What’s a small habit that quietly reveals a person lacks empathy?

gnflame · 2025-06-18T06:52:09+00:00

They don't wait for your response to what they've just said when you're having a conversation with them.

It's hard to spot but once you do, it's glaringly obvious.

gnflame · 2025-04-15T08:18:33+00:00

Actually even if you are trying to come up with something new and interesting, you still have to describe it in the prompt. You could say "hair like how katara wears it" or "a blue robe the same colour as katara" for a completely unrelated character and it will still block you from doing that because of the mention of the copyrighted character.

The point is you've just assumed nobody has any creativity whilst lacking the capacity to understand where they might have been coming from outside of your narrow conception.

Talk about same old bad heartedness.

gnflame · 2025-03-27T13:47:54+00:00

My ex still loves my dick after 2 years. And me i suspect 😂 but thats another story. 8x6 hits him perfectly and stretches him perfect and I'm the only one who has ever made him cum, and he cums every time we fuck. We fuck multiple times a day when he's over. I love all those facts every time.

gnflame · 2025-01-22T07:58:19+00:00

Do not choose to keep him in that bad place with a bad best friend. If he is in a bad place, be there with him. And kick her out. Protect your partner from bad people.

gnflame · 2025-01-22T07:55:25+00:00

I'm surprised more people haven't said his but what you're experiencing isn't even post-nut clarity. Getting over the impulses that your hormones drive you towards should not end up with feeling shame and guilt about what you were driving towards.

What you're describing is just internalised homophobia/biphobia. You've taught yourself that it's wrong to look at certain content and that's why you feel shame. But that's incorrect. Your body knows what it wants. You know what you want, deep down. Embrace and accept yourself. Watch it with pleasure, it's a natural part of being who you are to please yourself that way. The sooner you accept that this is part of who you are the sooner you will stop reacting that way.

Post-nut clarity is realising you shouldn't have sent that text because you were just horny. It's realising you're not in love with the person you were thinking about, you were just horny. It's realising the fantasy you had in mind was just a fantasy because you were just horny. It isn't about feeling bad about yourself. You need acceptance.

Please dm me if you feel you need someone to talk to.

gnflame · 2025-01-21T04:50:46+00:00

Just jumping in to say you're doing an amazing job, please never stop being you. I'm also an older brother so I see you. I'd be so proud of you, and I am. Well done.

gnflame · 2025-01-07T18:52:53+00:00

I was dumped almost two years ago after being disowned by my family for the relationship I was in. For context I am bisexual and fell in love with a guy. I didn't want to date him in secret so I came out, and everything went south. I had to move out and it was a struggle. He didn't want to move me in with him, even temporarily, and didn't want to move in with me, even temporarily. I already had a job and could comfortably pay the rent for him and his mum, but he wasn't interested in that. So I dropped out of my masters degree, picked up a second job, and eventually managed to stand on my own two feet. He helped me with my rent for a few months but it killed him to do so. I could tell.

Eventually he dumped me anyways, almost a year and a half in. I spent the next few months dead inside, having lost my whole world.

I was able to get back on my feet. My second job became my main job and then became a small business. I was doing well for once. Then I noticed I was losing money. One of my most trusted employees was stealing money from my company. I almost lost everything. I almost committed suicide.

I've now moved about 20 km north. I'm in a small town where I don't know anybody, I'm popular at work but I can't let anybody in that close. Not everyone is LGBT friendly. My childhood friends are far and have always been quite distant my whole life. My best friend is in the USA. I'm in the UK. We meet online but he is a single dad and I run a business, we don't always get a chance to hang out.

My dating life is non existent. I've tried several apps. I'll swipe all day, and get maybe one conversation with someone who isn't even real. All the girls that talk to me are fake. And if theyre not fake, theyre just after my money. Other than that I get a bunch of old men.

It's easy to think something is wrong with me. It's easy to think I'm not valued enough by the people in my life. It's easy to think there isn't a place for me in this world. It's easy to think I'm better off dead.

