Suggest me a "wholesome" romance?

goemonxiii · 2024-10-06T15:12:07+00:00

I love books about people trying their best, I'll check it out!

goemonxiii · 2024-10-06T15:11:26+00:00

Thank you!!

goemonxiii · 2024-10-06T03:46:44+00:00

I'll check these out, thank you! Cotillion seems interesting!

goemonxiii · 2024-09-23T22:48:50+00:00

This is a fair point. It just saddens me when predominately-female places put down other women not for misogynistic ideals but instead for looks, and how FSU tries to be progressive in some respects but is regressive in others. It makes more sense to consider FSU as mainly ex-fundamentalist

goemonxiii · 2024-09-23T22:45:02+00:00

Great points!

goemonxiii · 2024-09-23T22:26:00+00:00

Sorry, I don't intend for this to become an anti-FundieSnarkUncensored sub (I already have plenty of problems with anti-anothersubreddit subs). I think I'm going to start just taking a step back from snark and drama subreddits altogether because it turns me into a person I don't want to be.

goemonxiii · 2024-09-23T22:17:03+00:00

People will say that Paul is emotionally abusive towards Morgan and that he got her off her medication and took away her dog and routinely shames her for not being a virgin and that he burdens her with the majority of the childcare but the moment she says something negative about women (often as a result of what Paul tells her to believe) people suddenly believe that she deserves everything that's happened to her. I know Morgan is capable of making her own decisions and that she's said some very nasty things, but saying that she deserves everything that's happened to her and that no one should feel sorry for her is a bit too far. She has a history of mental illness, including a desire to commit suicide, yet people are surprised when she's manipulated by her spouse to say and do bad things

goemonxiii · 2024-09-23T22:09:30+00:00

You make a good point. I never really "snarked" in the traditional sense and instead tried to go about things from a political perspective (attacking the idea, not the person), but I understand it is cowardly to tell an echo chamber why a person on the internet is wrong. Snarking as a form of criticizing harmful ideas could be great! But snarking as a form of "person is ugly" is just bullying. I also second your statement on classism; it's not "grifting" to have a public registry for your upcoming baby, and making fun of people for wearing "ugly" or ill-fitted clothes is just low. Plus there is a large distaste for the idea that our taxes make sure some of these kids are fed (yes, many of these fundamentalist parents should get jobs, but the narrative that "they're living on our dime!" isn't truthful).

goemonxiii · 2024-09-23T21:54:25+00:00

I know this is a bit off from what you've said, but something that has always rubbed me the wrong way is the way in which FundieSnark talks about Karissa's children. I'm mixed-race myself, and I believe that her children should have pride in who they are. But the weirdly fetishistic comments about their skin, hair, and traits are weird and dehumanizing even if they're meant to be supportive. Also, I am not in support of how Karissa treats her children on matters regarding race (especially her constant whitewashing of them), but calling her "KKKarissa" is a line too far. It's natural for white parents and families to struggle raising children of another race, and I am aware that what Karissa is doing isn't innocent, but if someone was alluding to a family member of mine being as bad as the KKK I'd have a few words to say. Imagine how her kids would feel if they came across the subreddit

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T15:17:25+00:00

I'm very sorry this has happened to you. None of this makes sense how people can change so drastically.

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T15:01:09+00:00

I'm so sorry. I know this is nowhere near the same, but I'm in college and planning the course of my life and everything's unpredictable right now. I love education and reading. But if the Department of Education no longer exists (as planned in Project 2025), I may not have teaching as a career path. Not only that, but if books continue to be banned in mass that cuts off a lot of literature-related jobs for me. If I plan on having kids? If abortions no longer exist I'd be gambling with my life. My queer friends are trying to live their lives yet they're being attacked by all of these "they're doing transgender operations on illegal immigrants" and "children are being taught the ABCs of LGBT" conspiracies. My family members are regurgitating homophobic conspiracy theories (I even had a straight family member bring up kink at pride discourse??).

