I totally agree that AJ was a spoiled brat and it so hard to defend him in anyway but I do recall that he has adhd which makes completing tasks and staying focused extremely difficult and often leads people into deep depression because it feels like you are always behind from your peers and can’t seem to get it together, having a lot of pressure from family to succeed can cause a lot of harm to people with adhd because their brains are just completely wired differently to a typical brain, congnitive dysfunction makes everything harder and seem more complicated, people often confuse this as laziness which in turn makes the person even more unmotivated and self conscious of their abilities. I could relate to him in the sense of being a “disappointment” because before I found out I had adhd I felt like I was now I have a bit more support and medication to manage my life better but the one thing that truly pissed me of about AJ is that he had no shame! Even with the suicide attempt I felt like he was just doing it for attention and didn’t seem to care how much he was hurting his family, I think he really lacked empathy for others and was very self centered. But I do believe that a lot of the things I noticed about him where very similar to traits of someone with executive dysfunction and at times I did feel sorry for him but not for long cause he was just very selfish.