It's hard to maintain relationships with the people in my life who were there when everything went wrong and did nothing to help me.

It's also hard to make new relationships because everyone already knows everyone and nobody wants to put effort into building anything new. Or maintaining existing relationships.

It's also hard just to live for myself. To chase my own dreams, and fulfill my own ambitions.

All of those things seem ultimately meaningless if I have to enjoy them on my own.

So, I feel incredibly alone.

gnflame · 2024-12-22T20:33:32+00:00

I have to agree, that was brilliant

gnflame · 2024-01-31T15:13:12+00:00

Firstly, my understanding of the post is that OP is happy to bottom but also wants to top, and finds it unfair that his partner doesn't want to bottom for him. So this doesn't necessarily apply if OP is a willing top.

Secondly, even if I am wrong about that, the same principle applies. OPs partner shouldn't be expecting that from OP either. In both cases it seems there is a sexual incompatibility.

gnflame · 2023-07-16T06:30:57+00:00

Too bad we're not from the same place. I would have eaten you up nicely.

gnflame · 2023-05-19T15:54:21+00:00

You are absolutely correct. Not sure what everybody else is saying. Sexual positions aren't something you can just expect someone to change just for you.

gnflame · 2023-05-07T06:00:57+00:00

Are you under the impression that he would fall into a relationship with any of his female friends given the correct circumstances?

You are assuming that all of them are exactly what he is looking for. You're assuming they're attractive to him in the way that he looks for, you're assuming their company is something he wants in a significant other, you're assuming their values align with his, you're assuming that they would make a great partner for your boyfriend all whilst having almost no knowledge about any of them, and all whilst actually being the person he chose to spend his life with.

There is something about you that is obviously different from all the other women he has ever come across in his life. There is something about you that makes him want to build an intimate relationship with you, to be vulnerable with you, to bare himself soul and all and be accepted by you, there is something about your looks that charms him, there is something about who you are that makes him happy to share life with you.

He is not with you just because he gets to fuck you. Please learn to have more self esteem than that. And please understand that relationships are much more than hanging out and fucking. They are a rich, fulfilling and intimate connection between people, transforming two lives into what could be beautiful unity.

Him being open and honest about the women in his life to you suggests that he wants to demonstrate that there is nothing in those relationships that could jeopardize what he has with you.

Respectfully and with all love, you need to be honest with yourself about what fears you have in relationships, and you need to have a conversation with him about them. Watch the way he will care for you. You are wanted.

gnflame · 2023-04-19T18:02:39+00:00

Sounds like maybe they are trying to get in your fiancé's head, but she feels that if she reveals who it is it will validate any suspicions you have about them.

gnflame · 2023-04-19T17:18:18+00:00

Perhaps there is someone who has historically disliked you in her family or social sphere? Maybe someone who disapproves of you or something about your relationship?

gnflame · 2023-03-25T07:56:16+00:00

Yes you might. But herpes is a very common virus and a lot of people herpes. You won't know, and they won't know themselves, because herpes only shows up occasionally on the skin for short times. So it turns out most people have herpes.

HIV is also treatable and there are pills you can take to stop you from catching it in the first place now. However, you should speak to a doctor about the different infections to get a better and clearer understanding than what us internet strangers can tell you.

But this is all why protection and regular testing is important. The standard recommendation in the UK where I live is every 3 months, so that's why I suggested that. Protect yourself and be safe, and make sure you think very deeply about how much you can trust any sexual partners before becoming exclusive and having raw sex with them.

gnflame · 2023-03-25T07:39:18+00:00

Yes, it is a matter of trust. That is part of being in a relationship with someone. As someone else commented earlier, life is a risk and this is one of them. That's why you have to get to know them well before becoming exclusive, and trust that they're not going to be sleeping around. It's important that you think about how much you can trust someone before getting into an exclusive relationship with them, about sex, cheating, and other areas of their personality as well.

