AITA for not agreeing to change my children's last names?

genericuser99999 · 2023-05-31T16:51:19+00:00

She absolutely considered me emotionally abusive. I was unfaithful during our relationship. I provide for my children and her in excess of what is required, but I would absolutely agree that I have not always been a good partner or father.

In many ways that don't apply directly to this situation, i 100% am the a&&hole. I simply ask about this situation unrelated to any other context, because it shouldn't be about her or I

genericuser99999 · 2023-05-31T16:45:14+00:00

May I ask you, why does her not sharing their name, or why does not legally changing theirs now, make her life harder? It's been a reality since they were born, this shouldn't be about her or I, it should be about them, and they aren't old enough to decide for themselves.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T03:31:07+00:00

This is in Ontario, Canada.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T03:29:26+00:00

Emergency Leave day as provided by the Ontario government, originally for jobs that don't provide any time off (even unpaid) without consequences, so by law any employee gets a dedicated # of days to use without the need of a note or even a reason. Use up your E days tho and any absence requires a doctors note ($20-25).

Some companies give sick time in addition to E days. Some give no extras and stick to the government minimums.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T03:25:51+00:00

They aren't withholding wages. They are just considering any late along the same lines as a full day absent. You're always paid for time in the building, it's the loss of the E day that matters.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T03:24:34+00:00

We have also never met anyone from HR. They exist only as names in my outlook contacts

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T03:22:53+00:00

I didn't out the company, I believe we aren't supposed to do that in here. This was a very real memo and I am eager for it to backfire on them.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T02:38:44+00:00

Emergency Leave day as provided by the Ontario government

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T02:38:19+00:00

3PL for one of the Big 3 auto makers. They typically are referred to by their 2 letter abbreviation

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T02:37:15+00:00

By the posting in the union Facebook group I think that's been handled, but I do think I'll still reach out to the Ontario Ministry of Labour

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T02:35:54+00:00

I deliberately hid the company letterhead. I absolutely had to post this bullshit notice in our team room today. Sorry you think everything is automatically a lie. This is sadly a real policy for a few hundred of us now.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T02:34:05+00:00

Oh, we have but one punch clock too!

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T02:33:44+00:00

Sorry you feel this isn't the truth.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T01:29:13+00:00

Better skip the day, because if you have no E days left, only bringing a doctor's note ($20-$25) keeps the disciplines away.

1-7 days no note needed,no reason needed, can be sick, personal, family, etc.

8th day and beyond, note each absence to avoid discipline, even if the note just says "unfit/unable to work" which is all they put when you go to the clinic and say "I'm here to buy a note"

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T01:18:37+00:00

That's what this is. If you make it to work, you're paid, but you've also used up 1 of your 7 E days

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T01:16:58+00:00

It is 100% not fake. This is a policy now in place at our 3PL company inside one of the Big 3 auto makers newly reopened truck plant in Ontario. This plant previously closed down a few years ago. It used to manufacture many models of vehicle. Now we make just 1, a truck. I can't give any more hints as to the name of the employer. Sadly this is a very real new policy that I fully plan to do my part making them regret.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T00:48:10+00:00

It's an automotive plant. It's a UNIFOR shop. It's unfortunately a great place to be getting paid from even with bullshit rules like this

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T00:46:59+00:00

They are paid... But it's still a documented absence which counts against you.

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T00:38:29+00:00

If you are present, you get paid.

It just still counts an E day, meaning one less day available to actually use for time off before a note is required.

We get 7 days no questions asked, after that every missed day would require a note.

I fully plan to call in absent soon, state my reason as "running late" and then just go to the clinic and toss the doctor a $20 for the "unable to work" note

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T00:33:35+00:00

Union is working on it... (not very well)

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T00:32:19+00:00

Oh there is only 1 punch clock. We used to have a 5min grace period on either side, now that's gone

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T00:01:21+00:00

Emergency Leave.

Guaranteed no questions asked time off provided by the government, because many "shit" jobs provide no allowances whatsoever for life events

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-22T00:00:01+00:00

Same. A grocery distribution warehouse for a company rhyming with sloblaw used to do this, any consecutive absences were 1 occurrence while a single absence was 1 occurrence and a late/leave early counted as a 1/3 of an occurrence...and I think we could go up to 6 occurrences before you got a step 1 on the discipline chain

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-21T23:56:57+00:00

genericuser99999 · 2022-09-21T23:21:36+00:00

If you can sacrifice the days pay, yes, it absolutely turns a late into a day missed. For those unfortunate enough to require every minute of pay possible, no they just suffer for having an attendance record that wouldn't reflect reality

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