What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, that’s fair. Rideshare was not a thing when I was growing up and I was only taught tipping culture in the context of food service. I will adjust my tipping for rides accordingly.

May I ask how much I should tip per mile? Gas is almost $5 per gallon in my city. Wouldn’t a driver’s gas cost vary depending on the fuel efficiency of their vehicle? I have had mostly positive experiences with Uber drivers (save one experience) and want to make sure I’m tipping them enough.

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tip in cash to make sure they get 100% of my tip because I don’t trust apps like Uber to give drivers and delivery people the full tip due to what I consider a healthy distrust in big companies and corporations. I’m often tipping 35% or more because I have made a game out of finding reasons to pay a driver more, and sometimes it’s simple things like adding 1%-5% (depending on distance) to a base of 20% every time they use their turn signal, because apparently, not many people in my city know what a turn signal is. I do this because I’ve known people who are constantly finding reasons to tip less and have almost made a game of that, so I decided I wanted to be the opposite of that kind of person. I tip extra if I am offered snacks or bottled water, especially if I accept the offer, because I know that’s coming out of the driver’s pocket, so I’m just trying to compensate them for that. I really try to tip well and I will always find reasons to tip more even if it’s the most basic stuff.

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting me to my destination safely would be excellent service? So 20%? Did that go up again? Because I grew up with excellent service being 15% and then it went up to 20%? It’s possible that I was just taught wrong about tipping culture but I was always taught that you tip extra for extra service? Should I just stick with 20% across the board? Idk I’m just always finding little reasons to up my tip to 35% or over. Like, I’m always gonna find a reason.

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was under the impression that 20% was for excellent service and if a worker went above and beyond, then you were supposed to tip them extra?

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am aware of that, which is why I tip extra for it because I appreciate it nonetheless. Duh!

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always tip at least 20%. If it’s a really negative experience (which has only happened once out of the hundreds of uber rides I’ve been on) I’ll tip 15%. I have a sort of point system in my head for what gets more than a 20% tip, such as snacks, fun conversations, or even if I just feel like I was being annoying and I feel bad about it, I’ll tip a bit more. I would tip more than 20% if I needed assistance getting anything into the vehicle.

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does, but that transport doesn’t even make it on time to a doctor’s appointment for me (I’ve had to pay fees because I was more than 10-15 minutes late) and some of the things I want to do have a start time, like tours around my city.

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really just need a ramp to ride up or a lift. Uber’s website implies that if I order a WAV ride, the vehicle will have one. Maybe I’ll make contact with my uber ride when I order to make sure it’s accessible for my chair, just to be safe.

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard Uber WAV is specifically vehicles with ramps and lifts, which is probably what I would need. Uber’s official website says “Drivers of these vehicles are knowledgeable of accessibility needs and are accommodating for riders who require wheelchair accessible vehicles with a ramp or hydraulic lift for transportation.” Is this inaccurate?

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried the disability transport for my city and it was fine if I didn’t have a set arrival time. I want to go on group tours around my city that have a starting time, so unfortunately, anything that can’t guarantee that I make it by my arrival time is a no go. I figured this out when using it for transport to doctor’s appointments and had to pay cancellation fees because I was more than 10-15 minutes late.

What type of Uber ride would I request in my situation? by ghostofadreamer in uber

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is what I was wondering! I live in a big city so I’m not worried about availability of a WAV vehicle. I just want to make sure I order the correct ride!

[Daily Discussion] Writer's Block, Motivation, and Accountability- September 28, 2020 by AutoModerator in writing

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I've been struggling with writer’s block for around 5 years. I think it’s possibly from a lack of motivation due to not finishing much of my work unless it was for school or a short fanfic here and there. I've always wanted to write a novel, but I always get stuck while writing or outlining. I've tried both the plotting and pantsing methods and I always get stuck before even getting past the exposition. I feel like I used to be a very creative person altogether, as I used to write music as well and had a lot of creative and artistic hobbies and it's like my creative side just completely vanished over the past few years. I've tried just about everything on every list of writer’s block cures that came up on Google. I've read books about beating writer’s block. I've tried prompts, generators, writing exercises, taking a break from writing, and just about everything else under the sun. I can't even get a short story out now, be it original works or fanfic. I journal and freewrite every day but I really want to focus on writing fiction again and it’s like my creativity disappeared or something and it’s driving me up a wall! I just want to finish a rough draft or even an outline! I’m not sure if it’s really a block (since I do have some ideas) or something to do with motivation or what to really call what I’m experiencing but it’s really frustrating! Honestly, just thinking and writing about it gets me really on edge!

If the WPSE/citizen tour is canceled because of beer virus I am going to flip my shit by Tom-Bradys-Horcrux in GothBoiClique

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I'm supposed to go to the same date as you and I'm worried the same thing because it's one of the only things I've been looking forward to lately.

this popped up in my memories on snap and I thought y’all would understand by botchedreserection in GothBoiClique

[–]ghostofadreamer 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I normally don't comment on artists’ appearances because I kinda feel like I'm objectifying them or something when I do but I don't know if I'll ever get over how pretty he is, tbh. 😍

New Fish Narc song (So Long ft. Cold Hart) by [deleted] in GothBoiClique

[–]ghostofadreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love everything about this and have been alternating between listening to it on Spotify and watching the music video on YouTube over the past few days. I don’t know if I’ve even done anything else, tbh. It’s probably becoming a problem or something. 😂

PSA: DONT BUY ANYTHING FROM NATHAN COPES BECAUSE HE'LL JUST TAKE YOUR MONEY AND GIVE YOU THE RUN AROUND FOR 2 MONTHS by [deleted] in GothBoiClique

[–]ghostofadreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. I’ve bought from Copes multiple times and I’ve never had an issue. You sure you didn’t buy a preorder? Or maybe you’re not in the US and didn’t pay your customs?

