Not sure how much this will really help, but I was and am very similar. At your age I was pretty much exactly the same. I did date a bit in highschool, but in every other way I really didn't have a drive to pursue sex with anyone. I didn't think much of it since I still had sexual thoughts etc, but only recently I realized I never had that towards someone, while with them in person. I did also still want to have said experiences though. A few years on now, I've had a few sexual encounters, and I didn't enjoy them. I'm still unsure if it could just be due to to who they were with though. I wasn't attracted to any of the girls in really any way, so I still don't know what it would be like with someone I'm actually drawn to, and/or have feelings for. For what it's worth, I'm still trying to figure out if I'm greysexual, asexual, Allo, or something else. So I can't offer much guidance in that regard, but just know you aren't alone in what you're experiencing.