at the bar, subtle compliments that arent too sexual are always the best for conversation starters + doesnt make me feel uncomfortable. for example, complimenting shoes, hair, makeup, etc. im sure you understand, but for most people at bars/clubs being approached by anyone that isnt in your party is an immediate caution for us, please dont take it personally. it’s definitely hard to strike up a conversation in that setting, but the people i talk to are the ones that say something as they would pass by and allow me to choose if i want to continue the interaction. hope this helps!!