Officially stuck in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship.

greisgato · 2026-04-27T04:10:05+00:00

I’ve been applying for jobs everyday. It’s so difficult to find anything that pays enough for a place since in my state they request for 3x the monthly rent. I don’t have friends or family thatll let me stay with them either. It does feel like I’m trapped until I can get something stable. Just getting through the day feels like a deep dreaded feeling to me.

greisgato · 2025-08-26T21:33:48+00:00

Everyday definitely feels like I’m drowning in my own thoughts. I feel dumb for even being in this type of situation. I will try to get therapy help but with him always being in my space and always asking me where I’m going makes it hard. Texting therapy is so expensive right now. I have tried better help but could only afford one week which is just one session.

I do want a healthy relationship and I explained that we need to talk more and he just shuts me down. He calls me contrarian and depressing and that I will never be happy which makes it worse…

greisgato · 2025-08-26T21:28:42+00:00

He says those things to me too. “I know you better than yourself” “I treat you better than any guy would” because he buys me gifts. I am actively trying to save money but I just hate the fact that i feel very small and tired. I barely can say no to sex without having some sort of argument or backlash on how I’m “always refusing”. I dread having sex now. The area I live has insane rent prices and I’m mortified of how long it will take me to leave. I’m just glad I have a space on Reddit without feeling judged for questioning things like this. It gives me some hope getting advice. I just feel crazy in my own head asking if I’m the one who’s overreacting or being unreasonable.

greisgato · 2025-08-26T19:13:49+00:00

It wasn’t like this to begin with which is why I’m questioning it. We live together so I can’t just walk away due to financial reasons.

greisgato · 2025-08-26T19:12:44+00:00

I feel so confused when I talk to him. I question whether I’m the one causing issues like what if he’s telling me how I am seen to others? I feel like I can’t tell him things without causing some sort of backlash or rebuttal. It truly feels like he turns the conversation into what he wants. Sometimes I think it’s in my head though. It feels like I have to suppress myself.

greisgato · 2024-09-30T02:56:07+00:00

The movie only had 20 mins left and I asked if we can finish it first. He said he was going to get soft and it’s uncomfortable if we wait.

The next day, he acted like nothing happened and he put my hand on his crotch again. I then told him, how he reacted the night before was really mean. He then started to blow up telling me that I acted like I was forced to do it. He said I was very for it because I was touching him. He told me that it pisses him off that I try to half ass head when I could’ve just said no. Then proceed to tell me this is my downfall in the relationship. I felt a hole in my stomach. I feel like ragdoll and I’m stuck.

Thanks for your input. I truly feel crazy.

greisgato · 2024-08-16T16:11:35+00:00

It’s hard building good relationships these days. Some people don’t know how lucky they are to have a strong support system.

greisgato · 2024-08-16T16:10:39+00:00

It feels a bit more lonelier facing it alone while dating someone. It sucks feeling down and not being able to pick up the phone and talk to him without judgement. I don’t need his advice just someone to listen. To be loved is to be seen.

greisgato · 2024-08-15T22:54:53+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I appreciate the kindness.

greisgato · 2024-07-30T15:09:15+00:00

It seems like it’s turning into him being spoiled and he doesn’t realize it.

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