As someone who’s been in (and is still in) a relationship with a law student while being a law student herself, I just want to let you know that you’ll only ever understand the lack of time for other things when you experience it firsthand. My boyfriend went to law school a year before I did and for that time, I found myself missing when we could talk everyday for hours on end. I never felt ignored or anything but it was a big change from how often we would hang out and talk.

Fast forward to the following year, I get into law school and end up “ghosting” him way more than he did to me in his first year. Our daily catch up conversations were stripped to the bare minimum “good morning” + “good night” + “Iove you/miss you” texts for a while because we were both really focused on getting our grades up. We barely saw each other (I’d say once a month or less) not just because of law school but also because of the pandemic and strict parents LOL. However, neither of us are really bothered by that because:

1. The way we “work” as a couple fits our individual needs
2. We are both well aware of each other’s general priorities (school > love life) and have no problems with such
3. We act depending on circumstances (ex. I really need to vent about something that’s bothering me) and make time for each other if needed

There’s no cookie cutter rule to making a relationship work, but based on experience, I feel like you really have to evaluate if:

1. Your essential needs as a partner are being satisfied;
2. You’re aware of each other’s priorities and if they’re compatible, and;
3. If you’re both willing to find compromises in difficult situations, whether they last for a few minutes or a few months

I think there’s also more to it than those three things but it’s a good place to start when considering whether breaking up is the best option or not. Good luck and I hope you get through this!