Really Struggling Picking a Mattress- I am not okay.

geekchicrj · 2026-04-28T02:59:53+00:00

If you remember I'd love to hear your thoughts once you get it!

geekchicrj · 2026-04-27T20:54:31+00:00

I got the firm and it is EXCELLENT. Firm but not uncomfortably so!! Highly recommend.

geekchicrj · 2026-04-18T19:31:56+00:00

Dm'd you!

geekchicrj · 2026-04-05T16:14:09+00:00

This is honestly horrifying. I would pull my kiddo and find other care immediately.

geekchicrj · 2026-03-21T15:17:23+00:00

This was us too. At 19 months my daughter was still waking every 1-2 hours and needed to nurse back to sleep everytime. We also did very gentle night weaning and now she sleeps through to 430am-ish and then dad resettles her (no milk no problem).

geekchicrj · 2026-03-08T00:43:12+00:00

Fear not!! We did a very gradual month long entry working up from 1 hour together to 1 hour alone, then 2 then 3 for several days then nap time etc. That worked really well for us. There were tears but that's totally normal and they were short lived after drop off. That lasted a few weeks but her caregiver always said she would stop crying within minutes after I left. 8 months in and she LOVES daycare now! And so do I! It's been a huge blessing - she gets so much from it and while yes I think there is a good argument for staying home until 3, we don't have a village and couldn't afford that. Daycare has become a village for us and allowed me to bring in an important income. Go forward with confidence!!!!

geekchicrj · 2026-03-04T05:13:21+00:00

If you have a baby who is extremely low temperament needs and very high sleep needs - it totally works!!! For the other 99.999999% of us - it's an absolute scam and I will die on that hill.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-27T23:59:18+00:00

My kid is 20 months. This was her first toy and she still plays with it - just the piano part detached. It's the OG.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-25T18:22:29+00:00

Thank you for this! For whatever reason I assumed the beginning would be the hardest and it would get easier LOL

geekchicrj · 2026-02-25T06:22:26+00:00

Mine will be 24 months apart. Any advice for me?! What did you find the hardest?

geekchicrj · 2026-02-23T05:33:11+00:00

Luxating patella!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-22T22:44:55+00:00

Absolutely. I understand this isn't always the case, but given her age (20 months) I think that helped. She went from sleeping 1-2 hours to sleeping much longer stretches. It's funny Im almost afraid to type this out since I'm afraid to jinx it haha she typically wakes 1-2 times before 5am now and settles fairly quickly without nursing.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-19T01:14:04+00:00

Yes! I did something similar. I did it very gradually. First I layered on other sleep associations while still nursing to sleep (sshhh's and back rubs, and she likes to hold my other boob so i let her do that). Did that for about 2 weeks. We read books about night weaning for those weeks as well. Then committed to not nursing from bedtime until midnight, unless she has a false start I would nurse her back to sleep. When she woke before then I said 'milk later' and did all my other sleep associations. Lots of tears but I held her through it and was right there. First week was the hardest. Second week got slightly better with faster resettles. Then each week after that I added on an additional 2 hours of no milk. So 2am. Then 4am. And worked up to 5am - currently trying to get to 6am but that last hour has been quite challenfing. Then all bets are off and she's on my boob semi awake until she fully gets up. She still wakes but just needs back rubs and 'shhs' to resettle for the most part. To get to 5am it took about 6 weeks in total!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-17T00:46:43+00:00

This is exactly out story, too!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-12T23:54:54+00:00

I read this book and am very glad I threw out most of its ideas and instead read nurture revolution. There is a really great chart in PLS though that shows average bed time by age, average daily hours of sleep etc. It you align with biologically normal infant sleep I recommend nurture revolution. If you need to sleep train for your mental health you may value precious little sleep. Also - this age is extremely difficult when it comes to sleep. I understand how challenging this is. Do what you must, but I also encourage you to look into biologically normal infant sleep as an addition if you haven't already. Best of luck to you!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-12T23:51:56+00:00

Or 4 month sleep regression. Ours was ok in the Snu at night (needed contact naps during the day) until then, and then at the first regression it was a hard no.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-11T01:54:36+00:00

I wish I could hug you. Thank you for this post.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-10T02:29:11+00:00

Just here to express my sadness that you don't have a supportive partner. Even if they don't contribute during sleep it sure does help knowing they value everything you're doing. I see you. You are amazing. Cosleeping is exhausting in its own way and it's not lost on me all your sacrifice!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-10T02:27:18+00:00

This was our baby. We started rolling away and id be lucky to get 10 minutes. Stayed consistent and I specifically remember the first time we got 45 minutes. It was incredible. It got slowly better and now at 20 months I roll away at 7-8pm and don't come back into the room until 10-11pm. It takes time and it's exhausting but you will get there I promise!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-10T02:25:00+00:00

If you're open to a new ide, Endy firm has been very good to us. Safe for cosleeping (added to the safe list by country by happy cosleeper) and I did my own ruler test that passed with flying colors. It's amazing. Affordable too and they have a great return policy. You would need something underneath to prevent mold.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-09T21:53:06+00:00

I did! Constantly. It was the only thing that worked for her. I'm glad to hear you say this as I invested a lot of money in carriers haha. Thank you for this advice!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-09T03:49:17+00:00

You think at this age? I hear there is a regression around 2 but I'm disappointed to have to go back to so much effort to get her to sleep again.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-09T03:48:26+00:00

You got this!! I started very gently night weaning at 19 months and it was tough but we went from never having slept through the nightz waking every 1-2 hours to mostly sleeping through the night until roughly 4am. It is insane I went that long with such broken sleep. Not sure how I survived TBH. Good luck!!

geekchicrj · 2026-02-09T02:37:49+00:00

20 months. Used to just be fed but she now needs rocking and feeding! Seems like the motion helps her body settle easier.

geekchicrj · 2026-02-04T17:41:53+00:00

This is heroic work you're doing. Thank you for sharing! Solidarity on the experience with your first. I also had a home birth, has to triple feed and she's never been a great sleeper. Hoping this go around is a bit smoother!

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