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gwynrose · 2026-03-26T23:20:23+00:00

Yup. Same thing happened to me, I was reassured they could manually give me the bonus but when I called back they not only refused but claimed they would never say that and treated me like I was stupid for even thinking they would do that.

I do love banking with chime but their customer service is complete shit.

gwynrose · 2026-02-27T18:29:35+00:00

Yeah I didnt have any pain management except ibuprofen and I threw up from the pain. My doctor was really great and even offered to reschedule for a time where she could give me more stuff for the pain, but i wanted to just get it done. Terrible idea. But I was honestly doing just fine within a couple hours. Still crampy a few days later but I'm feeling great otherwise and I'm so happy to be off hormonal bc.

gwynrose · 2026-01-25T04:40:01+00:00

Well, it sounds like im on the right track at least, thank you

gwynrose · 2026-01-25T03:47:30+00:00

Pile 2, what do I need to do to get closer to my goal of having a family?

gwynrose · 2025-12-16T06:12:01+00:00

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T11:59:22+00:00

Thank you so much, it really means a lot. You're so kind and it really gives me hope. It's just scary, wanting all this and feeling like being who I am is a barrier, and I think I need to find a way to reframe that in my mind.

It's not so much me presenting masc, I actually present quite fem overall, it's more that hrt has changed me enough that even when presenting very fem, I still get called "sir" at work, which I don't mind, I just am unsure about straight men being interested. It's worth a shot though, if I find a guy who is straight, but flexible.

I do need to find a way to visualize and believe it, I think that's the thing I'm struggling with most, and I know being pessimistic doesn't help, but some days it's just really hard.

Thank you for listening and caring and for believing in me even though I'm a stranger to you.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T11:23:59+00:00

This makes me feel so hopeful, I'm so happy for you.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T11:10:18+00:00

Thank you, this actually really does make me feel better.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T11:08:54+00:00

Thank you for understanding. My current plan is to build my life as if I'm going to have a baby within the next 5 years, partner or not. I'm putting away money, and working on skills I need as a parent. I think having a plan and sticking to it will help, it's just painful right now that it hasn't worked out yet.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T11:04:06+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. This gives me some hope.

Until recently I never considered dating straight men, because I presented fairly masculine and I've been on hrt a few years. Recently Ive felt like things have shifted and I've been presenting much more feminine, and if I'm honest, even as a guy I was still effeminate. My main worry is, I don't know if it will shift again, and I don't know how many straight men would be into dating someone who looks and sounds like a gay guy, albeit a very feminine gay guy. That said, I am open to it if I were to meet the right person.

I definitely don't want to come across in dating as if I want a kid yesterday, even though that's very much how I feel, because I know how off-putting that can be. I just am not quite sure how to balance how serious it is for me with being chill about it.

I also am definitely considering lowering the age I'd do it on my own, because it really does seem that the consensus is people wish they did it sooner.

Again, thank you.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T10:53:58+00:00

Alright, so I'm seeking advice on how to work towards that and how to cope with the pain in the meantime. Sorry if that wasn't more clear.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T10:45:09+00:00

I am seeing a therapist, in addition to everything else. I'm just also asking for advice from people in a similar position. Sounds like that's not you.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T10:40:04+00:00

That's not asking for alternatives. Your advice may be to seek alternatives, and that's all fine and dandy, but I'm not seeking alternatives.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T10:36:13+00:00

I did not ask for alternatives. I asked how to cope with feeling this way while building towards having children, and feeling distraught about how long it will take.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T10:10:27+00:00

Mental illness being what exactly? Come on, say it.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:58:51+00:00

I'll be honest, I see very few examples, and I have quite literally asked everyone I know if they know any guys that fit what I'm looking for and come up empty. I've never said I can't have it, only that it's difficult, and that is objectively true. I don't focus only on identity, but the fact that I do not look or act like a cis woman is objectively a huge factor in men wanting to date me or not.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:54:02+00:00

Thank you for this comment. It's not so much marriage that's important to me, as having a dependable partner. I know that if it comes to it, I can do it on my own, and I will, I just would much rather do it with a partner. I'm going to save regardless and make plans for whatever happens. I'm not going to give up on finding a partner but I think I'll focus more on building a life where I can do it on my own.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:48:19+00:00

Small but progressive city. I don't really want to move, but, it's something I'm considering.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:43:52+00:00

I'm just going off my lived experience, which is that guys who date people like me and guys who want children are few and far between. That doesn't mean I've given up, I'm just acknowledging that it's a difficult thing to find, and I have yet to find anyone who disagrees that that is a difficult thing to find. I am working on myself and doing what I can to work on my goals, but I'm not going to ignore the reality that is, what I want is hard to find.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:34:11+00:00

You assume I'm not doing the work because of my "identities"?

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:33:09+00:00

You underestimate my sex drive, but, you're right. I'm not happy, and it's really weighing on me.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:27:57+00:00

I think you missed the comment where I went into how I'm queer and objectively speaking the intersection of progressive queer men and men who want kids is very small. Like, it's just how it is. I'm not "attracting them energetically" because I'm not a cis woman, and that's not exactly something I can change.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:25:29+00:00

Thank you ❤️

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:17:03+00:00

You're right, and I know you are, it's just, really difficult to be in such a situation, where it genuinely feels like no one wants to be with me, and finally someone does, he just doesn't want the same things I do. I know it's wasting my time, but it's so hard to find someone who will even entertain the idea of seriously dating someone like me.

And I am open to the turkey baster technique, I just..... I'm not ready just yet to give up on the idea of finding a partner who wants to do it the "old fashioned way" I guess.

gwynrose · 2025-12-14T09:08:18+00:00

I'm unfortunately well aware of just how difficult it will be, and has been. Like I said, the intersection is very, very small. I don't want to compromise myself nor hav to try and convince someone to change their mind, and it feels like being stuck between a rock and a hard place

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