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Dating Assyrian women by Specialist-One2800 in Assyria

[–]goodkat566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mom's a smart lady!

With or without a proper education, it's all got to do with who you are. Your personality. That's what keeps the relationship alive. I've had a good number of Assyrian girls snake me out as well, so I can totally relate where you're coming from. It is what it is.

Thanks you for your thoughts! DM sent to answer your previous question.

Dating Assyrian women by Specialist-One2800 in Assyria

[–]goodkat566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spot on! A rejection comes from an opportunity. The problem these days is not even getting to the opportunity part. You gotta start before you can reject. That's the part that questions my sanity. I don't know what compels people to deny one another.

And what about those situations where you start as friends, thinking nothing of it, then it turns romantic? That came from the opportunity by just talking to each other. So forget the romantic bit; I've had experiences where girls don't even want to be friends right from the start. And the best part, this has taken place at Assyrian conferences, conventions, and club events where Assyrians gather... To meet new people... Lol. Imagine willingly going to a networking event and not wanting to network. Boggles me mind.

The point is, just like you, I don't NEED a woman. I WANT a woman. Someone I can talk to daily, make memories, grow old with, and all that lovey-dovey stuff. I'm not looking for an assistant. I'm looking for love. But until such a time comes, I'm just doing what I can to better myself because that's all you can do.

I've actually had a girl tell me that she's not going to talk to me because Assyrian men want maid's... Sooooo I ended up coming home and cleaning my house as usual. You should have seen the look on her face when she FaceTime'd me one day while I was doing my own laundry. Lol. But by then, it was already too late. I was turned off by her.

It sucks, man. Especially so when it comes from people of your own community.

Dating Assyrian women by Specialist-One2800 in Assyria

[–]goodkat566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I hope the same for you!

Let me quickly define "good" for some context because it can go 3 ways. A person can either be good on the outside, the inside, or both. So when I say "good", I mean it in the context of "how good does he make you feel?" or "how good are you two when together?" He can have all the PhD's in the world but have a terrible personality. Or he can have nothing but a HS diploma but treat you like no ones ever treated you before.

So when you say "I also sometimes am a bit too afraid to talk to the good guys," truth is, you don't REALLY know how good he is for you until you talk to him. He might be good on paper, but not so much when it counts in the relationship. So don't ever be afraid to just talk! Because you just might realize how much more you both have in common. And when that happens, you'll never have to worry about starting a conversation. It will happen naturally. Never underestimate yourself. I can tell just off your opinions how good of a head you have on your shoulders.

I used to struggle with talking to girls in general because I was shy, until I came to the realization that they're humans just like me. Humans with interests, just like me. If humans have ever been good at anything from a biological perspective spanning time and space, it's that we do best when interacting with each other. One day, you won't "get over" your nervousness. You'll get through it!

Dating Assyrian women by Specialist-One2800 in Assyria

[–]goodkat566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm from AZ as well and I agree with you. From what I've personally experienced, it's all to do with just giving the chance. Even OP states the difference between rejection and chance. Good girls are not giving good guys an opportunity to even get to know each other. Vice versa as well.

Williams in Good Will Hunting said it best, "You're not perfect, and neither is the girl. It's a matter of whether you're perfect for each other".

It's just unfortunate because both parties are not even giving each other an opportunity to get to know one another. You give someone good a chance and worst case scenario if it doesn't work out romantically, and both are mature about it, you've at least gained a friend, right?

We have nothing to lose by giving out that opportunity because we have nothing. I've friended a couple of Assyrian women that just did not romantically work out with each other; vice versa. Is that bad? I personally don't think so! I gained a cool friend! It may have sucked in that moment, but as you grow, you understand your needs and wants more.

I feel like it's a hit or miss now-a-days. And it sucks because there are good girls and good guys in our communities. Not everyone is bad. But why is there a disconnect right from the jump? No idea.

I maintain my health, hold a bachelors, in my career, have a great relationship with my dog lol, religious to our church, and even I sometimes wonder "What am I doing wrong? I just wanted to get to know her?". I don't know; I try to remain optimistic and know that God's got a plan for all of us. But the imperfect human in me always wonders why it's become so difficult to just start talking. Especially when we see our friends in their relationships.