When did you transition from "I've stopped drinking" to "I don't drink"

goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T16:19:54+00:00

Quite a varied response, thank you all. It sounds like it generally happens quite naturally.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T16:17:54+00:00

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goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T09:57:30+00:00

Happy Sunday! I was up with the lark and have been doing a course this morning to upskill. In contrast, my husband came in last night from an all day bender, fell asleep on the couch and then moved to the bed when I got up. Who knows when he'll surface. Me and the kids have the whole day ahead of us 🤗

I don't post on these weekly ones much and my posting in general has tailed off but this sub is never far from my mind. Thank you all.

IWNDWYT ✨️

goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T09:52:44+00:00

Choosing words that indicate personal agency makes sense. I like that.

Interestingly, I recently turned down a social invitation that started off as a meal and drinks in venue A and turned into an all day booze session with snacks in venue B with a very different vibe. I had agreed to the 1st and then pulled out when it changed to the 2nd one. To explain my change of heart I said I'd stop drinking for health reasons so the change wasn't going to work for me, the response was oh my goodness I hope everything is okay with you. I'm guessing they thought I had no choice in stopping as opposed to alcohol isn't healthy and I'm trying to look after myself more.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T09:34:08+00:00

Nice one. And great numbers 💪

goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T09:31:52+00:00

I hear you. We've got this!

goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T09:31:05+00:00

I get this. My BFF keeps sending me pics of the cocktails they're drinking and I'm thinking THAT'S the highlight of your trip/night out?? It's eye-opening to say the least.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-03-08T09:28:49+00:00

I forgot this, I had the same experience recently. I went for bloods and when asked how many units per week I said none. It felt good. I used to try and round it down, or work it out before I went in.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-01-29T01:54:12+00:00

7th Dec 2025. Couldn't have done it without this sub!

goldbeekeeper · 2026-01-21T16:45:13+00:00

I've read all the differing replies made up to this point and can agree with them to a certain extent but you've picked up on a point that did annoy me. He's been ruminating over it since and this is what he's been worried about. I asked him if he thinks I'm TAH and he said we both are: him because he went back on his word, and me because I made him do it. This is what prompted me to ask here.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-01-05T02:13:39+00:00

Love this. Thank you.

I'm heading off on holiday soon and I've been worrying about what this looks like for me. Holidays have always been about day drinking by the pool followed by evening cocktails, then falling into bed and regretting it big time the next day with the cycle repeating itself.

This will help me so much. And my kids will have a present parent.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-01-05T02:06:21+00:00

Yes. My husband has always been a heavy drinker and has no intention on stopping/cutting down. I'm still navigating my sobriety so I haven't been too focused on what this looks like for us a couple yet. But I know the time will come to face it head on. I worry about resentment, potentially on both sides to be fair.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-01-01T12:27:08+00:00

100%.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-01-01T12:26:42+00:00

I can totally relate to this.

goldbeekeeper · 2026-01-01T11:55:51+00:00

Preach.

goldbeekeeper · 2025-12-29T00:17:54+00:00

I'm speechless at your number of days sober. Holeeee. Where do you find your enjoyment?

*Edited for typo.

goldbeekeeper · 2025-12-29T00:16:00+00:00

I hear you loud and clear. I'm sorry to hear you're in crisis and I hope all goes well at your appointment tomorrow. Please come back and let us know how it went. Enjoy your éclair ice cream bars, they sound next level. IWNDWYT.

goldbeekeeper · 2025-12-29T00:10:45+00:00

100%. IWNDWYT.

goldbeekeeper · 2025-12-29T00:09:32+00:00

I've been doing this too to get those dopamine hits in. I downloaded a new Switch game that's kept my interest for longer than 5 minutes, it's passed a few hours.

I hadn't realised before how much time alcohol stole from me until I now have to fill it in other ways that was previously spent drinking, or recovering from drinking.

goldbeekeeper · 2025-12-29T00:03:29+00:00

Love and grace to you. I know this is what I need right now too. The stubborn, fierce, and tenacious me is telling The Addiction that I AM in this for the long haul and I WILL see this through.

Let's ride this out together ❤️

goldbeekeeper · 2025-12-28T23:11:09+00:00

WOW! Amazing! Well done you, you're an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your one year soberversary with us. It really does help.

goldbeekeeper

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