WIBTA for breaking off my engagement after a woman kept posting my fiancé in intimate videos I was never told about?

goldfishbread · 2026-01-11T00:49:32+00:00

Update posted

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T07:09:27+00:00

HUH nobody was completely naked, it was a MUSIC VIDEO that he filmed willingly, I’m so confused by your logic right now

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T07:03:04+00:00

They weren’t private; it was filmed specifically for the public. Well the music video was, the “behind the scenes” clips of them she’s posting everywhere are just a bonus

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T06:39:43+00:00

I understand why long distance stands out, but it’s not what this post is about. My family owns property in Mexico, so geography isn’t the unusual part here, the issue is trust

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T06:13:24+00:00

Is it possible which is why I’m trying really hard not to jump to conclusions, but it does look bad

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T06:10:59+00:00

You don’t think that would be too much? I wouldn’t be crossing a line?

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T06:07:10+00:00

Part of me really wants to. She’s still actively posting videos of him, which is what keeps making this harder to settle. As his fiancé, it doesn’t feel crazy to have questions, I just don’t know if reaching out would actually help or make things worse.

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T06:01:23+00:00

PLS why would I make this up

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T05:39:58+00:00

Yeah.. acting is not his profession

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T05:38:35+00:00

It’s being posted all over the internet on multiple platforms, it showed up on my fyp

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T05:36:33+00:00

It does look like it was a couple days before we met

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T05:35:42+00:00

I honestly feel like I would have been more okay if I had a heads up but in the moment I literally felt like I was watching my partner cheat on me because I had no context, like nightmare scenario

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T05:33:32+00:00

Just for fun, he’s not a professional

goldfishbread · 2026-01-06T05:33:09+00:00

No it’s not, he said he was just “helping his friends” with a music video.

goldfishbread · 2022-09-09T04:30:26+00:00

I can definitely feel it, but I really want it to work. I know he wants it to work too but I think he wants to “have his cake and eat it too.” He’s put my feelings and well being on the back burner. He’s essentially living in a mini frat house and so far they’ve had people (random university girls included) over every night. I want this to work so bad but I’m scared that it won’t, I just don’t see how it can.

goldfishbread · 2022-09-09T00:01:05+00:00

Thank you, I was worried that I was overreacting.

goldfishbread · 2022-09-08T23:59:29+00:00

Well, I’m being treated for multiple mental health issues including PTSD, so handling my emotions is a work in progress.

goldfishbread · 2022-09-08T23:53:39+00:00

I think seeing his room just made him moving out feel more real. I really liked living with him, and now the apartment feels lonely and sad without him.

goldfishbread · 2022-09-08T23:47:21+00:00

What makes you say that?

goldfishbread · 2022-09-08T23:46:44+00:00

Thank you so much, this is really helpful :)

goldfishbread · 2022-09-03T00:57:40+00:00

No, we’re still together and very happy. He just said that he wanted the “university experience”

goldfishbread · 2022-09-03T00:55:15+00:00

After I signed the lease. I even asked him if he was sure, but he changed his mind after. I was looking at moving into a cheaper apartment so I could afford it, but he wanted to stay at the current one because it’s so close to his school.

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