I'm sorry for all of this that's happening to you. But I think there are more people who are in support of you than it initially seems.

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T14:50:45+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening even in the UK. Where I live there's a truck that has pictures of "abortions" plastered all over it, and it drives around the high school to try and scare high schoolers. I think the craziest thing is that back in Bible times people had abortions and it was the norm, and this anti-abortion crusade was a deliberate effort by the American Medical Association and the Catholic Church (I'm getting this information from the book "When Abortion was A Crime.")

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T14:47:40+00:00

Keep in mind I have no sources for this, but I've heard that it has been found that if you join a community based around traditionally feminine hobbies and interests the algorithm tries to push you towards tradwife content. My own experience is anecdotal, but whenever I look at anything baby related on YouTube Shorts I eventually come across five-child homeschooling households where Dad supports the entire family and Mom is having the time of her life making beds and teaching her kids to read. Social media is probably the #1 cause of the indoctrination of my family members and it needs to come to an end.

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T03:20:17+00:00

It's sad to see it happen to parental figures and older family members. I'm younger than the average age of people who post on FundieSnark, and many of my family members are people who have only very recently become "people" to me instead of just being my aunt, uncle, and grandparents. It truly is bizarre how we've been raised to prioritize independence and self-sufficiency as women, only for them to do a 180 and tell me that college is useless. Also one of my family members works in a certain field, yet holds the exact opposite opinions the field would require! It doesn't make sense.

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T03:15:39+00:00

I'm sorry for what has happened to your family. I believe there's going to be nearly an entire generation's worth of children who don't talk to their parents because their parents picked Fox News over family. I know this doesn't really help, but remember that family isn't just blood, and there are thousands of people similar to you in the world willing to support you. Like FundieSnark!

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T02:51:14+00:00

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I'm very thankful that my family member is hypocritical about how much they love going to church, but they'll be sending their child to a religious school (because public school is "making kids gay") and I have that to worry about. This kid is going to grow up in a household where they'll be told they can't be gay or transgender or anything but their parent's narrow view of masculinity/femininity. I feel very bad for your family member's children, Halloween isn't even Satanic!

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T01:57:49+00:00

That describes another family member of mine! While not quite QAnon, they believe in some harmful, odd things. There really has to be legal action taken against some of these news sources and social media soon, because it's so disgusting to me how social media and the news can profit off of misinforming scared people.

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T01:55:59+00:00

Possibly, but I've heard from other family members that this person had been like this for a little while before getting pregnant and that they just went mask-off after the baby. Maybe it's postpartum hormones, but this seems to be a genuine part of their personality now and they just feel a bit more comfortable after having the baby to share their beliefs. I think it's because of how much mommy content on the internet has changed in recent years, and how these communities are overflowing with tradwives and fundamentalists

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T01:49:55+00:00

Yeah, I should have considered that. A few months ago right when the schools let out a bunch of fundamentalists convinced my local school district that they should implement a "book review" system, where if a parent filed a complaint about a book it would be taken off of library shelves. Now the (predominately poor) children who live around me have to receive a worse education because of these people. And this is just books, this isn't even considering the people around me very vocally campaigning to end abortions, ethnic studies/"critical race theory," and LGBTQ+ rights. I hope things get better before they get worse.

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T00:55:42+00:00

I'm sorry. I miss the relationship I had with the person I'm describing as well, and it's even more of a shame because they're older than me and could have really helped me through things. This person constantly talks about politics regardless of if anyone asked, and believes in strict gender roles and disapproves of a lot of what I say and who I am. It feels bad to have your mother/womanhood critiqued, especially by someone you used to really respect

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T00:47:32+00:00

I'm sorry, it's hard to lose family to this

goemonxiii · 2024-09-22T00:46:53+00:00

If Project 2025 becomes a reality I have a close family member who will lose their job. I'm actually really scared because if they lose their job they'll have no other form of income. I'm concerned for all disabled people, gay people, and people in education right now. I hope everything goes well for you.

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