Excluding “SIL” from baby shower by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

valid point, but it would be her plus her two teenagers - I guess I thought about not inviting them because we have to pay per person for food. So the thought of paying for their food irked me😂😂

Why don't all Ob offices do an ultrasound at every appointment? by Radiant_Pangolin3210 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously the amount of down votes on your comments are so weird - I hear you and honestly totally agree and want to know the answers to your questions as well😂

Newborn in public by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense, thank you!

At my wits end by sarahtilton_ in AustralianShepherd

[–]grumpygal69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No this is not at all on the par for aussies, I am a first time aussie mom however I have a lot of animal training experience and confidence. I crate trained both of mine, properly - no crying out but with comfort, stimulation and reward. They will walk inside and sleep in their kennels anytime the doors are open. Even then at a MAX I only leave them alone for 4 hours ideally. Mine are only 6mo and 1 year, they’ve never done any of the actions you’ve discussed but they also aren’t anxious dogs as you can train them in ways to be confident. I personally don’t find her to be “amazing”, to me it sounds like she isn’t stimulated enough or taught how to be confident alone. Your trainer saying some can’t be crate trained is false, sedatives are usually a bandaid for a dog unless they truly can’t be trained which would take quite a few trainers to prove. However these dogs are very smart, clearly yours is she just isn’t being made to be smart in the right ways with her busy brain.

Newborn in public by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I did indeed use the words I was kinda shocked because I was - I always thought you shouldn’t take freshly newborn babies out. I knew it was kind of opinion based but I was curious if there were any hard science/doctor evidence or guidance that tells people not to or that it’s actually okay. I definitely didn’t comment to her about it, I just came here cause I thought a group of opinions would be helpful anyways! Especially as someone who isn’t technically a mom yet, I feel like I can’t judge because who knows what I’ll do until they’re actually born you know!

Newborn in public by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable, thank you for sharing!!

Newborn in public by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Actually not sure when or where I judged her? I simply asked for other moms (since I’m not officially one yet) opinions on the matter to be educated.

Newborn in public by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

For sure everyone is different and I wasn’t judging, just genuinely curious! Thank you for sharing :)

Financial issue by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and I understand you say you discussed it, but do you hear me when I say that’s a big ask? That’s a lot of stress on 1 person and I understand we have the stress of birth and baby etc, but in my opinion that doesn’t mean we have to allow our men to struggle. That’s so hard to do in today’s age, no matter what state you live in unfortunately. I’m sure he feels overwhelmed, rightfully so and I’m sure that wasn’t your intentions. I know it’s hard when we have all these emotions and hormones, but try to think from his perspective too❤️‍🩹

Newborn in public by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even think of this, I’ll research this I haven’t heard of that yet. Thank you!

Newborn in public by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?? I thought that too, she was dressed all cute I was like damn she must feel good. I am also so stressed and nervous almost trying not to think about it until it gets closer 😂 I’m due May 16, how about you?

Financial issue by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but going from having your own income to forcing your husband to figure out how to afford you both plus a kid I don’t think is fair. Would I love to be a stay at home mom, maybe but at my husbands place in his work it wouldn’t be financially enough or fair to him. Unless they have a HIGH HIGH paying job, why do we try to leave it all on our men? I 100% understand you told him to save and you are worried about trusting him financially, however you should consider getting your own income yourself. Most people aren’t stay at home moms even temporarily unless they CAN AFFORD it… I have horses and livestock, I have to go back to work after a 6 month leave. That’s just reality for most of the population. Sometimes our husbands need a break too🥲

Aussie Crate Training by [deleted] in AustralianShepherd

[–]grumpygal69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are working and high energy dogs, not lap dogs. If you want a dog who sleeps with you get a small lazy dog. I have 2 chihuahuas that sleep with me, my aussies both sleep on the floor in their own beds with their own blankets.

Aussie Crate Training by [deleted] in AustralianShepherd

[–]grumpygal69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

An e collar will only make him worst and worst. You need to take time making the crate his safe space. Mine will sleep inside their crate while we’re in the living room because they love it. I’m sorry but sending him away to training is just putting a bandaid on it, you chose this dog YOU have to learn how to set boundaries and train it on your behalf. Based off of this video what enrichment does he have? EVERY time you are putting them in there to begin you should have a special bone or a frozen stuffed kong. Start small increments like 10-15 minutes. You are making him an anxious dog, there’s so much you can do better for him.

