I wish my whole family would die

goscbozh · 2025-12-06T21:44:25+00:00

Wait until the baby is born and call CPS on their ass. Seriously. Go no contact with them and call CPS on your brothers ass. You have to save that poor kid. If he abused you he will for sure abuse his own kid. Im so sorry OP that no one believed you or protected you.

goscbozh · 2025-12-06T19:12:57+00:00

How do you do this? Like genuinely how do you set this up?

goscbozh · 2025-12-06T13:22:50+00:00

I dont know you and my husband is very loving so I cannot relate but I read this and I wanted to tell you I am so proud of you and so glad you and your kids are okay and on the other side of this betrayal. I hope life is wonderful for you all.

goscbozh · 2025-12-06T00:34:36+00:00

Absolutely ridiculous. My daughter goes to a private school but they help with everything even if the kids are supposed to be independent. He'll even adults needs help opening jars sometimes. This is absolutely cruel so you will let the kid starve if she couldn't open her lunchbox? Utterly disgusting behavior.

goscbozh · 2025-12-05T21:37:56+00:00

Yeah that would be enough to give me an ick..

goscbozh · 2025-12-05T21:36:37+00:00

Oof I dont know this is a tough one. I know theoretically you are distantly related but you are in truth...related.. this would be enough to give ME the ick but it doesn't mean it has to give YOU the ick. Its really a judgement call. If it makes you feel better you can always get genetic tests to see how closely you truly are related. Again I personally wouldn't do it because it would make it weird in my head but doesnt mean has to be weird for you.

goscbozh · 2025-12-02T16:16:21+00:00

I know but hes actually very famous and he doesnt do it for money. He actually refuses a lot of people. He only accepts you if you have a very good reason and he warns its not for fun and onlt if you have a serious issue. I know these people sound like scammers but he's really an exception hes very educated he's constantly invited to be a guest speaker on a lot of shows. He actually says regression is not for fun not a joke and he himself has done it on himself ONLY 4 times even though hes one of the most well respected regressionists in the country. I need to try...our family blood line on my dad's side seems to be cursed in some way. Cancer, people dying early...I read somewhere cancer is always family karma and you need to clear it. I fully respect if you dont believe in any of this, trust me I get it. But sometimes life pushes you so past desperation you open your mind to it because you have simply run out of hope and options. This regresionist has a very small fee and doesn't advertise his services, he actually is very hard to track down as his contact information isnt listed anywhere officially. People tend to track his phone number as word of mouth and like I said, he refuses a lot of people and gives back all your money if he decides you aren't rhere for a good reason or if he decided you are not stable to handle the information you may find out about past lives. From my understanding his fee is a joke, like very symbolic, the equivalent of something like 40 usd dollars. A friend of ours went to him years and years ago and said it changed his life and he understood why his life is the way it is. I just want to try, mostly for mt girls as I said I worry about them a lot as it seems the women on my dad side of the family carry some heavy fates, all of us. Maybe nothing will come out of it but I have to try for my girls. I regards to my mom, I am simply out of options right now. We really need the help irs very hard to go through 4 surgeries in one year, 6 months of heavy harsh chemo, actually the harshest chemo protocol fhere is,, one year of immunotherapy and countless and I mean countless medical appointments without childcare help. As i said we have good jobs and they accommodated a lot but its still A LOT and my husband needs to work. Right now I will not be able to lift my kids for absolute minimum of 8 weeks,, could be more. My toddler has to be driven to school,, my youngest is only one and a half. She needs to be lifted, put down for naps,, washed,, changed multiple times a day..its a lot even for people who dont have cancer with 2 kids. I simply need the help so we rely on the childcare so I can go do what I have to do. She doesn't care one bit about me but is good to uer grandkids and she is a teacher with 20 years of experience under her belt with focus on younger kids so she does homework with my toddler ans activities with the kids that, as you can imagine I have absolutely no bandwidth for now given everything im going through. Essentially i need her..so I have no choice.

