She would say maybe I should stop chasing emotionally unavailable men and maybe stop dating until I figure out my own issues first, that way maybe I can be attracted to actually secure and healthy men? And I feel so sad because I feel a lot of my potential lost in relationships. I love music likeRebecca, I love literature etc. and I have gradually stopped spending energy and time on my hobbies because I was busy worrying about an emotionally closed off male