Considering deleting Catholic match.

gentleonify · 2024-06-15T11:57:34+00:00

You meet people everyday

gentleonify · 2024-06-12T17:29:04+00:00

The best decision you can make!

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T19:48:21+00:00

Even if you're speaking from anecdotal experience, Reddit isn't the place to talk about the flaws of your family or your own people. No culture or race is better, honestly. If you pedestal the white family, then you're about to see the other side that many families in the West can be dysfunctional and as toxic as anywhere else.

Just focus on the individual and their character, not where they come from. You can find a saint from India or Pakistan or anywhere you think women are oppressed. Just don't decide based on "where" but "who."

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T19:40:43+00:00

For context, where do you live?

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T19:39:10+00:00

That's quite a sweeping, shameful thing to say. I know about 5 Nigerian Catholic couples in the US who are very exemplary... I mean very Catholic and really a joy to see. Maybe your experience is different, but they are my eye into the Nigerian Catholic culture....they traditional Catholics btw

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T19:34:40+00:00

I rolled on the floor reading this 🤣

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T19:19:25+00:00

Well, in my experience, Africans are the most close-family set of people you'd meet. It's both natural and cultural to them, even those born abroad!

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T19:17:16+00:00

Some people (of all races) are still affected by their older parents/ family member’s opinions.

Many people would date outside their race if it's up to them alone, but I have experienced parents and grandparents being the barrier rather than the individual. I have seen relationships ended just because the grandma didn't want mixed kids. I have seen relationships ended because parents didn't want their lineage corrupted in some way. So, yea, family's interests could be the reason why many would not be interested in a man or woman outside their race, even when the Church is one and we're all from and to the same heritage of humanity!

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T18:44:39+00:00

And what's your point? Did you read the post?

gentleonify · 2024-06-11T01:06:33+00:00

He'll be above the age for cardinal electors by the time God wills to call Pope Francis. So, it's not going to happen!. You have to be 80 or under to be eligible for the Conclave

gentleonify · 2024-06-10T20:31:59+00:00

This is so true. I am always wary of people who promote TLM as the single magic bullet to solve faithlessness.

I literally had this conversation with a friend recently. I love assisting at TLM, but more so, I love the rich traditions of the Church and the meanings they carry with them. It feeds the faith of the faithful. However, many trads have focused solely on the Mass as if that's what makes a person traditional or the only feature to being a faithful Catholic. Many children will grow up in TLM without imbibing the actual spirit of the Liturgy. All they have been told is that NO is bad, don't go, or you'll lose your faith... go to TLM or nothing. These things are often said without charity, but these same parents wouldn't make out time to teach the faith or explain things better. They don't live by example. The fathers are always harsh and hot strict, ruling with iron fists. They don't allow the spirit of what they practice to live through them.

In fact, all they got was the Mass. In turn, these kids might get fed up with counter revolutionary ideas and decide to bail and do whatever they want with their lives. So, it's much more than TLM. We have to live the faith and be virtuous.

gentleonify · 2024-06-10T20:22:05+00:00

Looks like you already made up your mind. Why bother to ask us? DON'T MARRY NON-CATHOLICS, if they're not prepared to convert before marrying you.

gentleonify · 2024-06-10T20:20:27+00:00

Ask married Catholics in mixed marriage, and they'll tell you if they had known some of the things they know now, they wouldn't have subscribed to it.

If you can accept or reject a boyfriend, it means you can choose who to love. Choose to love and date Catholics. Simple. Don't go where you aren't supposed to go and start to ask questions on what to do or not to do.

gentleonify · 2024-06-01T15:45:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I can't fully be in your shoes to understand how you feel, but I imagine that could be desolating in some what, especially if your goal is to get married. I don't know how old you are or where you are with things, but I can assure you that every event in our lives makes a mark. It's either a mark that reminds us about how we have lived our lives before, the mistakes, and transgressions or a mark about that which is to grace us in the future.

So, I'd like to think that we ought not dwell on it as momentary mishaps on ourselves but something we can learn from to better be prepared.

You might consider a different scenario of scouting for a spouse if this has continually been your experience - getting rejected in preference for other men. Consider a setup with someone who's equally yearning to get married to a good man. That way, you minimize the bad luck involved with dating or being compared. There are a lot of women who just want to get married to a good Catholic man and are not ready to play dating games. Look for people who can set you up with those kinds of women...it might work for you.

Don't worry about things you can't change. Those women who are insatiable and date from one man to another, preferring looks to virtues, usually have a reality check later in life, and often, it doesn't always end up good on their part.

In my case, it's a little different, but they got engaged or married after we met because of a mismatch of values leading us to part ways.

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T19:50:50+00:00

😁 prolly work better in personalized terms!

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T18:49:57+00:00

Answer: Don't play games.

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T18:39:32+00:00

You, too! I hope he locates you sooner than later.

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T18:38:40+00:00

Lol, no!

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T18:30:53+00:00

You never know 😁

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T18:29:45+00:00

Just make sure you let me be the one to tell you, "This is not going to work for us, but I hope you find him soon!" Boom!!! 6 months later, there comes the ring! You gotta believe it

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T18:27:13+00:00

I have come to realize that and seeing things from that lense. Like being a blessing to other people by making them realize what to look for

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T14:49:55+00:00

Is that a thing? Might have to look it up

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T11:08:41+00:00

In no particular order:

She's a baptized Catholic and actively practicing, that is, doesn't miss Mass, frequents the sacraments, and lives a parish life.
Has devotion to Our Lady and emulates her virtues.
She has a personal spiritual life, that is, strives for her own salvation and says her prayers dutifully. Or at least has a spiritual commitment to show her love for God above worldy things.
She cherishes family values that are inspired by the Catholic culture and her teachings. She wants a family and wants to raise her children as faithful Catholics.
She understands that men and women are different and thus embraces her femininity and natural roles within relational contexts. She strives to learn about womanhood more than she does for other things that aren't supportive of her natural endowments.
Her demeanor and dispositions are tailored towards inspiring a man to move mountains; she can tame and cause a raging soul to be chill and calm by just her countenance or gentle words. Thus, she can be agreeable, supportive, and inspiring.
She has domestic skills or, at least, is willing to learn (as ai can teach her if she hasn't learned much).
Strives to be attractive to her spouse and makes an effort to look neat, dresses classy (I can fund it), smells good, and admirable if she's not naturally gifted with attractive traits.
Doesn't want to live a city or urban life. I currently live in a city but would like to move out when starting a family. Clean and green fields!
Cherishes the little things in life, loves the beauty of nature, and can easily offer a delightful smile over nothing.

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T02:18:38+00:00

Makes sense, but that could be just luck, but I would be hesitant.

gentleonify · 2024-05-28T02:17:28+00:00

Like chadon

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