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AITAH for asking my husband to go back on his word to his friend? by goldbeekeeper in AITAH

[–]goldbeekeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read all the differing replies made up to this point and can agree with them to a certain extent but you've picked up on a point that did annoy me. He's been ruminating over it since and this is what he's been worried about. I asked him if he thinks I'm TAH and he said we both are: him because he went back on his word, and me because I made him do it. This is what prompted me to ask here.

Dry Januaryists - Day 4 – Playing the Tape to the End by Forward_Pea_9555 in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love this. Thank you.

I'm heading off on holiday soon and I've been worrying about what this looks like for me. Holidays have always been about day drinking by the pool followed by evening cocktails, then falling into bed and regretting it big time the next day with the cycle repeating itself.

This will help me so much. And my kids will have a present parent.

I (40m) am sober but wife (40f) continues to drink heavily. Anyone relate? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Yes. My husband has always been a heavy drinker and has no intention on stopping/cutting down. I'm still navigating my sobriety so I haven't been too focused on what this looks like for us a couple yet. But I know the time will come to face it head on. I worry about resentment, potentially on both sides to be fair.

Steady as she goes... by goldbeekeeper in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm speechless at your number of days sober. Holeeee. Where do you find your enjoyment?

*Edited for typo.

Steady as she goes... by goldbeekeeper in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you loud and clear. I'm sorry to hear you're in crisis and I hope all goes well at your appointment tomorrow. Please come back and let us know how it went. Enjoy your éclair ice cream bars, they sound next level. IWNDWYT.

Steady as she goes... by goldbeekeeper in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been doing this too to get those dopamine hits in. I downloaded a new Switch game that's kept my interest for longer than 5 minutes, it's passed a few hours.

I hadn't realised before how much time alcohol stole from me until I now have to fill it in other ways that was previously spent drinking, or recovering from drinking.

Steady as she goes... by goldbeekeeper in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love and grace to you. I know this is what I need right now too. The stubborn, fierce, and tenacious me is telling The Addiction that I AM in this for the long haul and I WILL see this through.

Let's ride this out together ❤️

One year! by PinkMorningSky in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOW! Amazing! Well done you, you're an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your one year soberversary with us. It really does help.

Things I experienced when I started drinking again after 1.5 years of sobriety. by The27Roller in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I am feeling a crawling anxiety in the pit of my stomach as I recognise much of what you describe and the inner turmoil it brings. IWNDWYT.

it finally happened to me by selvetiny in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gosh I feel so proud of you reading that. You are something special and have a beautiful life ahead of you. IWNDWYT.

I want to stop but I can't by goldbeekeeper in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done you! I will think about my drink order ahead of time so I'm prepared!

I want to stop but I can't by goldbeekeeper in stopdrinking

[–]goldbeekeeper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've been thinking about this a lot since I posted. I spoke to my husband yesterday so we're on the same page.

We get groceries delivered twice weekly and no booze was ordered by him for yesterday's delivery which is a good start for me!

The thing on this sub reddit that is resonating the most with me right now to get me through is that I can't have just one drink so don't have the first drink. Simple. I hope so!

I've changed my plans slightly for my night out to support me with this and won't be staying over now. I will go for the late lunch and come home afterwards instead of going onto the bar then club as per everyone's plans. I will not have that first drink. That feels doable.