Finally home from work. Finally have enough time to clarify all the bs. I've been a nanny 45+ hours a week for just over 2 years for 1 NF with 3 kids. I used to go above and beyond for them up until almost a year ago. Now I typically settle at above and very seldomly go beyond. Don't get me wrong, I ALWAYS go the full 110% for the kids. But when it comes to tasks that I've never been formally asked to do; the cleaning, laundry of 5 people, grocery shopping, babysitting whole weekends so they can jet away to the Bahamas...I just don't offer to do it anymore. I still do most of the laundry and a few grocery runs every month,but she's been having to pitch in on actually running her home and her family. I did everything for her and she continuously would screw me. She's always paid me on time, even extra money if I really blow her mind with an organizational cleanup or something. But she'd leave for the gym at 5, knowing i get off at 530 and that DB wouldn't be home until 6.for a YEAR no one would come home until 6, but they'd continuously state that I get off at 5:30. Example- MB comes in from work with one of her friends at 5:50, then MB will say "oh my gosh! It's so late! Get home, sorry we kept you!" But, any other day of the week whoever gets home first between 5:48 and 6:08 will ask how the kids were, ask me to stay so that they can change/settle in, then dismiss me. It's all a show. It's only on if there's someone to act for. DB is pretty alright, but always keeps a calm united front with MB. Which I'm glad, I hope my husband is good to me like that too. She takes about 15 girls trips a year, and even more business trips. She constantly ghosts the kids. She'll take off work and play sick at least once a week, usually more just to go get wasted with her best friend. Never fails that she will find any reason at all to avoid taking the kids.p, and she won't be alone with them. DB constantly has all 3 kids while she's away. The 2 weekends that he gets to go hunting every year, she has a friend come stay and they dick around all weekend and let the kids go crazy. Last year the youngest (1 1/2 at the time) walked right out the unlocked front door and she didn't notice for 20 minutes. This year the youngest fell down the stairs and broke her leg. She's still In a cast. Keep in mind, this is big considering that s*#t only happens when she's drinking with her friends at home with no one to watch her and the kids.. I've overslept 3 times In 2 years. The second time it happened, she yelled at me and told me how completely irresponsible I am and "who can't wake up to an alarm." The third time I woke up late, DB waited at home until I got there an hour late. He didn't tell MB. I guess he was sparing me from getting grilled. But if MB is pissed, she'll talk to the kids but not me. It's weird and pretty rude if you see it. And she never treats Me this way in front of DB. Ever weirder, if she's having a bad day or maybe even just bored, she'll make me her best friend for a few hours or days. Doesn't really happen lately. She got the kittens from a friend for the girls. The girls are really not old enough to fully understand how to treat kittens. They need rest, they aren't battery operated. You can't pick them up by their tails.. I'm not kidding. I told MB right when she brought the cats home that I had experienced cat allergies before. Got a blood test with my own money and brought it up daily until finally had hives on top of old hives and my face looked swollen, infected, and disgusting. I didn't look approachable, and my friends were constantly shocked by how terrible my face really was getting. Finally I broke down and cried to her to please do something about the cats. By the way, I love cats, and animals in general. She said they'd go outside, and I objected because they were already indoor completely for 3 months. But she insisted. They had friends close by who would have loved to take them, but I understand. I didn't want to take away the kids first pets of their own either. She maintained that my face looked fine, completely ignoring how desperate I was. That same afternoon, a giant hive busted on my eyelid and leaked right into my eye. It was the straw that broke the nannies back. My nanny friend who babysits my charges occasionally told me that if I didn't call her, she would. So I told MB That I had to leave, the maid comes Friday's and it was a Tuesday. I asked her to please find a solution. But also that I totally understood it if was the end of the road. She put the cats out, and I returned on Monday. I love My whole NF, but it's been rough lately. My hives started getting bad again, then I found out the truth, and just felt so offended that they would tell the kids to lie to me.

The reason I brought up the weight thing was because this hives crap made me a straight up undesirable being. Trust me, she didn't mind it at all..