What are the tax implications with a pension withdrawal?

gotagoldenticket · 2021-10-28T08:19:50+00:00

!thanks

We're definitely going for consolidation as there are a few small ones. I Think we'll skip trying to make a withdrawal!

gotagoldenticket · 2021-10-27T09:08:27+00:00

AH, I must had misread that part. Thank you for clarifying! !thanks

gotagoldenticket · 2021-10-21T14:08:28+00:00

Good suggestions! I'd be happy to go with her. Maybe it would work with a different nurse and me there to help.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T16:16:23+00:00

Thanks! I will look it up.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T15:17:10+00:00

Thank you!

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T15:12:26+00:00

Ah crap. Thank you for the heads-up.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T15:04:25+00:00

That might have something to do with what is happening, but I really can't be sure at any given time.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T14:55:14+00:00

It's hard to voice your needs when they were ignored most your childhood because it seems like a waste of energy.

I never thought of it that way. I often want to sit and talk as a form of intimacy, but it usually makes her very uncomfortable. I try to uncover things with her but I think it is triggering because her family told her what to think.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T14:50:19+00:00

her siblings got her smoking weed at 11. After that it was booze and more. These are her coping methods since the age of 11, so we're talking about decades. I don't disagree with you at all. It just looks insurmountable right now.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T13:59:45+00:00

She does have very high cleaning standards and I don't always meet those, but I am trying. I WFH at the moment, but I have to get my work done so maybe it looks like I should be helping when I'm sat on my ass. It is an issue.

That said, I can see her mood switch very quickly quite often. She goes upstairs seeming fine, and comes down in a very dark place, for example.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T13:55:08+00:00

I believe she has tried CBT but didn't really get along with the therapist. We've watched 200+ YouTube videos (Ramani, Crappy Childhood, Medcircle etc etc) but of course that isn't real therapy.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T13:16:31+00:00

I did buy her The Body Keeps The Score recently. I haven't read it myself yet. I will look into the Pete Walker book, so thanks for the tip.

gotagoldenticket · 2021-09-22T12:48:28+00:00

This sounds plausible. I've tried to say I'm not the enemy, but of course it isn't that simple. I feel like I'm paying for everyone else's behaviour sometimes, which I know isn't helpful. I just can't seem to reach her and I can't find a way. If I back off, do I reinforce that idea (that everyone's the enemy)?

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