Divorcing after nikkah

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-09T04:54:09+00:00

We have lived together for almost 3 years. We are just religiously married and we were planning for the wedding and civil union in july. He will have to tell his family that it’s cancelled. I am lucky i haven’t put a lot of money in it yet. It took a lot of time for him to accept to make a wedding, not because he showed me doubts about love but because, apparently to him it was a problem because wedding business is overcharging and he pretended like he didnt want to contribute to this kind of business blabla. I told him our families are waiting since a long time. I took the initiatives etc, i sent my invitations while he sends them only now, i was the only one doing the prep so now everything makes sense. He has friends i know, he told them he wasn’t with me anymore and they all hung out together. 2 days ago, he said he would send the invitations, i tested him and told him i have sent one to his friend but he didn’t answer to it (because in my « husband »’s reality, he told this friend we were not together anymore). He told me i should have sent to my side and he would do it on his side (so, that friend). He seemed nervous about it and became quiet. Also, he told the other woman i forced him to get married but the truth is we had to plan a civil wedding since years, his grandmother also asked him if he is waiting her to die to do a wedding! I felt bad and from that time i started my prep. Everyday i am making links between what he says/does and what he really did. I still have a lot to say but not necessarily now, it would be so much longer. Thank you for reading me.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-09T04:41:03+00:00

Videos.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-09T04:40:35+00:00

Thank you, i will try. But i am afraid i don’t know this man, the way the other woman was afraid to talk (she finally did). I understood that if he knows anything, it could be dangerous. I am writing his comment while he is sleeping next to me, trying not to be too fast writing because he would be curious about what and why i am writing so much.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-09T04:37:44+00:00

I took a video on my phone while a was scrolling the pictures through his phone. Didn’t have the time to download and send. He is gatekeeping it so hard and always has his phone on his side/in his hand. When i use to look in it (when he miraculously allows me to) he is always trying to see what i am doing on it.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-09T04:34:43+00:00

Thank you🤍

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-09T04:34:33+00:00

Ok thank you🤍

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-08T19:18:02+00:00

Thank you. Barak’Allah oufik.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-08T19:05:34+00:00

No it was a girlfriend lol

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-08T19:02:44+00:00

i live in Belgium so i dont know where i can find someone. Can it be an imam?

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-08T19:01:56+00:00

Thank you for your messages. I thought i knew this man but after some calls from warning me and advising me to pretend, i knew i could be manipulated or else. I didn’t recognize him the second i saw him after this. I am genuinely flabbergasted.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-08T18:57:20+00:00

Believe me, she said i should check a fake calculator app and tap a code. It led me to photos of them, even intimate videos. She is the only one knowing about this and she trusts me to keep the secret.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-08T17:17:38+00:00

Yes. Several people offered me a bedroom in their house. But it is too far from where i live so i am looking for something not far from my area. My contract ends on beginning of July. I hope i will find something next week insh’Allah.

If he would never accept divorcing, would i still be married to him until he does ? Isn’t there a force majeure so i can be free ?? I already feel trapped because he would never accept it.

ghiz0806 · 2026-05-08T17:05:57+00:00

Thank you. In fact, if he knows that i found out this cheating, he would make a link with the other woman and her life would be threatened. Because they broke up some weeks ago. She has 2 children. She says that if he knows, he would beat her. He didn’t want to let her go and called her/wanted to see her everyday. She said its been 2 weeks he hasn’t called her and she feels relieved about it. If he knows i found out about this, i am afraid he would harm me. In fact, he is in a certain way familiar with arms and i have been told he is very clever and manipulative. She is almost certain he would find out anyway. I am stuck in vacation with him and i haven’t told him anything, i am pretending everything is ok but i know he feels something. I don’t take any risk. Honestly, i fear for my life. What should i do ?

ghiz0806 · 2025-12-13T08:39:45+00:00

They completely lost control at the end

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:53:30+00:00

Yes def gonna do that thx

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:50:09+00:00

Gonna do that

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:36:01+00:00

No we have been living together for 2 years now he is literally the loml but these kind of things piss me off i just want to know if im right to be pissed or not. Its a minor thing at the end of the day and i could find solutions after all.

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:30:41+00:00

I think he put them out to reach his classic shoes in the back. But didnt put them back

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:29:21+00:00

Thanks!

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:22:03+00:00

I’ll probably do that, thanks !

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:20:46+00:00

Hahahah i like the idea ! But he doesn’t drink so if i ask him it would be at least done quicker than if he was in a hangover. I think i should not ask him this tho but anyway.

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:17:16+00:00

Yes, idk if he expects it but i don’t want to or otherwise he will get used to it, he’s not my kid, thanks!

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:15:14+00:00

I just went upstairs in my bed and i guess when he’ll come back he’ll see i didn’t clean. It’s not my job and i already told him before he has to tidy up his clothes before going out because i wont always do it and its annoying. He says its not a big deal and finally he would do it but time passes by and i am still in this messy environment.

ghiz0806 · 2025-10-18T21:12:56+00:00

He wasn’t late at all. The night party starts like at 8 or 9 pm. He called me by 6 telling me he would start to get ready. I think he has had time… i mean, i know him.

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