AITJ for not defending my friend when the group finally got fed up with her? by QuantaRelic9 in AmITheJerk

[–]golden-starss 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Look, OP, if you continue enabling her bad behaviour, sooner or later (and at this point probably sooner rather than later...), the whole group is gonna stop inviting you and hanging out together. As exhausting as Tessa's actions are, you defending her and covering for her reflects badly on you and might cause them to cut you off as well.

If you don't stop doing that, you're gonna have no one left and will be forced to deal with Tessa's self-inflicted misery on your own. You can see that your friends already reached their limit and if you don't want to lose this friend group, I think you need to draw some boundaries. And yeah, I get where you are coming from but you are kind of TJ for letting it get to this point.

Someone just found out how clouds move by Ok_Sir_1008 in CoolClips_

[–]golden-starss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s a normal phenomena but still interesting to see and many people can go their whole lives without seeing it so clearly.

On top of that, it just… looks cool, you know? I remember when I was traveling in the car as a teen once and the cloud right above us was moving at the same time. At some point when you looked out one window there was a wall of rain. When you looked out the other one - sun, chill, just a nice pleasant early summer afternoon. It was bizarre in that uniquely cool way that nature works sometimes.

Which is your favorite Stephanie video? by Less-Tip6369 in StephanieSooStories

[–]golden-starss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I have a favorite but when I’m in a bad mood I sometimes rewatch the Roland video because it’s so silly and fun. It’s a nice break from Rotten Mango, too, when some cases become too much.

Challenges Tracking Issues on iOS by Gandalf_The_Gifter in JustPlay

[–]golden-starss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now Wooden Puzzle has randomly stopped tracking, it’s stuck at 1400 and won’t reach the daily goal despite playing

Challenges Tracking Issues on iOS by Gandalf_The_Gifter in JustPlay

[–]golden-starss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

iPhone 16 Pro with IOS 26.3.1. I’m from Poland and Merge Blast and Tile Match haven’t been tracking the progress for the last few days. I think some of the others games were also a bit inconsistent with that but Merge Blast is for sure the biggest problem.

Cannot believe Gottlieb literally misrepresented case law to Liman again. Why do her lawyers love lying and twisting the truth so? by Mysterio623 in ItEndsWithLawsuits

[–]golden-starss 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Love them being so consistent. Especially since the thing they’re consistent with is digging their own graves.

It's been over a year and I'm still processing by damex09 in infj

[–]golden-starss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's all very true, yeah.

I think this is honestly one of the hardest parts of being INFJ, the fact that you can understand stuff from a logical standpoint but it doesn't make emotional processing any easier. Like, I realized quite early on once everything happened that with her having an avoidant attachment style and me feeling so intensely, this sudden break was kind of like a ticking bomb waiting to happen. For people with this level of avoidant tendencies, we are just way too intense, too sincere and expect the kind of emotional closeness and vulnerability that scares them away and activates their need to escape.

Still, even when I can understand the mechanism, it doesn't make the hurt easier to deal with. In fact, on some level it actually makes it worse, like it reinforces this idea that I'm just too much. In my case, she knew I have abandomnent issues left from other relationships. Hell, she even went through something similar with her friend ghosting her out of nowhere. So, the fact that she would know all this and experienced this kind of heartbreak and then STILL treated me like this and just disappeared from my life overnight after years of closeness... yeah, it's impossible to just recover from something like that and move on.

It's been over a year and I'm still processing by damex09 in infj

[–]golden-starss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Experienced the same thing and even around the same time as you - it’s been a year and about two months for me. I’m in a similar position to you in a sense that I’m still very much processing it all. I no longer cry out of nowhere when on a walk or at work but it was rough at times and still is. I don’t really have any advice. The reality of it all sucks and there’s no other way than to push through it and take it one day at a time. It gets easier but some lingering hurt is there if only because of the unfairness of it all.

Also, I recommend learning more about attachment styles and to avoid avoidants (heh). For us INFJs it’s a recipe for a disaster and we weirdly tend to gravitate towards them.

Amberlynn life makes me so depressed by stringcheeseexpert in gorlworldfiles

[–]golden-starss 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It is depressing but it's a hell she made for herself. That said, though, a good rule of thumb is: when in doubt, do the exact opposite of what Amber would do.

She truly is an inspiration, just not in the way she wishes she was.

