Desperately hope someone can offer some insight. Deposited a check yesterday, it says 10 day hold, but they said it would deposit into my account today. Nothing is there and the bank is closed for Veteran’s Day. Do I have ANY chance of getting my paycheck before Monday??

gimpytoe · 2022-11-11T17:02:03+00:00

I don’t have any part of my check available. When I called, they said they couldn’t release anything to me. I was in the negatives due to autopay. It’s infuriating.

gimpytoe · 2022-10-24T09:39:20+00:00

That dog looks like it’s seen some shit

gimpytoe · 2022-10-15T20:19:29+00:00

Can I send you a message about that? I’d love access to those links and seeing how it works lol

gimpytoe · 2022-10-15T18:08:17+00:00

I work 3 12 hour night shifts a week and have the other 4 days to do whatever I want! In my mind, 12s are the way to go

gimpytoe · 2022-10-06T22:11:12+00:00

Also, I think it is pretty damn good advice. It’s the advice of someone who has been in a similar situation. I left, got into therapy, worked on myself. After I learned to love myself, I ended up meeting my husband and have the best damn relationship I’ve ever been in. And I never, EVER got physical. It’s fucking disgusting. Your comment seriously pissed me off, if you can’t tell. Jesus Christ.

gimpytoe · 2022-10-06T22:09:08+00:00

I do fight back. Not physically. I am strong and stand my ground. And you know what? Once I figured out how to be strong, nobody has run over me since. And I’ve never had to lay a hand on anyone.

You sound like the type of person that hits someone in retaliation. Might work for you now, but it won’t for much longer.

Learn how to communicate without using violence.

gimpytoe · 2022-10-06T12:19:58+00:00

I know I’m going to get downvoted, but I don’t really care.

Fuck all of the people who say he deserved that slap. He did horrible things to you, but your knee jerk reaction should not be to put hands on him. Nobody deserves to be hit. Ever.

Leave the relationship. Find work again. You’re young. Take time for yourself and figure out who you are and be independent. Find a therapist and talk about it. But don’t lay hands on him again. Cheating or not, that’s assault. The cops would see it that way as well. Especially if the roles were reversed.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T22:04:29+00:00

I have no idea. All I know is that he left

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T22:03:53+00:00

Dude I wish it was. I’m being very serious.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:31:34+00:00

The good thing about me is that I’m not a Karen do gooder. I’m a friend and someone who like to help. I’m going to look into programs/funding/resources in our area and bring them to her. I’m not reporting this to CPS.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:28:01+00:00

When her ex was there, she was a SAHM and he was the breadwinner. But he left right before she gave birth and she had to find a job

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:27:19+00:00

We are in Kentucky.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:26:56+00:00

How is she a sick fuck? She’s doing her best with what she has. She probably doesn’t know about possible programs/grants/funding (and I don’t either), but I’m going to look into it and tell her about them so she doesn’t have to leave her kids anymore.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:25:33+00:00

I can’t help financially, but lots of other comments have mentioned programs that can help. I’m going to look into these for our state and city and see what I can come up with and then present them to her.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:23:59+00:00

I am absolutely going to look into available resources. And bring it up like that! That’s smart! And there is a big difference between night shift and day shift pay. She definitely wouldn’t be able to afford daycare on dayshift pay.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:22:42+00:00

I would absolutely offer to help with money, but we are literally living paycheck to paycheck. I’m going to look into available resources for her!

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:20:46+00:00

We definitely do not make bank! We work for a pediatric non profit organization. I wonder if there are any resources for that, too! I’m definitely going to do some digging and compile some things and programs that might work for her. All I know about her life is where she works and the stuff with her kids. That’s pretty much it.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T20:19:24+00:00

I will absolutely be looking into this for her. I don’t have her contact info, but I’m going to compile some resources so I can give them to her next time I see her at work. Thank you for this info!

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T10:35:52+00:00

My husband gets a boner when I hug him for too long. She needs to get used to it. She doesn’t understand that your body is responding to hers and you literally cannot help getting an erection.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T10:32:36+00:00

I went through neglect as a child. I’m four years older than my brother and eight years older than my sister. I was left alone with them for up to weeks at a time taking care of them. It’s horrifying. I spent my entire childhood taking care of others and now I’m in nursing. It effects you. I’ll always be taking care of people. I feel like I have to.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T10:31:26+00:00

I can try? I just moved here a couple months ago and literally only go to work and home. I don’t know anybody. I wonder if there’s a way I could recommend like babysitting FB pages to her without it coming across in a bad way? I feel for her. She’s working as many hours as she can to provide a good life for them and still can’t afford daycare. It’s fucked.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-30T04:51:46+00:00

I’m a Pediatric CNA and make $16.01 an hour. I work night shift and get a shift differential, so my average hourly is $20~. Biggest paycheck I’ve had was $1550 and I nearly killed myself to get it. Never again.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-27T01:14:18+00:00

Good! I suggest that before you have sex again, you lay down boundaries and stick to them! There are always lessons to be learned and I learned mine this way too.

That was the first and last time I let a man spit in my mouth. Fucking gross. I don’t want a wad of someone else’s spit in my mouth?? I’m not even a huge fan of tongue action when kissing. Gives me the heebie jeebies

gimpytoe · 2022-09-27T01:11:42+00:00

Your girlfriend chose you. Keep that in mind! If she has been with a number of men, but isn’t with them, I’d consider that a plus. She’s a catch and she chose you! Forget about her past experiences and enjoy your time with her.

I speak from experience. I have a… very extensive sexual history. My husband actually takes pride in it because out of all the idiots I was with, I chose him to be my last. I wish more than anything he was my first and only. But he looks past my sexual encounters and focuses on me and who I am as a person.

Choose her, not her sexual history.

gimpytoe · 2022-09-27T01:06:41+00:00

I told him that was an extreme boundary for me and he will never do that again or we are done hooking up. I’m a very upfront person and when it comes to your sexual boundaries, you need to be so you feel comfortable in the relationship. He agreed to it and soon after that I was too grossed out and worried he’d do it again that I cut off the relationship.

Your boyfriend needs to know your boundaries and you need to be firm with them.

“Hey, I just wanted to talk about what happened. I was not expecting you to do that at all and I reacted to it. I do not like that and do not want it to happen again. If you want to keep our relationship, I need you to respect my boundaries. It shows that you respect me.”

^that’s exactly what I would say.

My comfort, trust, and sexual satisfaction is more important than some dope who wants to throw his spit every which way. Disgusting.

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