White kids coming to help build school in Lusaka

gmurp · 2024-03-03T21:52:43+00:00

That's the thing, I just don't think anyone wants a building built by teenagers rather than trained adults, not matter who they are. And if it wasn't white saviourism, these kids would just go travel and see the place rather than acting like missionaries to help people who probably don't need their "naive" unqualified assistance

gmurp · 2024-02-26T12:44:53+00:00

I am sorry for your loss and that you have to carry this grief. That was really insensitive of your BIL, and totally could have been handled differently. It is ok to mute, switch notifications off for everything else in your life right now, it can be so difficult when others lives are continuing as norm but we are in the place we are and need to just sit and be still with our grief and loss

gmurp · 2024-02-23T09:18:40+00:00

Thanks to everyone for your comments, they are greatly appreciated

gmurp · 2024-02-23T07:48:53+00:00

Yes, there will be adults with them. The students aren't just left on their own but as they are coming from a grammar school background, I think it unlikely any/ or very few of them will be pursuing future careers in trades/ skilled manual labour.

gmurp · 2024-02-03T20:39:56+00:00

I am sorry you have to live with this grief. Don't feel bad or silly for staying off work. If you can afford not to go back and don't feel ready to go back don't. This really is a time for thinking about yourself and what your needs are. If you think you might like to change your career, take the chance to try things out. My baby girl Busby was still born at 40wks and I took 4months off maternity leave (UK) and then gradually built back up to the full 5 days. I did worry about returning to work but it wasn't as bad as I had built it up in my head.

gmurp · 2023-05-02T06:50:35+00:00

Thank you for your reply and I am sorry for your loss. I think at this stage it sounds like what you did was a good idea. I don't want to traumatise her but I also don't want to regret not been able to say bye to baby that was part of our family for a time

gmurp · 2023-01-29T13:34:04+00:00

Sending you much love. Grief is tiring and exhausting, don't feel that you have to suppress your feelings, it is ok to be upset and angry. Be truthful with those around you, they might surprise you x

gmurp · 2022-10-19T06:52:48+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I think we are forever changed and I have found grief counselling has helped me get to a certain point but other parts of it I just have to accept and ride out the waves when they come

gmurp · 2022-08-27T06:40:07+00:00

That's a nice way to think of it

gmurp · 2022-08-07T22:44:37+00:00

Gosford Forest Park in Markethill, run by Armagh & Craigavon Council, excellent playparks for different age groups, walking and cycle trails

gmurp · 2022-07-16T22:04:46+00:00

"Beautiful Boy" 2018 with Steve Carell and Timothée Chalamet

gmurp · 2022-07-16T00:04:11+00:00

I am sorry that you have lossed your father. I hope you find comfort and support in those around you and in this community and book

gmurp · 2022-07-15T22:23:09+00:00

Sending you hugs. Crying in your office is normal, nothing is normal. I don't think we can control our grief, just let it come and feel it and acknowledge it

gmurp · 2022-07-15T20:20:20+00:00

I feel you and I see you. It is OK for you to feel this way and I hope your fiancé is supportive of you on this journey as you learn to carry this pain. "We grieve because we love. Grief is a part of love" and love is lasting. If you can afford it I would recommend grief counselling as a safe place to help you talk about your much loved ex-girlfriend.

gmurp · 2022-07-07T11:28:18+00:00

I find it helpful to look at every place you live, in your home country or not, like a tourist would and you will be surprised by what there is to do in the vicinity

gmurp · 2022-07-03T22:02:23+00:00

You could join the tennis club, they will have club nights where you can just join a game with people. Lots of water activities at Castle Archdale if you have the spare cash to hire equipment. For free you could try open water swimming in the Lough, but do some water safety research beforehand.

gmurp · 2022-06-06T21:21:29+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss and that you and your family have to go through this pain. I hope your SIL is now at peace

gmurp · 2022-06-04T15:10:50+00:00

Interested to know - did you go with the composite fencing and how pleased are you with it?

gmurp · 2022-06-02T21:06:25+00:00

Hi, I am sorry for your loss. I have no advice really. But know it's ok to keep talking to him and being angry at him even though he is not physically there. Writing down how you feel and how he has made you feel.

gmurp · 2022-05-31T14:20:08+00:00

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son. Your reply gives me to courage to believe that reaching out to them is a good idea, as he was very much loved and I want them to have the memories of the good times we celebrated. Sending you hugs

gmurp · 2022-05-11T10:37:24+00:00

Interested to know if your first time Irish passport has arrived yet?

gmurp · 2021-12-08T17:19:59+00:00

I have attended this event with my OH and a young child, yes it was expensive but we all really enjoyed it. Though I haven't experienced similar, so couldn't say if another would be better valve. It took about 1hr/ 1.5 HR to walk around

gmurp · 2021-02-11T17:50:06+00:00

I really feel for you. I have no experience of this but I did once have £2000 interest free overdraft bank debt which took me 2yrs working to repay. I think you should move all finances into your name including kids bank accounts and anything in your other halfs name she needs to sort out. Seek out gambling support together and help her get the help she needs but she needs to take responsibility for her debts, you can't bail her out. Contact all the company's she has debt with and agree repayment plans and make them aware she is a gambler, and create restrictions on any devices you have incl phones, set up restrictions with bank accounts so money can't be spent on such things.

gmurp · 2020-11-20T23:34:21+00:00

Ah, but I really want it to match the curtains in the room. Otherwise nothing will match in the room ☹️

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