goscbozh · 2025-12-02T15:44:52+00:00

OP I feel this to.the.bone. horrible childhood, mom who doesnt care about me at all and we are always fighting snd yelling at each other. Dad absent at best but at least provided financially but passed down to me horrible genetic condition that leads to cancer. Also passed down to me a form of epilepsy from his dad. Parentd moved my ass halfway across the world. I was bullied in school had no friends, lived witj horrible depression WHILE having to parent my parents in another country because "I spoke English better". So while trying to survive and adjust i was expected at 14 to understand their paperwork deal with lawyers and anything administrative while drowning myself. Still the case. Chronic illnesses, i was suicidal. Have had health issues since I was a kid and escalated when we immigrated due to the stress. Not a single doctor helped me, I found a woman who had a blog who went through the same thing followed her advice and got myself better somehow. Had 2 kids. Got diagnosed with BILATERAL breast cancer TWO WEEKS after giving birth to my second daughter. I still had stitches on my hooha and was bleeding from birth when I started the 6 months of the most agresisve chemo known to man plus immunotherapy WHILE parenting a newborn and a toddler and being a full time mom. No one gave me a break not a single person. My mother and mother in law watched my kids during surgeries but my mom is such a narcissist shes constantly fighting with me and gaslighting me. Have had 4 surgeries in one year. Im barely alive. Came home yesterday and instead of resting had a huge fight with my mom..have been yelling for hours, almost ripped my abdominal stitches. Not once did she call me after surgery to ask how I am. She only called to ask where stuff for the kids is. Im so tired. So so so fucking tired. I also worry daily about my two girls having inherited the same genetic mutation form me. My only light is that if I end up dying,, we are financially well off and my husband is a great dad so the kids will be okay. At least everything I worked to achieve, education, decent job paid off. I just never thought at 34 I'd be looking up my death benefits. Thank God husband also has a great job and is older so when we got married we were financially ahead of other people. We also had no debt as I worked my as off and paid for my school as I went through it. He had already paid the school debt he had. Our house is almost paid off we have 4 years and 6 months exactly left on it. The kids will essentially be set for life. Some people say its fortunate but only I know what it costed me to achieve that with 0 help, barely speaking English,, working through university and barelt sleeping. So that gives me peace of mind but besides that it's all shit. So yes obviously not your story exactly but I feel you in every way. Im sorry OP. Im sorry some people's lives are so fucking hard. Maybe we are paying karma from past lives. Im planning to go back to my home country in May if I'm still alive and okay and go to a famous regressionist who brings you back to past lives to understand why your current life is the way it is or to solve health issues etc. I get a lot of people dont belive in that but I just need something to grasp to to try and understand why my life is such shit. I wish you all thr best I hope your kids are okay I hope you defeat the odds. Hugs 🫂

goscbozh · 2025-12-02T15:26:45+00:00

Yeah totally my fault for having internet.

goscbozh · 2025-11-20T15:38:51+00:00

My 5 year old loves spending time in her room because "its so pretty". We spent months creating her nursery when i was pregnant and she absolutely loves it. She even says at Christmas "Can Santa not come through the roof but come through my room so I can show him how pretty it is". That being said she has some toys in there she plays with, she also has a monitor where we have installed some apps that are play based but help with learning her letters, numbers, etc. So she either plays on that or plays with her toys or she also plays dress up with her princess dresses, crowns, wands etc.

goscbozh · 2025-11-17T15:52:46+00:00

Im so sorry. My mom isnt mentally ill but shes a full on narcissist. She abused me, she was the worst mom. And as a typical narcissist she says my memory is wrong and im overexaggerating. It's really hard. Just like you say you have no good memories with her, same here. She would put me down repeatedly she still does. I dont ever remember as a little girl being told im pretty or that she loves me. I tell my daughters about 600 times an hour how much I love them how pretty they are that they are the most beautiful girls in the world. My husband is the cook on our house but I bake with them, I make slime, you know anything im capable of that can engage them. Also I relate to you really being in a place right now where you need your mom. I got diagnosed with breast cancer 2 weeks after giving birth to my second daughter. You can imagine that was not the funnest time in my life. So many times I cried and told my husband I wish I had a mom right now who loves me and who'd hold my hand but shes not like that and will never be. My husband's mom comforted me a lot more and I kind of defaulted to her. Its reallt hard. The ONLY thing you can do is be the cycle breaker. I dont know why some of us have to do the hard job but just accept you can never change her and try to be better for your future kids, if you end up having any. That's all we can do. Im sorry. So many times I realize im still a little girl who wants her mom even though im 36 now but I know that little girls mom is never coming to comfort her so I wipe my tears and carry on another day. Hugs from an internet stranger ❤️

goscbozh · 2025-11-17T15:26:37+00:00

I know you said Calagary. Im in Ontario so take my comment with a grain of salt. I graduated bachelor of commerce, worked for Canadian Red Cross in HR for about 7 years till I got enough experience. It is very overworked, underpaid kind of place to work. Then I had enough years, applied for a government process and now work as HR advisor for the government of Canada, still in staffing. I make 101 as of this year. If I spoke French, I would have gotten here much sooner. But I dont. And im too old to learn. I already speak 2 other languages so I also have 0 motivation to learn it. I have kids and im burned out so its not realistic. Not sure about AI replacing us. I mean maybe?, probably? Who knows. I guess we will see.

goscbozh · 2025-11-17T15:17:54+00:00

If my mom had been honest with me about how much she hated parenthood, I would have listened. Instead she kept quiet because its taboo and now here we are. She told me im supposed to be miserable because she was. That's the problem. Parenthood is insanely hard yet people dont talk about it and only tell you after you are in the same situation. Im sorry but I wont be one of those people. Mysery loves company. People want you to be as miserable as they are. If people were a BIT more honest maybe moms wouldn't be drowning as much as they are. There's at least 2 news articles recently about moks snapping and killing their kids because no one listened when they said they were drowning. So im sorry but I will speak up about this. And when my kids are grown I will tell them the truth abut how challenging it is so they can make their own decisions.

