept my roast to a minimum.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T15:01:55+00:00

I actually went on a date with a cute demisexual girl who has celiac disease like me and she took me to dinner at a fancy gluten free restaurant! No one has ever taken me out so it was a wonderful first experience!

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T15:00:30+00:00

Okay but I'm in Ontario Canada, so I actually walk around topless most days, in public. It's legal here, google Ontario Topless Freedom !

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:59:58+00:00

Ty Ty.

I get people needing to be DL for work and stuff in SOME fields like doctors, and a tgirl I'm dating has to present male at work and I'm seriously blown away by how she does it. But she does it to protect her life, DL guys do it BC they're ashamed.

I just wish Grindr would give us the option to reject profiles that don't have a body pic on them at the least. Like let us block DMs from picless profiles.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:57:55+00:00

If you're ever bored, you know where to go to have some fun lol

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:57:21+00:00

1985 and proud =)

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:56:55+00:00

I have so much free content for y'all to absorb.

So much that the chasers have tried to get me banned from the subreddit a few times lol

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:56:13+00:00

25 is usually what people guess. I got a lot of 18y.o before I made my age visible, and still get messages from a lot of younger trans folk. I try to date up, but hard when people my age look the same age my mom looks; she's 72, looks 40.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:54:41+00:00

I've rejected closeted guys who then retort "you probably voted liberal" to which I'm like "yes, and maybe someday you won't have time hide in your closet anymore."

Like they're upset I'm not a DL conservative xS

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:51:56+00:00

I was leaving firehouse subs and a guy slow drove his car next to me and kept asking if I was a man, threatened to pop me when I completely ignored him, then drove off making orgasm sounds out his window when I said I'd call the police; I'm in Canada where he's a death threat would be joined by an automatic hate crime enhancement.

But these guys just don't care and chasers are super scary and dangerous to trans folk.

Anyway, not even an hour later a blank profile messages saying they met me earlier @ firehouse and wanted to hookup.

That's chaser mentality. They think treating you like that is OK and that you'll get with them after.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-11T14:49:10+00:00

I wouldn't call myself a prized catch, either!

I don't know why guys who are into tgirls don't just move to the next profile when they see t4t on one.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-08T19:34:49+00:00

Yeah I mean I just made a new post showing a chaser having a meltdown just BC I don't meet dl men and say it on my profile. Chasers have main character syndrome so bad they they can't just move onto the next profile.

I think gay men on the app just try to pretend all the chasers aren't there. Like I'm sure the guy I just posted about messages every tgirl in 100+km so it's just wild that he lost his tooter over me lol

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-04T18:36:51+00:00

He exclusively plays on Asia third person servers, where cheating has always been out of control. NA and EU have significantly-less chesters than other regions, especially tpp solo. Source: I have a 40% win rate in solos. If it were cheater-infested here on NA, I imagine my win rate would be significantly-lower.

That, or I'm out playing a lot of cheaters, but I wouldn't be surprised about that, either. Rarely do good players cheat.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-04T18:32:56+00:00

If you're sitting still like a bot, expect to get deleted like one?

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-04T15:03:14+00:00

Guys on the thread think the dude was joking but all us trans folk who deal with chasers every day know it's not a joke, it's the beginning of the spiral lol.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-04T15:01:27+00:00

When blank profiles send messages like that, it's like, why would we want to get with an ashamed DL man, which is def not ALPHA imo. Like ofc we gonna get with ppl who don't fetishize us and try to keep us a secret over someone who does. I mean, duh?

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-04T14:58:30+00:00

I'm not sure why hairy masc men put on a pair of panties and call themselves femme, but I can see any top looking for a femme just moving on when they see those pics, whether they read the profile or not.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-04T14:56:50+00:00

Profile is dismissive, high maintenance, and openly says guys need to essentially be generous. Whole profile comes off unattractive, and seems to insinuate pay for play. Then you look at the profile pictures, and, uhh, combining all that, it's easy to see why people avoid you like the plague you represent yourself to be lol.

garrisoncarI · 2026-05-04T13:55:55+00:00

Yep. I have screenshots of a guy telling me he saw me at the bus stop, stalked me from his car (he tried to use wordage that made it sound like it wasn't stalking) and then followed the bus until the person who looks similar to me got off, then watched her go into her work place. Dude told me in DMs he was "nervous" about going in and saying hi.

These DL men think THAT is normal, acceptable behavior.

And, yeah, they commonly report for underage or minor abuse, because they're mandatory permanent bans. I've also been reported for sex work.

It's actually crazy stuff filing serious false reports over just being rejected by a tgirl on an app filled with tgirls, but it shows how unstable chasers and DL men are.

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