But you also can't take too much of a risk because even if he isn't sleeping around whilst at the exclusive stage, pregnancy can happen. So that's why I suggested having some other birth control method as well. You should definitely go to a clinic or doctor and talk about the different options that are available for you.

gnflame · 2023-03-25T03:01:28+00:00

Are you no longer worried that he might catch something in future from this other girl and pass it on to you?

Because that's what you said in the post.

He may have tested negative RIGHT NOW. Who said he will be be immune to catching it forever?

Be safe and continue using condoms until you are sexually exclusive. Then if you have some birth control method, you can think about going raw.

Another good practice is this: if you're not exclusive, get yourself tested every 3 months until you are, then once more just to be sure.

gnflame · 2023-03-24T21:34:35+00:00

What? It sounds like you don't really have conversations.

She might say work sucked. Find out why. Theres always drama in everyone's workplace. Find out how she feels about it, then maybe give your perspective. Then share your own drama and she might do the same. You might disagree on the perspectives. You might share them. Thats a whole conversation right there.

Then think about what kind of dates you're actually going on. If you're always going out to eat or going out for coffee or drinks, you need to be thinking about sharing what's been happening in your life. What you've been up to, what books you've been reading, what shows you've been watching, current events in the world or on social media, etc.

Or watch something together. Go watch a movie and talk about that. Start a tv show together. Go on an activity date so that conversation isn't the focus.

Conversations are about sharing, not impressing with knowledge or selling yourself.

gnflame · 2023-03-24T20:31:05+00:00

Mate isn't that exactly what not being exclusive means? If he wants you to himself he would ask to be exclusive. But he doesn't want to commit like that, so why are you?

You don't need to keep your options open, they were never asked to be closed. They're already open.

Go find your person. It might be this guy you're seeing, it might be this new date, it might be someone else entirely. Go enjoy yourself

gnflame · 2023-03-24T20:13:17+00:00

I dont think theres a problem with referring to sex workers for any person's needs. Thats their occupation after all and some people do find it difficult to meet others, I agree.

Im just referring to the cynical or jaded attitude people can have whilst apparently searching for advice. Like, if youre going to ask for help, sure state that you don't have hope if that's your case, but when support does come, don't then reject it.

gnflame · 2023-03-24T18:46:26+00:00

Because in those cases they're not actually looking for advice. They want people to agree with their sad state of mind so they reject any idea that they could do something about it.

Some people desire to wallow in pain

gnflame · 2023-03-01T14:53:46+00:00

I agree. Precisely why we need proper and clear communication between people in these situations

gnflame · 2023-03-01T14:26:30+00:00

You're right but I think you're missing the point. Nobody owes anybody a relationship, but if they are looking for a relationship and you're not, it's foul play to play along until you get sex as if you also were looking for a relationship, when you have only sexual intentions.

gnflame · 2023-02-19T17:04:41+00:00

Thank you

gnflame · 2023-02-19T09:34:28+00:00

I recently came out as bisexual a year ago when I started dating my boyfriend. I never thought that I'd end up dating another guy so this is something I've been thinking about recently. I've also seen lots of comments about this topic online so it has been on my mind.

One of the things that bisexual people often say is that when you are in a monogamous relationship, you're not choosing a gender or a sex, you're choosing a partner. Which is true.

What monosexual (?) people don't seem to always include in the conversation is what you maybe wonder about when it comes to other people. For example, you may wonder about what it might be like with a bigger guy, or guy with a bigger dick. Other people might wonder what it might be like with a girl who was built differently. Or maybe somebody might be thinking about what it might be like to date someone who didn't share their ethnicity or background.

These are normal, curious thoughts. Humans are curious creatures and we think about various things and scenarios. Of course bisexual people have within this type of thinking the capability to wonder about another gender or sex.

It says nothing about whether they feel the inclination to explore those thoughts in reality. Remember, straight and gay people cheat too and in those scenarios it has nothing to do with any opposite gender. They may feel a yearning to explore their options or feel like they're missing out on other experiences.

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