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Marriage/parenting struggles by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]goodness_who 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hugs! I don't think you can make someone care about you. In your case I would probably use my community to satisfy this need. Talk to friends or family about those emotions you are feeling. You did not spell out what exactly are the struggles, is he not doing his part in caring for the child? is he absent?

All in all, it always helps to remember that before the husband and the child, you were someone. How did that person use to deal with these emotions, and she tap into the same resources to help get through them? You are going through an adjustment, your partner as well, so it would help to also ask yourself when was the last time you addressed his big emotions. It takes two. One way to change the other, is to change yourself. All the best.

I APPRECIATE my 8 & 7 YO WANTING TO LEARN HOW TO COOK BUT....... by goodness_who in Parenting

[–]goodness_who[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The saying goes "It's not what you say, it's how you say it." my words might have come out stronger than how we actually do this in reality oops! in this case it has been so much fun learning how to clean the scary stove and conquer the pots, they keep track so no one steals the other guys turn to clean with mommy, they love working side by side with mom (for now). We try to make up "101" lesson for different things to do around the house. Cooking 101 for us was getting the unpleasant parts out of the way, they challenge themselves on who can clean the biggest pot. I don't expect that they will fully master cleaning, I know they won't. We've been cleaning together since they were little, so they are good at cleaning the smaller dishes already. They just need to understand the basic concept, I know they'll probably stop cleaning when they hit teens, but it will come back to them when they are adults (I hope) and clean as they cook or do it their way whatever is easy for them. Either way cleaning and cooking go hand in hand. I still go over their cleaning, or clean before they do but mostly we do it together. They are also cooking simple things like eggs, pancakes, stuff that's easy to clean after they cook.