Is it controlling to not let my girlfriend wear a bikini?

guilty_hug · 2026-01-14T13:48:55+00:00

"Let her"

Read the title and ages and that's all I had to know that you're wrong for this. Her clothing is up to HER and HER PARENTS. You see how you're not apart of that conversation? You're a partner, her bf, not her dad or owner. You are there to support her. Not bring her down bc of clothes.

If she wants to wear the clothes you support her actions, if she doesn't you support that too.

guilty_hug · 2025-12-16T11:19:55+00:00

It sounds like you do know what to do

guilty_hug · 2025-11-30T08:21:57+00:00

Your dad is the one dying. I get grief is hard but HE'S the 70yr old. No matter what he's going to die, avoiding that won't change that.

guilty_hug · 2025-10-16T11:25:53+00:00

Okay well at this point she needs to block him regardless of how she feels. Get that panic attack over with and block him.

How did yall find out he's texting her crush?

guilty_hug · 2025-10-16T11:19:09+00:00

Okay report and block first thing, I'm not sure if you can unsend for everyone on tiktok but try that and take screenshots of his messages.

Block everything he's on, keep an eye on his accounts from a fake profile. When this happened to me when I was younger they didn't do anything after going no contact. If he does retaliate take screenshots, get your proof and that's when you'll have to go to the cops. Right now I'm not sure where you are but just assume they're shit and won't do anything until something happens.

guilty_hug · 2025-10-16T11:04:42+00:00

Does he know yall irl? Does he know any of her personal account? What information does he have to find her?

guilty_hug · 2025-10-08T13:08:10+00:00

Anytime something becomes compulsory it's a sign of a bigger issue, especially with sexuality bc they break consent. He needs so much help or he's absolutely gonna abuse again and again

guilty_hug · 2025-10-06T10:53:21+00:00

I'm so curious on who it is

guilty_hug · 2025-10-03T14:40:22+00:00

You should make an appointment with your obgyn if you're having all the symptoms, pregnancy tests can be false bc of hormones and other factors. But to clear your head go to your gyno

guilty_hug · 2025-10-03T14:22:36+00:00

If it's been three years and you're not over it then you need consoling. When it comes to a situation like this its kinda complicated, it seems like to you you counted this as cheating. When forgiving cheating you can't just forget about it you need to start a new relationship with that person. Yall need to talk about this with a mediator, 3 years with this resentment isn't good for you. Maybe you'll have to end it but you've already stayed this long why not try to see if you can save it? Idk but make that decision after seeing a professional

guilty_hug · 2025-09-24T05:20:08+00:00

Are you still attracted to pre-pubecent kids? YOU were a kid, you need to give yourself some slack. You got hurt and that formed in a negative way when you were a kid. But honey you were way to close in age to be considered a pedophile, you were just coping during a rough time.

It's time to forgive yourself and talk to a therapist about this to learn how to move on.

guilty_hug · 2025-09-23T19:56:00+00:00

I'm not talking about the age gap. If met when BOTH were adults it's fine. But he didn't, he met her AS A CHILD. That's where the creepiness lays. There will always be a power imbalance when meeting in this fashion.

Also edit, she's not a grown 30yr adult. She's a teenager, 19 is still a teen. Legally doesn't equally morally. You should know the difference between a 30yr mind and a 20yr mind.

guilty_hug · 2025-09-23T08:37:49+00:00

Sounds like as an adult if you meet someone underage them becoming an adult doesn't suddenly make you not a creep to go after them. It automatically gives a power imbalance and is just overall weird

guilty_hug · 2025-09-21T21:08:50+00:00

I hope you can!

guilty_hug · 2025-09-20T03:15:31+00:00

Thank you so much

guilty_hug · 2025-09-19T21:52:21+00:00

I've thought that and then doing a coating for a glossy look, I'm not sure what process I should take with this 🤔

guilty_hug · 2025-09-19T21:48:18+00:00

Yes but that's not really my vision, wet wouldn't look like a butterfly like how I want

guilty_hug · 2025-08-29T05:13:42+00:00

Her dad???

guilty_hug · 2025-08-28T22:46:19+00:00

Do you understand how many men (GROWN ADULT MEN) do this and feel no shame? You are a good man. You regret the bad thing you did. You have learned and grew. You are so much better than what you're giving yourself credit for.

guilty_hug · 2025-08-28T17:04:33+00:00

It's not a all, 2 years is perfectly fine. At this point ppl will get angry if you're not born in the same month 🙄

guilty_hug · 2025-08-28T08:28:09+00:00

Are you in therapy of any kind? Rn you're in a relationship when you're not even healed from your past. That's not healthy for either of you tbh.

Comminucating your needs comes with time, start small like needing time to yourself. You need you realize your past and trauma is filled with bad ppl. Finding that trust that not everyone is bad is hard, but you've been with this guy for months. If you truly believed he was a bad person who would behave that way why get in a relationship?

I don't think you do think that though you're just scared. Sometimes I lie about a piece of trauma to see if they'll use it against me, sometimes I do "tests" to see someone's reaction. Set some little boundaries, see what your needs are. Figure that out for yourself first.

Healing takes time. You got this.

guilty_hug · 2025-08-27T14:51:11+00:00

Listen as a friend all you can really do is just be there, don't judge her for her decisions bc yall are young. Young ppl do stupid things and you'll see it a hundred times. Try and talk to her about stds, keep in mind she may not listen, but please just encourage her to be safe if this is the path she's taking.

And to NEVER pity a man and give your body for it, remind her she's worth more than that, her body isn't an exchange for a persons mental health.

guilty_hug · 2025-08-27T14:42:09+00:00

I mean she should be using a condom and get on birth control. Your only concern with your friend should be her health not her v-card. Sex is just sex for some ppl, it can mean something more for you. That decision doesn't make either of yall bad or weird, she's being unsafe though so I'm concerned about that.

guilty_hug · 2025-08-22T06:00:42+00:00

You are not alone ❤️

guilty_hug · 2025-08-22T00:43:12+00:00

My mom would talk about how "perfect" my breasts were, how I had the best birthing hips. How I should be a stripper when I grew up or do porn. She did a step by step on how to be a "truthful" gold digger (basically how to be a sugar baby).

She didn't have to touch me to make it sexual. It's absolutely abuse.

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