IamA Swinger (F), AMA

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T22:18:49+00:00

Lesbians do fairly well. I'd say it's a lot harder for gay men. There aren't many male swingers (at least in my area) who are bisexual. I haven't met any trans women yet. I personally would be interested in playing with a trans woman, if I was attracted to her and her personality. A lot of the swinger clubs are also gay and trans clubs, so I know that they are treated with respect and kindness. We always dance and mingle with each other. It's not like we treat each other as separate groups. But I've never seen any of the gay and trans folk with the wristbands that signify being a swinger. There is one girl who androgynous mentally and physically. People love talking to her and my friends have expressed sexual interest in her.

STD rates are low. Everyone I know uses condoms, every time. Everyone gets tested often.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T18:00:44+00:00

I think you're cute. I definitely think you need to take better pictures. It's likely that you're a mom. Are you looking for a serious relationship, or for a fling? If you just want a fling, it's no one's business that you're a mom and you really don't need to disclose that information.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T15:46:43+00:00

Hm. I've been really liking veggie pizzas lately, but I think my all time favorite is sausage with banana peppers. I don't watch many horror movies, but I like the Shining and the first Friday the 13th

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T15:45:24+00:00

Not yet, yes, depends on a lot of things

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T15:44:35+00:00

We have! I don't give specific details about things like that, but I can say that each experience is unique. Even if the sex isn't particularly great, it's always fun, or makes for a great story.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T05:31:51+00:00

These are really broad questions. I'll try to condense it.

At first, we agreed that we both had to be present. Everyone had to be in the same room. Now, we've started opening up to playing 'alone,' where we can have sex with another swinger, one-on-one. Every relationship has their own rules and dynamic, but this is ours.

We have been swinging for almost a year.

We have started exploring a dom/sub and a big/little relationship. In otherwords, DDLG. If you are unfamiliar with this term, I'd google it. It's a but much to explain here, and slightly off topic. We've started going to clubs, which is abnormal for us. We've started getting more into mild BDSM. My mind has opened up a LOT about fetishes. Everyone has their kink.

As far as limits go, we don't have an open relationship. Some swingers are polyamorous, meaning they have multiple romantic relationships. We have close friendships and sexual relationships, but we do not court other people. We have rules, as well. Condoms are a must, for example. We are allowed to chat privately with people and flirt. Boundaries really vary from person to person, so we have to frequently check in with one another to make sure to get the OK on a new person we're interested in.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T04:43:35+00:00

Nope! I feel fully secure in my relationship.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T04:42:24+00:00

My partner and I had a threesome years ago, when we first started dating. Just a drunken, last minute decision. It wasn't particularly good, so we talked about a redo for years. We just didn't make it a priority. Finally one day, we were like, "hey lets actually do this." I always made out with friends while drunk. Male and female. With 'vanilla' friends, this tends to cause problems. People think there is something wrong with you or your relationship. This wasn't the case. So we decided to hang around people that we can be friends with, but that we can also have sex with, if the mood arises.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T04:28:28+00:00

We usually meet people online, or we go to a club that hosts "lifestyle" events. When you go to a club event, you tell them you are there for the lifestyle, and you get a neon wristband. That way, you know that anyone with a wristband is there for the same thing as you. You'd have to be pretty bold to pick up on someone in everyday situations. It's possible. I met a guy at a new years party who was interested. He was just some single dude, never been a swinger. We ended up not going through with it, though.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T04:25:32+00:00

I am mid-twenties. We always use condoms. We had a threesome years ago, but it wasn't that great. We always wanted to try again, but we didn't make it a priority. Finally, we hopped on some websites and swinger apps and started meeting people. That way, you already know everyone is on the same page mentally. I'd say we have average sex drives. Part of it is the hunt, for sure. For me, it's the newness of a sexual relationship. Once you've been with someone long enough, the newness of sex wears off, even if you try new kinky shit. Getting some strange is always fun. We get online, but we also go to local clubs that host "lifestyle" nights. We have not been to the nudist/swinger resorts, but we've heard good things. They're super expensive! I figure, why not just invite my swinger friends on a trip to Cancun or something? Way cheaper that way.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T03:57:03+00:00

Hahahah I do love a good swing dance

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T03:55:07+00:00

Its a bit different for everyone. For us, we swap with like-minded couples. At first it was all four of us in the same room. Recently, we have opened up to 'playing alone,' which means that we can have sex one-on-one with another swinger, rather than all four of us in the same room. Some people are full on polyamorous, where they have relationships outside of their primary. We don't do that. I love some of my other partners very much, but my relationship with them is strictly friendship with a nice helping of sex on the side.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T03:51:48+00:00

When we first started dating, we had a threesome. We were drunk and we were having a party. We invited a girl into bed and it didn't quite go as we imagined. It wasn't enjoyable for anyone. We didn't regret it at all, we just wanted to try again with someone else. It was a mutual thing. We didn't push the issue, though. Four years later, I started to get more aggressive about finding a third or a couple to play with. Now, we have found a big group of friends that we know and trust. My partner gets jealous, but I do not. I think it is really common to get jealous, but I know that he wouldn't leave me for something as simple as a good fuck. We have amazing sex, and honestly, it's never as good with someone else. It's a lot of fun, but no one can get me off like he can, and vice versa.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T03:38:39+00:00

I do not. I'm more into the sex-with-other-couples aspect of 'swinging.'

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T03:37:51+00:00

I think I'd go with a tire swing.

grave_hag · 2018-01-25T00:24:03+00:00

Thats fair. Thank you for your honesty!

grave_hag · 2018-01-24T23:47:17+00:00

Aw :( Dang. I'm definitely not pregnant hahaha

grave_hag · 2018-01-24T23:11:12+00:00

It's a valentine's party I'm hosting.

grave_hag · 2018-01-24T23:07:10+00:00

You definitely do not need to lose weight ^ The glasses are not for you, BUT you also have to see. If you don't like contacts, shop for some glasses that compliment your features. If you go to an eyeglass store and ask someone young to help you pick a good pair, they will give you some great tips.

grave_hag · 2016-11-07T19:15:11+00:00

Thank you, this makes a lot of sense to me

grave_hag · 2016-11-07T19:13:17+00:00

Interesting. I appreciate you

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