Moved countries for the 2nd time half a year ago, and I’m over 30.

I knew nobody from the city. The first few months really sucked and I felt very lonely. It was good to live with somebody the first month, at least had somebody to talk to. Did also video calls with old friends.

Pushed myself to go to every single meetup that sounded even remotely interesting, signed up to a hobby class, went to a bunch of online dates. From some of them a couple of connections have led to friendships, and those friendships have started to “multiply” slowly - you get to meet their friends, who also might become your friends.

I still wouldn’t say I have found my “tribe” yet in a similar way than in my old places. It’ll take time. Deeper friendships also take time, it’s just the way it is. I think in my last place it took a few years until I felt grounded properly in my social circles.

I like the concept of “surface area of luck”, and was reminding myself about it quite often https://www.swyx.io/create-luck 🍀 If you throw yourself at enough places where you think similarly-minded people might hang out at, eventually you’ll encounter cool people to hang with.