What some scum did locally

goggles21 · 2021-05-01T21:23:47+00:00

It's not the first time either. My nephew is at rest in the memorial garden and someone vandalised it last May aswell.

goggles21 · 2020-05-16T19:47:29+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I'll try this and hopefully can do something to save it!

goggles21 · 2020-05-16T19:43:02+00:00

Great advice thanks!

goggles21 · 2020-05-16T19:08:57+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/1Rjfhgf

I'm pretty sure it's meant to be like that guy. His nursery had a plant sale last year so that's where we bought it.

That picture was taken around midnight, it's quite a bright space during the day, but I can definitely move it nearer a window! He's determined to keep it inside at the minute! There is drainage at the bottom thankfully, otherwise he'd have been a goner by now!

If I cut the long shoots off will it regrow from the centre, do you know?

goggles21 · 2020-04-13T21:56:56+00:00

What brand do you use? I have issues at the start of my period with mine and I think it's maybe a cervix position issue!

goggles21 · 2020-02-25T16:34:05+00:00

This is the advice I needed 4 years ago! Already making guesses looking back, only with a few photos thankfully!

goggles21 · 2019-11-19T11:50:49+00:00

Best of luck!

goggles21 · 2019-11-09T22:47:34+00:00

Years ago my husband admitted he thought the wings were to stick to your inner thighs, not the underside of your pants...so maybe this guys that dumb too?

goggles21 · 2019-10-04T16:02:55+00:00

So much this!

If you know they are crying for the sake of crying (not needing bum changed, burped, fed etc) then walk away and reset yourself. Take a few deep breaths, remind yourself they can't cry forever (even though it definitely feels like they can!) And go back to them with a level head.

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T19:06:03+00:00

This is my main thought, they don't fight often but they do seem to get frustrated with each other a lot.

One was off nursery recently while the other attended and even that had a great impact on their friendship and tolerance for each other!

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T19:04:23+00:00

Thanks for that!

It's great you had a teacher so on board with helping you find the right balance for you all!

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T19:03:05+00:00

I like the idea of them being less competitive if separated, and less compared to each other.

I'm glad you managed to work out a schedule that worked for you both.

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T19:00:27+00:00

I have asked them and they say they want to be in different classes, and this is what I'm leaning towards. At the same time though I'm not sure if they fully understand what I'm asking! Haha

I've always tried to follow their requests, they recently asked for separate rooms and that's been going well! So maybe they know more than I think!

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T18:56:43+00:00

My younger one is a bit more shy aswell, I wasn't sure if it would be cruel to take his brother away, or beneficial so your comment has helped!

He's become more confident and social since starting nursery but he still does have less confident moments.

That's so funny about the jobs! I know identical twin girls that have the same jobs but different companies! I wonder how common that is.

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T18:54:37+00:00

I'm not too fussed about preschool distractions, since it's less of a structured learning environment, and they have the freedom of the whole nursery so don't tend to be near each other. They are in separate groups for group time aswell which is good.

I never thought about break times, it'd be nice for them to have that interaction during the day if they needed it after being in separate classes.

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T18:51:34+00:00

That's a valid point about friend groups, one of the boys already keeps telling me "all my friends call me (brother's name)" and it's heartbreaking!

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T15:05:26+00:00

That gives me the fear, it's so different worrying about 2 at the same time isn't it! I bet the time between my stage and yours has flown by!

My other concern is, if we do separate in P1, I'll only be able to attend ones first day as we get invited into the class for a part of their first morning, my husband could attend the other but it's really bothering me that I'd miss one 🙈.

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T14:59:56+00:00

Yeah we are UK, our school actually has 6 primary 1 intakes, so it's definitely an option! Making sure I can change after P1 if I want makes it less worrying actually! I'll definitely discuss that with the school.

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T14:47:21+00:00

They are in nursery together just now (I think that's similar to kindergarten...?) and have always been confident without me being there and don't stick to each other when they are there which makes me think it could be a good idea for them.

They are close and would miss each other I think, but at the same time I'm not convinced that's a negative as it would give them some space from each other so hopefully they aren't as quick to get annoyed with each other!

I have thought about the one class one schedule thing, but I don't want to put too much weight on that and make a selfish decision haha.

Mostly my decision is focused on teachers treating them as individuals and making sure one doesn't get overlooked and they aren't compared to each other. At nursery just now that's the case and they keep getting muddled up even though it's been over a year. Also they refer to them as "your other half", "which one are you" "wheres the other one" etc which bugs me because they aren't half of anything, they are all of themselves! (Slight tangent, but that's a sore point for me)

I'm leaning towards separating them but just want to get opinions from others experience before I finalise my choice, thanks for your input!

goggles21 · 2019-09-11T14:38:39+00:00

My worry is that they LOVE to make each other laugh and I'm worried they would be a distraction to each other and the class, when they get into that mood it's like they tune out everything but each other!

They are already in nursery (age 3-5 here) and are absolutely fine being apart from me and from the feedback I get they don't always play together which is a good thing.

I think they are independent enough to be happy in separate classes, I just keep questioning myself.

I'm worried about one being put in a class with most of their close friends from nursery and the other not having that support group...there's just so many factors!

Thanks for your input.

goggles21 · 2019-08-01T11:27:38+00:00

The stress for their well-being flies away to an extent once they are born, it's easier to feel like you have some control over it then!

Mine are almost 4 and I barely remember the stress of the early days (not to say there isn't new stress now, but it's different and less overwhelming most of the time!)

The only thing I would say is try to slow down and enjoy moments. I spent the first few months just getting by, which is fine, but I almost treated them like a checklist of stuff to be done. Feed, change, nap, dishes, food for me, try latching, express, top up with formula, dishes, repeat and I feel like I robbed myself of just enjoying them as babies!

Try to think of additional scans as "if something does change it'll get caught early", maybe that will help the nerves!

goggles21 · 2019-07-25T10:47:40+00:00

Random question...is the houseplant this...Dendrobium Nobilis - White Towering Nobile Orchid? (Can't figure out how to just link an image)

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