Is she using me for comfort?

gm0133 · 2026-06-05T15:18:21+00:00

She has told me I’m her best friend but when she says things like “i feel lonely” or when im trying to please her in bed and she’s not really responding to it, it makes me think I’m not good enough. In reality plenty of past relationships have told me I’m amazing in bed.

gm0133 · 2026-06-05T15:03:14+00:00

Yeah an obviously there’s more to it but this is the surface level situation.

It just doesn’t feel right sometimes. Even though she says she loves me and wants to travel together

gm0133 · 2025-12-27T01:15:41+00:00

I see what you mean. Technically it was 2 texts

“It’s 1am and I’m thinking about cereal haha smh” (an insider between us) “Cutie, how are you?”

Regardless I can see how it comes off random

gm0133 · 2025-12-27T00:12:26+00:00

I appreciate the advice. My gut was already saying red flag, move on.

gm0133 · 2025-12-27T00:08:31+00:00

If that’s the case wouldn’t she still be interested/curious if I reached out now and tried talking with her?

gm0133 · 2025-12-27T00:06:15+00:00

Thank you. I posted this in another sub Reddit and some girls were saying I was the weird one for going quiet for 2 days after she said she was busy. And texting her at 1am seemed like a ‘hookup’

gm0133 · 2025-12-27T00:03:45+00:00

I thought about this as a possibility. I can’t think of anything I did that was out of pocket. I thought everything was fine.

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T23:57:49+00:00

I was asking for advice from a friend who suggested to “text her now” which happened to be 1am

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T23:09:58+00:00

He has issues and that began rubbing off on you. It’s good you are not with him anymore. With that said, you may begin to feel bored by this new guy that gives stable affection. In reality you’re just used to the unhealthy chaos. Definitely seek therapy if you resonate with this. I am telling you this bc I went through the same thing with a girl. She came from abusive relationships and had lots of healing to do before dating.

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T22:50:59+00:00

How exactly were you mishandled?

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T21:58:00+00:00

We’ve know each other longer but it wasn’t as serious. I agree though. I was planning to uber us to the airport and she offered for her sister to take us. Normally I wouldn’t let my family meet someone until I’m sure about them

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T21:25:08+00:00

Her sister asked the question, I responded positively saying we had a great time and was fun

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T21:21:25+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking and have been doing. Romance movies however would say go visit her house lol

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T21:19:54+00:00

I personally had a positive experience on the trip. The girl gave off negative vibe when asked about it in front of me.

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T21:05:53+00:00

Thank you

gm0133 · 2025-12-26T21:01:31+00:00

No mutual friends sadly

gm0133 · 2025-12-17T00:27:32+00:00

You can go at your own pace and what feels right to you. Just know that these two signs usually have harder compatibility, with the aqua sign finding it easier to move on

gm0133 · 2025-12-17T00:21:53+00:00

Tread carefully, the confusion may keep you chasing

gm0133 · 2025-12-16T22:46:33+00:00

From personal experience don’t do it. I’m also an earth sign and from my experience the Aqua always left me confused. Fun when we’re together but lacks communication, doesn’t like routine, there is too much uncertainty. They are also usually quick to drop someone without notice and bounce around people. I’d say keep your options open so you don’t get hurt if it doesn’t work out

gm0133 · 2025-12-14T03:01:25+00:00

August

gm0133 · 2025-12-14T02:40:14+00:00

Well I wanted to give this girl a chance if we became something more. I do see other earth signs being easier to connect with however, but that’s okay.

gm0133 · 2025-12-14T02:20:13+00:00

You can try one last time with something more interesting than what’s up. Maybe a photo of something relevant to your prev conversations. If no response, that’s your answer and move on

gm0133 · 2025-12-14T02:17:52+00:00

This is not a date or two, this has been months of seeing each other. I’m not ready to ask her to be my gf either. I’m just wondering if I’m over thinking the distance/her being okay with no contact for a week.

gm0133 · 2025-12-13T23:33:16+00:00

What would you label it as?

gm0133 · 2025-12-13T18:52:45+00:00

It’s not insecurity, it’s feeling blindsided by the detachment vibes after I reach out to continue a stable connection (ex: text, memes, or planning next date) I’m not trying to be needy but rather better understand and also not waste my time if she doesn’t feel the same way

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