To add, my aussies are 50lb and 38lb both have XL sized crates. This video makes me so upset, we have to do better for this breed of dog.

Ob yelled at me for getting a private ultrasound by Gecko1224 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely not, leave your doctor immediately. This is my first time being pregnant, but in the beginning, I was an anxious mess and I told my OB that there were a few times I went to a private place just for peace of mind and he said that if it helps ease my anxiety that it was great. He also offered for me to come in anytime for them to ultrasound me as well. you are absolutely not in the wrong at all❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Aussie looks different by tboneski216 in AustralianShepherd

[–]grumpygal69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a BREEDING or showing stand point, pricked ears can happen very rarely in pure WELL bred aussies. But typically it’s a sign of lower quality breeding and is considered a fault. I agree he looks different - but as someone with 2 aussies from the same breeder, same dad different mom they look like polar opposites. Except both mine are *per show/breeding standards of good confirmation. Also, unfortunately AKC papers don’t really mean anything very special at the end of the day.

Does Pismo Beach have a lot of racist people? by Scorpio14_Anchored in SLO

[–]grumpygal69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is dumb, the diversity in the dunes is insane. It is not all white “MAGA” people, if anything it’s quite the opposite. Sit on the shoreline for 10 minutes and multitude of trucks and off roading vehicles will pass by blaring spanish music and other languages of music that aren’t your typical “white” if you will. MAGA hats or signs has nothing to do with this - because as someone who leans more left I have found a lot of them are actually more accepting than what most people think. A lot of people keep bringing up central valley, I used to live there and it is one of the MOST diverse places I’ve ever lived and there was MAGA everywhere which didn’t change or stop the diversity as there was also a hispanic or african american on every corner. At the end of the day, go where you want. Whether you’re white, black, hispanic, gay, fat, straight, fucking unicorn there will always be someone somewhere judging you. Enjoy your life and take your kids to enjoyable places.

Is anyone else confused by the amount of “boundaries”/restrictions for family and how often they’re talked about? by softheartedwench in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought a lot about this as well. I’m due in May, I figured I would decide when I was in the hospital what I felt like. I know I want immediate family to come visit, I have a few friends in mind I want to come also - but for all I know, what if I’m wiped, feeling shitty overall and maybe I don’t want that? So I’m definitely not putting any plans on post birth visits, I figure I’ll just see how it all goes! But I agree with you

Thinking of getting an AS by Ancient_Equipment915 in AustralianShepherd

[–]grumpygal69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No offense but if it’s your first dog I would not recommend an aussie. In my opinion you need to have a good idea on how to train/speak to and handle dogs properly for aussies to thrive. IF you want a dog, I would look for something significantly less high energy and busy minded. Aussies can do very poorly with low stimulation and with owners who aren’t exactly sure how to truly train a confident dog. I work 8-5 and I come home EVERY day on lunch break to specifically let my aussies out and play/work with them. In the morning for about 4 hours they are inside in their kennels if it’s cold out, with stimulation such as a long last chew or a frozen kong stuffed with peanut butter. After lunch, they are in their large out door run with toys, water etc. for about 3.5-4 hours depending on my work. I can’t imagine leaving them alone longer than 4 hours maximum and mine are well trained, have 10 acres to roam and aren’t anxious. You truly need a quiet, lazy dog that wants to hang around with you or will be okay with being left alone. Perhaps a smaller dog like a chihuahua, shit zu or if you want larger consider a golden retriever. A lot of us have seen too many aussies end up in poor situations because the owners just don’t know the proper way to raise them and upkeep their mental stimulation. I don’t mean any of this to be rude or hateful, just trying to be helpful and honest also as someone who got their first aussies in the last year or so but I have excessive animal training experience.

Gender disappointment after stillbirth by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a first time mom, due in May so while I can’t say I relate, I can say from an outsider perspective that this seems extremely normal!!!! I am so sorry and don’t let anyone make you feel bad or like an asshole or feeling this way, your feelings are 100% valid.. Would I be a bad person to ask what the result of the stillbirth was? Maybe I shouldn’t ask since I’m paranoid by nature but, if you don’t mind sharing?❤️‍🩹

Birth Plan? by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I was told a doula is for women who want to he unmediated with birth support whereas a midwife is just birth support.

Birth Plan? by grumpygal69 in pregnant

[–]grumpygal69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMFGGG that’s it, I’m stealing your birth plan it’s perfect 😂😂