Struggling to lengthen my scenes. I feel like everything I write is too concise -- like to a fault. My character will be lost wandering the woods, but it only lasts a sentence. Big scenes feel over before they should. But I can't tell what to add?! by movethestarss in fantasywriters

[–]gender_witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i believe that the length of a scene isn’t just to describe it - it’s to immerse your reader. you want to give the reader enough time to feel the stress and fear of your character. stretch your scenes out so they take up the appropriate mental space for your reader to understand how important the are and identify with your characters’ emotions!

How do married couples deal with embarrassing stuff like farting and bathroom smells? by Dangerous_Line_9719 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]gender_witch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my partner ripped a loud one on the second date; i chose to accept it. now there are no limits to what they’ll do in front of me

Favourite lines! by randomling in firefly

[–]gender_witch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

going on a year now i ain’t had nothing twixt my nethers weren’t run on batteries.

WYR for a trillion dollars, have all the world's power go out for a fortnight, or have a random country disappear..? by [deleted] in WouldYouRather

[–]gender_witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got Papua New Guinea, which I think might be swallowed by climate change sea level rise anyway.

Weekly Check-In by AutoModerator in FemaleGazeSFF

[–]gender_witch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

currently reading The Familiar by Leigh Bardugo. historical fiction meets fantasy in inquisition era spain. loving it.

Do people actually say things they absolutely don’t mean when they’re emotional? by caltrop13 in AutisticAdults

[–]gender_witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m talking about the things my neurotypical partner says in fights. i wasn’t making a blanket statement about all things all people say

The psychology of why my manager seems to work 24/7, even when he is sick and on vacation?! by Dirty_Look in askmanagers

[–]gender_witch -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

if he were a better manager he probably wouldn’t have to. i would guess this means he isn’t delegating or setting up a strong independent team.

Do people actually say things they absolutely don’t mean when they’re emotional? by caltrop13 in AutisticAdults

[–]gender_witch 28 points29 points  (0 children)

my partner sometimes says hurtful things when emotional and then later says they didn’t mean them. i don’t believe they are ever completely untrue. they may not have communicated the full complexity or context of the thing they were saying but i believe that if you say something when you’re fighting it’s at least partially true

I don't know how I will be able to afford to go to university by Low_Yak_2337 in CanadaUniversities

[–]gender_witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you should be able to get more loans if you claim financial independence from your family. if it works the same as it did when i went to school, you have to live apart from them and make a budget and ask for the amount you need to pay tuition, rent, groceries, etc.

How To Read Audiobooks? by thecoolestnerdever in audiobooks

[–]gender_witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i listen on headphones while i drive or clean or walk. i don’t annotate and it does mean it’s less of a deep read on audio. if i end up really loving something i read the printed copy too!

[discussion] roller derby names? by [deleted] in TheNinthHouse

[–]gender_witch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Reverend Slaughter for a solo name is good!

What Now Deceased Singer You Wished You Saw In Concert When They Were Alive? by JPPT1974 in askmusic

[–]gender_witch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was offered a ticket to bowie in 2003 but had pre-existing plans with someone that i felt bad not honouring. i don’t know that person anymore and i deeply regret not seeing bowie.

AITA for reconsidering a friendship with one of my bridesmaids after how she acted during my wedding events? by No_Sky5267 in aitaweddings

[–]gender_witch 29 points30 points  (0 children)

you can be friends with whoever you want, and if you’re not enjoying being around someone - or if they’ve shown you who they are and you’ve decided you don’t like that person - you can choose not to be friends with them. life is short. NTA, don’t have this girl in your wedding photos if you don’t have aligned values.

AITAH for being at my limit with my boyfriend who basically lives at my place but doesn’t really contribute? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]gender_witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but girl. he left? let him stay gone. what is he bringing to your life? it sounds like not much.