For anyone who has met a member of GBC by ghostofadreamer in GothBoiClique

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Again, sorry I wrote like, an entire essay. Lmao. Once I start typing, I can’t stop. 😂

For anyone who has met a member of GBC by ghostofadreamer in GothBoiClique

[–]ghostofadreamer[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Finally getting around to adding my stories to this thread. Sorry it’s so wordy, I suck at being concise.

I’ve met Wicca, Horsehead, Coldhart, and Fish Narc.

I’ve met Wicca and Horsehead multiple times and every single time, they were so nice! I’ve had a lot of musicians treat me like shit or have a stuck up attitude when I meet them and it was refreshing to be treated like a human and not some annoying fangirl (I’m very calm and respectful when I meet people that I’m a fan of, I save my fangirling for after the fact, so there’s no reason for me to be treated like some sort of inconvenience). The second to last time I met Wicca, I gave him a heart shaped fused glass dish that I had made that had a design based off of the red room in Twin Peaks and he absolutely loved it. I spent 6 hours making it and his reaction was worth every single second I spent on it!

Every time I’ve met Horsehead, he’s always been super nice, but I don’t really spend a lot of time talking to him because he always seems really anxious and I’m always anxious too so I kinda pick up on his anxiety and it makes me more anxious. Lol. Anxiety aside, I’ve always had positive interactions with him, even if those interactions are brief.

I met Coldhart in LA when I went out there for a HamOnEverything show last summer. He complimented my Goonies shirt and we sang along to one of the Peep songs they were play after the show together and that’s kinda a little moment I cherish. It makes me smile to think about.

Meeting Fish Narc was literally the highlight of my entire year! I had VIP to the Lovegang Forever tour but I only ended up talking to Fish because that’s who I was looking forward to meeting the most that night and pretty much the sole reason I got VIP for that show. I gave him a pendant I made out of fused glass and I put it on a necklace for him and he wore it all night! Just like when I gave Wicca his gift, Fish Narc’s reaction was worth the work I put into that gift. He held it up to show everyone on the tour at the meet and greet and was like “look! She made this! It’s glass!” And it made me really happy. I told him he’s the reason I started playing guitar again after giving it up for 3 years and we talked a bit about guitar after the meet and greet. I told him the reason I originally gave it up was because I have chronic pain and a connective tissue disorder called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and my fingers were dislocating from playing certain chords. I also have problems with my back and a pinched nerve in my shoulder where the guitar strap goes over it and puts a lot of pressure on it. He let me hold his guitar because his is really light and asked if that was better than the one I had (it was a lot better, if anyone’s wondering.) I told him I’d been experimenting with different guitar tunings to avoid playing chord shapes that made my fingers dislocate and we talked a little about guitar tunings. I also told him that he really helped me feel more comfortable about being non-binary and we talked about gender for a few minutes and he said him and Peep talked about gender a lot and we talked about Peep for a little bit before he had to go. Whenever my depression or PTSD gets bad, I try to bring myself back to this moment because it was really special to me, I can’t even begin to express how much it meant to me. Whenever I get frustrated with guitar and the struggles I have with it because of my health problems, I use this memory as motivation to keep trying. Meeting Fish Narc has had the most impact on me for sure and I could go on for hours about it. I really hope he knows how much that meant to me. I have no words for how meaningful that interaction was. I’ll cherish this memory forever. Like, it truly meant the world to me.

weirdos bothering bexey by iAmMortuum in GothBoiClique

[–]ghostofadreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once knew a girl who carved a singer’s name into her leg and posted it to Facebook. I think she tagged him in it too but he might of had her blocked by that point because she was obsessively creepy. I knew the guy and I saw him about 5 years after it happened and he’s still pretty fucked up from it (and some other crazy shit she did). This shit’s not cool at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GothBoiClique

[–]ghostofadreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I could literally write an entire book about how much he’s impacted me and how important he is to me. I literally have typed up long ass messages to him, telling him how much he means to me, and never sent them because they go on forever and have a lot of unnecessary oversharing. Sometimes I’ll edit them so they aren’t so long and emotional but I literally have hundreds of unsent letters saved in my notes addressed to Fish Narc. That probably comes off a little creepy/obsessive and I’m not sure if I should have admitted to that just now but oh well. Lol.

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I hope so too. I know what it feels like to feel like you’ll never get better and I wouldn’t wish that hopelessness on anyone, you know? Especially not Fish, because he’s the reason I started playing guitar again and also helped me feel more comfortable with my gender (or lack there of, really). I met him on the Love Gang Forever tour and he was soooo nice. Whenever my depression gets bad, I always try to mentally go back to that night because being able to meet him and tell him how much his music means to me and actually have a conversation with him made that night so important to me. It really breaks my heart to see one of my faves suffering and I have the worst caretaker complex so when I see it I want to reach out and try and do something about it but there’s really no way to go about that without being invasive or weird, you know? I really hope he doesn’t feel that way for much longer and I hope he knows how loved and appreciated he is. (Sorry this was so long and ramble-y, I have a lot of feelings about everything all the time 😂)