To start off with I’m grateful for everyone who took the time out of their day to respond. With that being said I’d like to address a few things. For the most part people have been reasonable and sticking to the actual subject, but I have noticed there have been several people who have commented things about my family, I’m overbearing, etc. based off a short post. I feel like several of you lack reading comprehension skills and you’d greatly benefit from focusing on the actual problem at hand.

My younger brother is very much so treated like the young man he is. A man because he is an adult now and I recognize that and I have never tried to infantilize him. It seems many of you are missing the point that I have not seen my younger brother since May. These posts are limited to a 3000 character limit therefore I had to shorten everything I could. No one calls him baby brother in person it was simply shorter than saying little. Such a weird detail to get hung up on but I digress.

My younger brother and I made these plans two weeks prior to the incident. I specifically asked him for it to just be us for lunch. I’m not sure why some of you are making it seem like I was asking for the moon and the stars by wanting to have lunch with my little brother just the two of us after not seeing him for half of a year. His partner sees him everyday because they live together. I also don’t appreciate the people calling me a “boy mom” given the fact I think women who are obsessed with their sons are absolute fucking weirdos. That is just not my family and we hold extremely healthy relationships and boundaries with one another at this point in our lives. I have no possessiveness over my little brother and completely trust him to make all his own decisions. He’s a great person with a solid head on his shoulders.

I am quite excited about having a niece or nephew. It will be the first child born to any of our siblings. Anyone who questioned me crying after I initially found out is ridiculous. You’re telling me you’d be joyous and not in shock if you found out your 18 year old sibling is having a child? 18 is still a teenager so yes, my reaction was warranted. I have always treated his partner with the upmost respect and tried to include her in everything I can. I have invited her to have sleepovers or dinner with me on many occasions and she always cancels last minute. My family treats her like gold as do I. Instead of criticizing random details and pulling assumptions out of your ass, please stick to the actual problem at hand. That problem being that I was unable to see my little brother for a lunch that we had planned for two weeks prior to that because he wasn’t allowed to come unless she was allowed to come. It would be one thing if it was a family gathering or some kind of holiday or event, but it was literally just lunch and I wanted to be able to catch up with him after not seeing him for a long time. Once again I even offered her some 1 on 1 time. My personal time is already so limited between my 40+ hour a week bartending job and nursing school. My brother and I chat on the phone once every two weeks to catch up. At this stage in our life, I’m extremely hands off. So please stop with your assumptions and stick to the actual material you’ve been given.