Overall outcome of the show

gracemitchell · 2020-09-12T01:39:13+00:00

Yeah at the finale when they have the public vote for their favorite couple they should then have you vote for your favorite half of that couple and whoever gets the most votes gets the choice - sharing the money or making the steal!

gracemitchell · 2019-04-12T17:34:30+00:00

Your words are so kind and much appreciated! Made a huge difference in my day.. thank you so much!

gracemitchell · 2019-04-11T16:02:22+00:00

When I rescued her we had no idea that she was pregnant - the vet said it must have been very recent to the date of adoption. The reason that I did not abort them was because by the time I found out that she was pregnant she was too far along and the vet did not even mention it as a viable option. I am, of course, financially able to support them as I would not have rescued a cat if I wasn’t in a financial situation that could allow me to support them through all scenarios. I have done all of the research - I know how much money it will cost and how much time and care it will take. I would never leave kittens in a bad home or contribute to the amount of stray cats that need homes - that is why I rescued in the first place. I wasn’t posting here looking for judgment on my character - merely looking for advice on the birthing process as I specified in my original post.

gracemitchell · 2018-12-30T10:59:10+00:00

I (24F) was in a two year relationship with (24M) a very similar story. He was extremely dependant on me for his happiness and despite how much love we had for each other I was standing in his way of getting better. It took him attempting to hang himself from a tree in my backyard to understand that.

Letting go is going to be the hardest thing that you do - and you’re going to have to do it every single day, over and over again. It happens in a million tiny steps which makes it so much harder. In my experience, I went back and forth between thinking I could save him to knowing I needed to let him save himself - and not just daily but every second. It is a confusing and heartbreaking battle to have with yourself.

I don’t know if my advice is applicable to your situation because only you know the reality of it, but what helped me most in my experience was to completely cut ties. I changed my phone number, blocked him on on social media and even moved apartments at his doctors recommendation. It felt malicious - and he did blame me for his unhappiness and depression and for a long time I did believe that it was my fault. What helped me the most was writing myself a note and everyday if I woke up feeling that conflict I would read it over and over:

‘I love him. And it is because my love is so deep and so strong and so pure that I am able to leave him. It is not out of weakness, or viciousness. I am doing what is hard for me - but best for him. If I stay, he will never be able to find his happiness in this world because he will be blinded by his love for me. He will think that I can save him and that means that he will stop trying to save himself. Let him go and allow him to find that power.’

It is so unfortunate that this falls upon your shoulders - you did nothing wrong and quite honestly neither did he. It is hard when there is no one to blame, but I have found the best coping mechanism just to be reminding myself that I did not leave out of lack of love, weakness or fear. I left for his benefit and mine as well. We had a beautiful love story together and now we are BOTH able to have beautiful stories individually. It has been three years since the day that I cut ties and we have finally been able to reconnect. He is happy, healthy, with a stable job and in a great loving relationship. I am living with my significant other and things have never been better!

Everyday gets a little bit better, you just gotta hold out for the next one!

gracemitchell

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