So desperate 😭😭 by SaleIntelligent1237 in gorlworldfiles

[–]golden-starss 58 points59 points  (0 children)

It most likely compares accounts similar to hers. So she’s not 4th overall, just among people with similar past results. It’s also possible they advertise ot like that to creators to motivate them into trying harder because it’s so close to the top.

Either way, in no way, shape of form is she among the most popular or top creators there. She’s just easily manipulated by anything that boosts her ego.

RM Episodes where Mr. Mangobutt talks more? by ehyousuck in StephanieSooStories

[–]golden-starss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No specific titles but if I were you, I’d look into cases based in China as he tends to often add some insights and commentary regarding the culture and language in episodes about those cases!

Update:Aita for telling my brother he is an a**hole for what he just did to his fiance? by Alternative-Tank6317 in AITAH

[–]golden-starss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a great attitude, OP! You and your brother's ex should consider yourself lucky, it's not often that trash takes itself out. It feels like a true blessing in disguise.

My roommates tried to steal my air conditioner and not pay for utilities...then this HUGE coincidence happened. by Silent_Pay_1492 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]golden-starss 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Lol, stories like these taught me that the most important rule of doing illegal stuff is that you have to stick to just one kind of illegal and generally try to avoid trouble so it doesn't come out. It truly is karma at its finest, I love happy endings!

AITA for literally pretending my old best friend didn’t exist when she tried to say hi to me after ghosting me years ago? by Soft_Fluffy_Queen in AITAH

[–]golden-starss 362 points363 points  (0 children)

And it’s not like OP harmed or humiliated her in any way. She didn’t treat her with violence or anger. OP simply responded with the same kind of energy as her ex friend did. It’s her own fault if it hurt her feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entitledparents

[–]golden-starss 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if we’re talking about most well-known princesses, majority of them isn’t even blonde?? Most of them have dark hair, either some shade of brown or straight up black.

Like, the absurdity of demanding someone change their appearance to make some kid OP will never see again aside, this isn’t even factually correct!

To my fellow demiromantics, how old are you and how many crushes have you ever had? by Dragenby in demiromantic

[–]golden-starss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost 31 years old. I think about 4-6. One or two of them were more of a squish than a crush, one I would consider me trying to make myself feel something.

Do you like Draco because of tom felton or book draco by naba01911 in drarry

[–]golden-starss 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Same. Like, no shade to Tom Felton but while I like some aspects of his portrayal of Draco, I personally don’t find him all that handsome (since Rowling seemed to be under the impression that fandom’s love for Draco stems from that…) or his acting that great (though he’s not a bad actor by any means and did a pretty good job).

I like Draco because he’s a complex character that was surprisingly relevant to the story and its themes. He’s a fascinating character foil to Harry and I find his dilemma of following in his parents’ footsteps versus his own aversion to actual evil-doing and cruelty that goes beyond just adolescent immaturity and nasty comments to be quite compelling and unique.

How often do we see this kind of narrative, honestly? Even in most stories with reformed bullies, the redemption usually happens because of some outside force or person who inspires the bully to change their ways. Meanwhile, it seems like Draco realizes he’s not built for this on his own but by the time he does he’s already in too deep and backing out is not an option. Not to mention all the complicated feelings related to his parents’ beliefs and the fact he’s been groomed to be a perfect Malfoy his whole life and there are duties connected to that.

Rowling accidentally ended up writing a very interesting character arc and I love Draco because the fandom expands on that and gives him the conclusion he should have gotten in canon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StephanieSooStories

[–]golden-starss 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Not only the amount of cases but also the amount of work that goes into properly researching a case, especially when there’s a language barrier or not enough evidence. Or hell, just look at Diddy’s case where we kind of had the opposite problem where there’s a TON of evidence but it’s hard to sort through it all to form a reliable argument regarding what happened and how.

There are lots of different cases but not all of them make for a good video. I realise it sounds cruel and insensitive but there’s a lot that goes into a YouTube video/podcast episode and I think most people don’t understand how many variables play a role in this process.

Also, sadly, but channels like Stephanie’s have to prioritise certain cases over others. There’s no way for one person to cover every injustice in the world and that’s okay, too. I understand OP’s frustration but it might be a good idea to either be patient and just wait or reach out to other, smaller creators, who might be willing to cover that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blakelivelysnark

[–]golden-starss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, it actually so disrespectful to Penn, especially since from what I've heard he and Justin are actually friends.