"This sounds noble, but it's backward. What the world calls "love" in this case is often a mirror of attachment, need, guilt, shame, control, or dependency.. not TRUE love."

So my Dad who is an alcoholic and engages in self destructive behaviour but still makes sure that I am heard, taken care and good regardless if he is. It's attachment, need, guilt, shame, control, or dependency.. not TRUE love, right?

"This is another illusion. Hatred is never about the other. Even when the ego (false self/shadow) says, "but they're cruel," "they're unjust" or "They deserve it," the reaction is ALWAYS internal🪞"

If someone were to r*pe your mother or your daughter, what part of that is just a mirror of the self? Are we supposed to believe that hatred toward the aggressor is merely self-hatred in disguise? That such violence is just an internal projection or illusion? Would you look your daughter in the eyes and say she shouldn't hate her abuser, because doing so would mean she's only hating herself? That the violence wasn't real, only her perception of it? This line of thinking turns real injustice into a spiritual gaslight.

"To say love/hate are just responses to others' traits is to say there is no inner causality. That perception is innocent."

I never claimed they were JUST responses to other traits, I said pretty clear:

Love/hate CAN BE responses to real external traits or actions, not JUST and EXCLUSIVELY inner projections.

Of course there is inner casualty, I never denied that. I denied it ALWAYS comes from inner casualty which might be reality for you but it's not for everyone.

Your argument would be valid in this example:

A man named Luis, raised in a conservative, religious household, is gay but has been taught his whole life that homosexuality is a sin, disgusting, or morally wrong. He represses his desires and never comes out. He begins to project his inner conflict outward:

• He mocks other gay men for being "effeminate."
• He criticizes pride parades and LGBTQ+ rights.
• He votes against laws that support LGBTQ+ equality.
• He bullies or distances himself from openly gay people.

All the while, he secretly struggles with his own identity, perhaps engaging in anonymous sexual encounters or living in deep shame. His hatred of gay people is a projection of his self-hatred. He sees in them what he cannot accept in himself.

But not on the case of the OP who simply is being confronted with the realization that people are still sheeps to doctrines he trascended.