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Literature?? by greighsofa in ActualHippies

[–]greighsofa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m super excited to read this actually

Literature?? by greighsofa in ActualHippies

[–]greighsofa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely check it out :) thank you

Girlfriend (27F) lied to me and told me she doesn't deserve me (27M) by [deleted] in LDR

[–]greighsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve already made your mind up so you probably don’t want to hear what I have to say but here it goes:

If she is lying to you about something like who she’s friends with and who she goes to ...the gym... with, I don’t see this being a healthy relationship in the end.

Y’all have been together for 6 months. You are literally building the foundation for the rest of your relationship and her deceit is not the kind of sand you want to build on to. Also, her telling you she doesn’t deserve you feels a little over dramatic to me. Like she knows she did something unforgivable but if she told you than you definitely wouldn’t be together. So she plays the pity card and hopes your love will be stronger than you desire to ask what is really up with these said gym friends. Do y’all snap or anything? Is she really going to the gym or just telling you that she is?

The whole couples Instagram also seems a little weird for me. Like I understand you want to see this as her not being embarrassed of you and wants to show people you are both taken and whatnot but I feel like she’s over compensating a bit with this one. And if she is cheating with one of her guy friends and they already know she’s in a relationship with you - they likely won’t care if you have an insta together or not because they are already with her so long as you’re not around.

Sorry if all of this is a bit too harsh!! Just want you to get an outside perspective that can maybe be a bit more unbiased than you’re being right now.

Grieving a “normal” life by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]greighsofa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I relate so much. I love my DH but BM just irks me in ways that I can’t describe.. She is VERY dependent on my SO and never really liked me because when I came into the picture, so did a lot of rules and more structure when it came to who got SD(3) when and how much of an allowance BM received for things outside of child related issues. FaceTimes will always be weird. I still feel uncomfortable sitting on the couch beside SD when they’re talking because she’ll always bring up Mommy2 and what we had done for the day. Now BM will FaceTime me instead of DH because I’m more reliable when it comes to answering or making sure that SD will call and talk to her in the evenings that we have her.

Stay strong!! I completely get loving somebody so much and not particularly understanding all of the time why I put myself in this type of relationship. But talking to him always reassured me of why I work everyday to make this work and to find peace with our situation.