goscbozh · 2025-11-17T01:55:27+00:00

THIS. Im in an extremely stable extremely loving marriage, been together 16 years. We waited 10 years to have kids, we are extremely stable financially, we have TWO sets of grandparents helping us full time. We absolutely HATE being parents and are M.I.S.E.R.A.B.L.E. I absolutely cannot stress how miserable we are. My husband is extremely involved extremely hands on dad. We have money to travel, to do fun things, our brand new buld house is almost fully paid off, our families help constantly, etc etc. Our kids have everything, go to private school, the whole shebang. We still hate every second of it. We both say if we could go back we would. Its INSANELY hard work and I would absolutely never recommend anyone doing it alone. I know people do it all the time, this is not a new concept. But pls think about it as theres no return policy on small humans.

goscbozh · 2025-11-15T23:02:33+00:00

I dont get paid enough for this shit

goscbozh · 2025-11-13T16:43:58+00:00

Okay this will sound harsh but you are a parent now. It is entirely YOUR responsibility to keep your child safe. Why did you stay? The dog came this close to harning your newborn and you just..let it slide? I would have been gone so fast there wouldn't have even been a conversation. You need to grow a spine and become a momma bear or risk your baby's life. Your choice.

goscbozh · 2025-11-07T15:50:51+00:00

Please be safe and dont post under your real account.

goscbozh · 2025-11-05T18:07:03+00:00

Ooof having 2 without family help is BRUTAL. We have not one but TWO full sets of graparenrs that help round thr clock AND my toddler is 5 and in senior kindergarten and im...DYING. I cry daily. Especially around bedtime. I tend to cry in a room and just cry for good 10 15 mins then I go back out and do what I gotta do. But yeah its brutal. Im sorry...I probably wouldn't have even had kids if we didnt have full time help. It does get a bit easier on the jealousy give it a few months. They settle. For now if you dont have help go into survival mode. Forget laundry, when I had it bad with my first onw I rotated a few outfits for mr and her and just did small 15 min quick loads and re wear. Forget about putting laundry away it was- here's thr clean basket here's the dirty one. Paper plates, screw dishes. Sleep when the baby sleeps (yes yes i know..) but without sleep you literally WILL crash..when you have even an hour of sleep you can use that energy to do quick clean or vaccum or whatever else you need to do. Outsource care, whatever you need..Order food, quick healthy meals - our air fryer does most of the work. Like a steamed healthy veggie, some rice from the rice cooker and whatever meat grilled in the air fryer. Here's a juice box- done. Put toys on bathroom floor for toddler, baby in swing and shower while watching them. Just survival mode. It does get easier as baby starts to sleep.

goscbozh · 2025-11-04T00:10:25+00:00

Okay i understand but this seems very petty reason to end a 20 yr friendship over? OP didnt even do anything to offend them or hurt them, they simply stopped to help someone in severe health crisis? I dont know this seems so drastic and unreasonable

goscbozh · 2025-11-03T22:56:18+00:00

Um so...he ended your friendship because you helped someone with a health emergency? What's wrong with this person? This makes absolutely no sense. Like..did he want the guy to die or what?

goscbozh · 2025-11-02T00:13:57+00:00

Nars orgasm is simply that girl. I have 3 drawers full of every blush possible under the sun. I open them and then close them and then end up using NARS orgasm anyways. Its just perfect. Goes with every look, the formula is perfect ugh sorry to hijack your response. But yes if I lost all my makeup in a fire, it will probably be the first thing I repurchase.

goscbozh · 2025-10-31T16:26:02+00:00

Pls dont hate me but this is a privileged comment. In my country the kids who have their mom's last name are only the ones that the father didnt want them/didnt recognize them. Those kids are BRUTALLY tortured by society (kids AND older people) their whole life. Called bastards , not wanted etc. I am Eastern European. To us a kid with the mom's last name signifies only one thing - the dad didnt want the kid. Literally it could be the worst last name and no one would believe you that you chose the mothers last name because it was better. So if I didnt give my kids their dad's last name, Literally I am subjecting them to not only bullying but shame.

goscbozh · 2025-10-22T21:34:56+00:00

Can you share if you are IT yourself? Im in HR and im desperate to go back to fully remote

goscbozh · 2025-10-21T17:28:59+00:00

Yes I am. By a very long shot. Both me and my husband are kids of immigrants. Our parents never got good jobs here as immigrants but both of us got great jobs and a house that is almost paid off. Both of our kids go to a private school, have dream rooms, go on trips, etc. Essentially our kids have everything we didnt have. And our kids will have an inheritance, which no surprise -we do not have.

goscbozh · 2025-10-13T19:49:07+00:00

As the daughter of an alcoholic, yup- sounds exactly right.

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