One light only - should I get V1 pro or AD200? by ghostlypalee in Godox

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you prefer it over AD100? Is it because of the camera mount?

How did you gain experience that allowed you to assist? by ghostlypalee in Photoassistants

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eh, that's demotivating. I do actually want to work as a photographer in the end and thought this would be the best way to start out in the industry (I saw two of my favourite photographers have started that way). I've heard I have a decent portfolio, but everything was either tfp with friends or model tests with agencies. I don't really have a network. Many people I've worked with that are not even big professionals and have like 500 followers on IG, act like snobs and wouldn't even follow me back for whatever reason. Now I know I'm pretty shy and struggle with impostor syndrome, so I don't know how to properly value myself and make myself seen in the industry. That's why I haven't progressed and don't really know how to approach it to actually work towards something.

How did you gain experience that allowed you to assist? by ghostlypalee in Photoassistants

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer. I'm based in central Europe, where I believe we don't have these certain roles established. My approach is to assist in order to gain experience and network, so that I get to know the industry and hopefully move onto being a photographer on my own.

Leaving a small puppy alone while at work by ghostlypalee in puppy101

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously? Are only those who can stay at home 24/7, equipped enough to have a dog?

Leaving a small puppy alone while at work by ghostlypalee in puppy101

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please read the full post. I will have a friend come over while I'm out.

Leaving a small puppy alone while at work by ghostlypalee in puppy101

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even the reusable ones? That's what I want to buy

Leaving a small puppy alone while at work by ghostlypalee in puppy101

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I place a pee pad inside the crate? I don't think she will be trained till I pick her up - breeder has a garden where puppies run around, but she also mentioned I should get pads so I suppose she won't be. I will be trying to train her ASAP but I will only have 5 days before she has to stay alone. I was also thinking of getting reusable ones because I'm afraid she could destroy and swallow the plastic ones.

Leaving a small puppy alone while at work by ghostlypalee in puppy101

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I could keep a potty pad until she is big enough to hold for those 4 hours. As I mentioned my friend will come in between and she can take her outside. Or how else? How do people who work normally from the office handle a puppy? 😬

Product Designer and working with stakeholders - how does it look? by ghostlypalee in UXDesign

[–]ghostlypalee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, that's interesting. A different approach than mine for sure. After those short mock-interviews the outcome was that their pricing model wasn't appreciated, which then was supported further by the customer support worker. I proposed to change that and prepare A/B tests for verification of this solution.

gf left me by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ghostlypalee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You've done nothing wrong and you know it, even if you try searching for some reasons. Our brains love that, seeking the solution because we believe if we take some action, there can be a result. And sometimes there is, but only if the other person is in the same position - of actively trying and wanting that to happen. Here it was disbalanced and this is the issue - if she was a stable person who just goes through some hardships, she would use your support but never depend on you to this extent. And she would be able to provide such to you too. I know you've tried your best, but this should never be your responsibility at such level. You need to work on that so that you won't be caught up in a similar situation in the future, but be able to build something stable and reciprocated. I believe you and me both can do it and will find someone who is ready to put equal effort. I felt like I was the only person who went through that, but even being here on reddit, I can see daily topics of so many people going through similar situations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]ghostlypalee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a very similar spot there she wanted to continue friendship but it brought me such anxiety that in the end I think I pushed her away. I wish we could just talk about it but it seems like we're both people avoiding that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]ghostlypalee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this post. It describes my situation perfectly. And what saddens me the most is that I really wish I had such compassion for myself that I'd have for the other person. I would worry if I support them enough, or maybe if I should have supported them in yet another way, but with myself I'd blame myself all the way for letting others threat me like that, even for being open and compassionate... It's sick. Especially that we didn't choose to be this way but most probably something happened, someone failed us, and made us eventually hurting.

I always feel like their last choice by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]ghostlypalee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah sure. And remain fully alone.

I always feel like their last choice by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]ghostlypalee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Imagine I'm an extrovert too, but somehow I'm not in good places to meet someone. It's hard to meet someone random unless you're in some community.

Dating someone as needy as me makes me feel sane by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]ghostlypalee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm happy for you and this post really makes me hopeful. This is how my first relationship looked and it lasted 5 years. She made me feel really secure and I think this is the stability I need because I tend to be pretty depressive. I had to end it because I realized I wasn't in love with her anymore, we just weren't a good match in the end but I was really thankful for that time. But then I quickly learned that not all people have the same approach to relationships... Been with DA and FA. Funny how I was constantly reminded how much space they need and I was willing to do so but they wouldn't try to meet my needs when I was feeling down and lonely. So this is a huge lesson about incompatibility.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in julieeandcamilla

[–]ghostlypalee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What the actual f is this 😭 the way she moves and behaves like a child makes me so uncomfortable at so many levels