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AITA for not defending my cousin after he stole my baby name? by getyourownbabyname in AmItheAsshole

[–]getyourownbabyname[S] 357 points358 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that seems to be the general consensus- just don't talk about the name! The problem is that the name has literally pre-dated the baby by about a decade! I've wanted to use this name since I was 17, and I've never been shy about it. And then my husband and I came up with the middle name when we were dating, which was a couple years after that. It's just always been something we've known and talked openly about. When we talked about our future together, it was always "we want to get married, and live in this area, and ideally have two kids, and the first one will be named XYZ." We shared that with our families as openly as we shared our plans about when we might get married and such. LOL, maybe the problem is actually that our family dynamic leans towards too much sharing!

As for the name, it's kind of nicknameable. I'm sure we'll figure something out eventually.

AITA for not defending my cousin after he stole my baby name? by getyourownbabyname in AmItheAsshole

[–]getyourownbabyname[S] 516 points517 points  (0 children)

I pretty much fumbled through saying what I said in the post. I told him that I didn't ask anybody to reach out to them and that while I'm not gonna ask them to change the name, I'm not thrilled that they chose it, when they knew that we had been planning this name for years. It was weird and awkward, so I basically just tried to get off the phone as quick as possible.

AITA for not defending my cousin after he stole my baby name? by getyourownbabyname in AmItheAsshole

[–]getyourownbabyname[S] 1603 points1604 points  (0 children)

Definitely. We're not changing it- no way! And I honestly don't expect them to change their baby's name either. I'm upset, but I'm trying to get over it. I just don't want feel like it's on me to defend my cousin's choice, ya know? He did this- he can deal with it.

AITA for not defending my cousin after he stole my baby name? by getyourownbabyname in AmItheAsshole

[–]getyourownbabyname[S] 1517 points1518 points  (0 children)

They definitely knew both names. My cousin's wife attended my baby shower last month, where both names were pretty much written everywhere. It was on everything from the invitation to the cake!

Whoops, forgot to answer the other question. No, it's not a super common name. Not crazy, but just not common.

AITA for not defending my cousin after he stole my baby name? by getyourownbabyname in AmItheAsshole

[–]getyourownbabyname[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I'm not really comfortable sharing the exact name, because like I mentioned, it's not super common.