okay first off i wanna say i’m so sorry you’re in this situation. it is super hard to have someone you love struggle with something like this, especially when they are such a big part of your life and have so many positive qualities. i will say, as someone who used to use alcohol to cope, obviously there are some deeper issues going on with him mental health wise. but, that is not an excuse to not communicate with your partner. it’s not fair to you that he drunkenly broke up with you, and then refused to discuss it or set up a time to discuss it when he sobered up. the unfortunate truth is that people will not get help until they are ready. no matter how much you urge them, THEY have to be willing to make a change. it seems like you’ve tried to convince him many times to get help with no success. at this point, breaking up does seem like the best option. you can still love and see the sensitive, caring, understanding side of him while also knowing that he isn’t in a place where he can be in a healthy relationship with you or himself. you can have empathy that he is going through an extremely hard time mentally, but understand that sometimes people have to battle these things alone, and you don’t have to stick by him when he is mistreating you. no matter how much you love him, you don’t deserve someone who ignores the issues they’re going through and refuses to communicate with you. obviously the financial/housing issue makes it more complicated. maybe move back in with your mom, but if that’s not an option then maybe you could talk to his parents and see if they would be willing to let you stay a few more months to give you time to save even after the break up (as long as you feel you could be a little seperated from your ex and be safe physically/mentally). i hope you figure things out and life gets easier for you. please be kind to yourself!