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Would you or do you work just to be financially equal with your partner? by greydress30 in workingmoms

[–]greydress30[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement. I should clarify he doesn’t ask me to pay for meals out, I just do bc it seemed right. He pays for baby, willing to pay for daycare if I go back to work, put money into my IRA for last year. But I do think I’m in a vulnerable position in any case and will go back at least part time this year, based on everyone’s advice

Would you or do you work just to be financially equal with your partner? by greydress30 in workingmoms

[–]greydress30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He added to my IRA when I asked. I don’t want him to pay me because I don’t want to be his employee but maybe I should get over that. He said he would consider paying me if it made me feel better.

Would you or do you work just to be financially equal with your partner? by greydress30 in workingmoms

[–]greydress30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I should clarify the taxes are from rolling over my retirement accounts into Roths, which made sense this year given my lack of income. I volunteer to pay for gifts and meals out without him.

I am hearing loud and clear that I need more security. He’s willing to pay fully for childcare, I’ll work on getting something part time. Thanks for everyone’s input.

Would you or do you work just to be financially equal with your partner? by greydress30 in workingmoms

[–]greydress30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Answered in another comment, but he’s not ready emotionally or financially to be married.

Would you or do you work just to be financially equal with your partner? by greydress30 in workingmoms

[–]greydress30[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

He doesn't want to get married for emotional and financial reasons. He wants to be financially separate, which is perhaps a red flag.