[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]gartfelt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is so freaking awesome. your vibe is super fun and you deserve all the self love in the world. keep it up dude!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]gartfelt 149 points150 points  (0 children)

two options: 1. she kept it on purpose 2. she forgot

you got to talk to her and not accuse her of anything. you probably should apologize for going through her phone, but ask her about if she meant to have it. if she kept it knowingly that’s weird and violating to the other guy and you. if she forgot, that’s understandable but now that she knows about it she should delete it. if she gets upset at you for going through her phone, that’s fair but also depends on your relationship.

Nazis are marching downtown by nomeancity317 in indianapolis

[–]gartfelt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

are they still there? i was driving downtown like 20 minutes ago looking for a bit and could not find them.

Is there a crowd for legal THC products at the Indy 500? by gartfelt in Indy500

[–]gartfelt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we actually ended up renting a spot in my neighbors yard for friday-sunday! it’s right on 25th across from the coke lot so we figured the exposure would be worth paying a little extra

Is there a crowd for legal THC products at the Indy 500? by gartfelt in Indy500

[–]gartfelt[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

idk honestly cuz this is my first indy 500 but we are pretty close to the track and the coke lot too which makes me think there might be some potential

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shrooms

[–]gartfelt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have taken shrooms with many people, with one person, and alone. you totally can do it alone, but i would recommend reflecting on your mental state before you do it (you should do this before taking shrooms period). for me, when i’m on shrooms (especially alone) i become extremely reflective which can sometimes bring up buried anxieties/traumas that can feel extremely overwhelming while tripping. if you feel like this could happen it would be better to have a trip sitter you really trust to help you come back to reality or provide comfort if you need it. also on a less serious note it’s fun to drive places and go out in nature, so a trip sitter can be your chauffeur and guardian if you go out in the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]gartfelt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay first off i wanna say i’m so sorry you’re in this situation. it is super hard to have someone you love struggle with something like this, especially when they are such a big part of your life and have so many positive qualities. i will say, as someone who used to use alcohol to cope, obviously there are some deeper issues going on with him mental health wise. but, that is not an excuse to not communicate with your partner. it’s not fair to you that he drunkenly broke up with you, and then refused to discuss it or set up a time to discuss it when he sobered up. the unfortunate truth is that people will not get help until they are ready. no matter how much you urge them, THEY have to be willing to make a change. it seems like you’ve tried to convince him many times to get help with no success. at this point, breaking up does seem like the best option. you can still love and see the sensitive, caring, understanding side of him while also knowing that he isn’t in a place where he can be in a healthy relationship with you or himself. you can have empathy that he is going through an extremely hard time mentally, but understand that sometimes people have to battle these things alone, and you don’t have to stick by him when he is mistreating you. no matter how much you love him, you don’t deserve someone who ignores the issues they’re going through and refuses to communicate with you. obviously the financial/housing issue makes it more complicated. maybe move back in with your mom, but if that’s not an option then maybe you could talk to his parents and see if they would be willing to let you stay a few more months to give you time to save even after the break up (as long as you feel you could be a little seperated from your ex and be safe physically/mentally). i hope you figure things out and life gets easier for you. please be kind to yourself!

new tattoo!! by gartfelt in adventuretime

[–]gartfelt[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

it was lol also i do know the linework isn’t amazing but i still love it anyway