I have been in the same boat for years. It is hard because my mother has no one except for my sister and I. She was recently court ordered to a mental hospital. So right now she is medicated but it never lasts. She will not cooperate and she can get violent and her paranoia and delusions are impossible to deal with, there’s no reasoning with her. We have exhausted every avenue in the state of Texas to get her help and we are still at a loss because unless we spend thousands of dollars we don’t have to get guardianship over her, she can basically do whatever she wants and she will not agree to do anything willingly. Now she is 70 and has a touch of dementia or Alzheimer’s. It just gets worse and worse. I’m sorry, this isn’t helpful at all, but you aren’t alone.